• i don't safe enough to invest myself
  • i don't want to be hurt
  • i think it's coming from an unsafe place
  • i want them to work harder for me
  • i wanted someone better
  • i'm scared
  • i'm scared of my own need for love and connection
  • i'm terrified of trusting them
  • my femininity isn't validated
  • some men aren't good enough for me (sorry!
  • to spare myself rejection
sep 22 2017 ∞
sep 22 2017 +
  • being physically picked up
  • being the provider
  • buying flowers
  • carrying heavy items
  • cuddling with me
  • holding doors open
  • intelligence in an area i don't know much about
  • paying for my hair retightening
  • paying for the check (even if i protest, i love this shit)
  • purchasing little gifts, like jewelry and special soaps
  • working with his hands
sep 17 2017 ∞
sep 17 2017 +
  • a certain lucus (julio cortazar)
  • a sportsman's sketches (ivan turganov)
  • annie john (jamaica kincaid)
  • cosmicomics (italo calvino)
  • friendship village (zona gale)
  • house on mango street (sandra cisneros)
  • love medicine (louise erdrich)
  • olinger stories (john updike)
  • pictures of fidelman (bernard malamud)
  • the golden apples (eudora welty)
  • the women of brewster place (gloria naylor)
  • winesburg, ohio (sherwood anderson)
sep 16 2017 ∞
sep 16 2017 +
  • i dislike girly activities
  • i don't like wearing makeup for various reasons
  • i don't want to run around wearing short skirts and dresses
  • i feel glad that i don't have a man in my life
  • i hate shaving
  • i have no desire to be a stripper
  • i value my independence and my friends
  • motherhood isn't high priority (if i were to have children, i might have one or two)
  • my sexuality isn't tied to male pleasure
sep 22 2017 ∞
sep 22 2017 +
  • i know very little about our family history
  • it's often destructive
  • we go on different paths
  • we live in different parts of the states
  • we often lack empathy for each other
  • we place romantic love over familial love
  • we shut each other out and then ask people to be with them
  • we want the benefits of family without the struggle
  • we're financially illiterate
sep 21 2017 ∞
sep 21 2017 +
  • black gender wars on youtube
  • house dates ('nuff said)
  • inviting me out and then forcing me to pick up the check
  • keeping tabs on who opens doors for whom
  • mgtow
  • outright saying women are only god for sex, but then getting mad when i don't want to sleep with them
  • refusing to do outside dates
  • taking me to unromantic places
  • the only way they'll talk is fwb, then add 'you should respect my honesty'
sep 17 2017 ∞
sep 17 2017 +
  • getting admitted to a master's program
  • getting my degree
  • learning to swing dance
  • my sisterlocks
  • nabbing an internship
  • traveling abroad
  • vona!
  • writing my novel
sep 22 2017 ∞
sep 22 2017 +
  • bohemian
  • i embrace loneliness
  • i strive to be different
  • i'm a hard worker
  • i'm a little bit hard at getting criticism
  • i'm ambitious
  • i'm brave
  • i'm nice
  • i'm secretive
  • i'm sneaky
  • kind
sep 21 2017 ∞
sep 21 2017 +
  • checking into hostels
  • going to bars in new areas
  • immigration visits
  • museums
  • new food
  • noisy streets
  • planes descending
  • sleeping in new beds
  • talking to people for the first time
  • transportation
sep 20 2017 ∞
sep 20 2017 +