• uncover self-deception.
• connect w/ the genuine self.
• discover inner value.
• practice consistent meditation.
• allow yourself to sit w/ your genuine light.
• make peace with the ego.
  • “i have freed myself from the need for external validation, from the sense of lack and the constant need for attention. i feel more at ease, less insecure, and less controlling of myself. vanity is giving way to dignity, self-respect, and responsibility for myself. outwardly, it might look like i'm doing the same things, but the internal motivation now stems from my deepest desires, not dictated by others or in the name of a self-image.”

how?

• recover body consciousness (conscious breathing, dance, movement.)
• breaking the false, perfect image (unravel, fall apart, the feeling of fear must be real. embrace chaos, uncertainty, insecurity, frustration, anxiety, dissatisfaction, helplessness.)
• acknowledge the shadow. (fear, aggression, envy, jealousy, competitiveness, manipulation.)
• letting go of fantasies (putting others & the self on a pedestal.)
• halting the constant doing (stop assuming other's needs; acknowledge other's individuality and independence.)
• solitude & isolation.

consequences!

• genuine self-expression (embrace own value, give the self permission to make mistakes and become more human.)
• relinquish control (trust in self and others, go with the flow, be present.)
• sense of humour.
• taking back their power (hold the self accountable, leaving codependent relationships, confronting the compulsive attempts to manipulate through victimization and complaining.)
• understanding limits (respecting own limits, renouncing manipulative complacency.)
• awareness.
• humility, generosity (recognize arrogance, self-importance, renouncing the desire to be special, and accepting the self as just one among many.)
• compassion and self-compassion (self-unconditional-love.)
• allowing natural instincts to flow (acknowledging the inner child's needs, desires, and innocence.)
• finding meaning in life (reconnect with oneself.)