• You're independent of the good or bad opinion of others.
    • Be patient with yourself. You're so young, you have so much to do yet, so it's okay to not understand things immediately.
    • You're not perfect. And that's okay.
    • Your anxiety is lying to you. You are NOT your anxiety.
    • You don't need to rush your life. One thing at time.

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    • Stop thinking you’re not ready. Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
    • Stop being scared to make a mistake. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
    • Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.
    • Stop trying to hold onto the past. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
    • Stop basing new relationships on old relationships. So your old ones didn't work. So what? Don't damn your current or future relationship because a past one was problematic.

source: x and x

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You what you should be doing to yourself?

    • Start spending time with the right people These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
    • Start making your own happiness a priority. Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.
    • Start being more polite to yourself. If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?
    • Start being more open about how you feel. If you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary space and time to hurt, but be open about it. Talk to those closest to you. Tell them the truth about how you feel. Let them listen.
    • Start concentrating on the things you can control. You can’t change everything, but you can always change something.

source: x

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If you know you should be doing it, but you’re not then that’s a different story. I can’t come over there and knock on your door to make sure you start. Nor can I constantly be looking over your shoulder to make sure you’re not on Facebook again or looking at pictures of cute dogs. Your parents aren’t going to tell you either. I bet you’d rather NOT have your parents tell you what to do anymore. You’re an adult now and it’s time to grow up and make your own decisions. Your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife/partner is there to support you (I hope), but they’re not going to be able to do it for you. If you want to get into shape, they can’t do your pushups for you.

The person that is going to be responsible for everything you want to create in your life is that face you see in the mirror every single day. It’s that good looking face you see. It’s the one who had big hopes and dreams, but got lost after years of self-doubt and trying to making others happy. The one with so much potential waiting to be unleashed. When you need to be reminded who’s gonna save your life, look at yourself in the mirror. Nobody else will so stop looking around.

No amount of reading, thinking, hoping, and praying is going to help you. It’s more about doing, failing, adjusting, believing, and doing again.

source: x

aug 15 2016 ∞
dec 31 2018 +
user picture Michelle: This is such a lovely, and helpful list. Thank you for making it. :-) dec 31 2016
user picture Lawlie: Isn't it? It helped me so much when I needed! I'm glad you like it ♥