- the older I get, the more I value individuals showing up with predictability in my connections. because with predictability comes consistency, and with consistency there is reciprocity
- redefining and reworking how you approach relationships of all kinds is a part of the growth and healing process. embrace it. envision what healthy loving looks like. the love for your self. the love for your friends. the love for your partners. the love for your community.
- let people do what they do, and behave how they behave. take notes and decide if that behavior is something you want to deal with in your life. most people’s actions don’t have anything do with you and more to do with their own internal struggles which are projected onto others.
- is it a bit scary being transparent about your needs in a connection? yes. will people leave if you’re vocal about them? some might. but remember, its not a loss if people do leave as a result of you speaking up: their lack of consideration is a sign they were never meant for you
- forming deep friendships with people who are patient, emotionally available and vocal with their appreciation for you is important, because it sets a great standard to hold our romantic / other non-platonic bonds to. surround yourself with friends who uplift you, as they set the standard for how you deserve to be treated in all relationships.
- connections become easier to navigate when we realise and accept we will sometimes hurt other people unintentionally. just because the intention to hurt wasn’t there, it does not mean it didn’t cause harm. this mindset makes conflict resolution more seamless/strengthens bonds
- Intimacy is terrifying, actually. You could be rejected at such a deep and personal level. To perform feats of intimacy, you need either extra safety (e.g. highly secure attachment, real community) or extra resilience (equanimity, relationship with god, realizing emptiness).
- there's a stark difference between giving people grace and knowing when someone just doesn't have the capacity to be/do better
- idk if this makes sense, but i have such great friends that being in connection with them reminds me of everything I deserve. knowing the type of connections I have with them, I know that the same level of care and value can and should exist in any romantic connection as well.
- someone who is serious about growing/nurturing a bond is transparent about how they feel and will have the consideration to explain why they behave the way they do. and if they aren’t sure why or are struggling to, they’ll let us know that. the key is to keep each other informed
- someone taking the time to explain how they are feeling hurt as a result of our actions means they value our presence in their life. they’re giving us a chance to show up in a way that is comfortable for both parties. when people stop explaining to us how they feel, they’ll exit.
- the people I’ve met who are the most secure in themselves are the least judgmental. they never judge or pick others apart unless someone is harmful/bigoted. the people I’ve come across who are quick to judge and pick apart others do it to distract from their own deep insecurities. they’re so afraid of judgement themselves that they dish it out to others at every opportunity they can to remove any spotlight on their own perceived failures. also to break it down: being opinionated and judgmental are two entirely different things. opinionated = sharing personal perspective on topics, isn’t usually to pick people apart. judgmental = overly criticizing something, usually to pick people apart.
- Surround yourself with those who fill you with energy, the ones where time stands still when you're together, people who care enough to be honest with you, individuals you resonate with on a soul level — the right people will fill your heart & life with love in abundance.
- Share more compliments, tell others what you admire about them, praise people’s positive efforts, ask more questions in conversations, actively listen to what people are saying, make eye contact and be grounded in the present moment — simple ways to maximize tour relationships.
- You need to be actively telling people how much they mean to you, speaking loving into those you cherish, acknowledging people’s growth & making sure those you love know that you appreciate them in abundance — nurture your relationships.
- A honest and direct communication that comes from a place of trust, love and knowing they have my best interests at heart — a select few who embody this, the ones to always be cherished and adored.
- Share compliments, make eye contact, introduce yourself to others, be genuinely interested, find common ground, ask lots of questions, actively listen in conversation, look for common ground, notice the s details, be aware of body language — socializing & connecting.
- Check in on those you love, tell them how much they mean to you, send handwritten letters, have regular family dinners, gift with intention and consideration, cook meals for those you adore, listen with a compassionate heart — nourish those that matter most to you.
- You maximize your conversations and relationships with presence and active listening because being truly heard is such a rarity that to experience it makes the world of a difference — listen to learn & maximize love.
- Stay mindful of how you feel after interacting with certain individuals — minimize time with those that have you feeling depleted and on guard; maximize your experiences with those that leave you feeling joyous and full of appreciation.
- You never need an excuse to send flowers, a hand written letter or a quick check in message to let your loved ones know how much they mean to you — take the lead in showing and sharing your love with those you cherish.
- Send thank you notes, practice good posture, speak with intention, listen without interrupting, show compassion always, practice quality over quantity, cultivate your style, expand your vocabulary, make eye contact, share compliments, smile often, feel and process your emotions.
- Our relationships can be such a beautiful portal for growth teaching us so much about ourselves, others and the world around us, alongside the soul nourishing feelings that come from helping, nourishing and supporting those we love — cultivate and cherish your community.
- Choose your company wisely, stay mindful of those you surround yourself with, realize that not everyone will be with you on every step of your journey, not everyone should have access to you — stay selective and mindful of those you cultivate relationships with.
- Surround yourself with the soul nourishers and heart flourishers — those who feel like home, the ones you know you can rely on, that tell you the truth with love and always wish the best for you deep within their hearts.
- Being trusted confidants, helping one another evolve, supporting successes and wins, celebrating key moments together, being honest with compassion and building a community of like minded people — growth focused relationships.
- You should endeavor to never leave a conversation with a loved one on a sour note; aim to find a solution and meet a common ground, to prioritize the love you share and let them know of that in every instance — nurture your relationships in every encounter you share.
- A key part of maturing is realizing you do not want to be friends with everyone, that you are better placed to have quality relationships that are high caliber mentally, spiritually and emotionally — who you surround yourself with matters.
- If you’re not feeling the vibes, trust that feeling and lean into your intuition; not to avoid but to ground and recalibrate, to be aware of your energy and get back into alignment then take the next step — trust the vibes and stay mindful of your energy.
- Give more compliments, stay honest with compassion, celebrate the wins of others, smile more often, look for the good in life, embody the energy you appreciate in others, be the type of person you look up to, stay grounded in your higher self by embracing their innate qualities.
- If you want friends that you can confide in, who check in on you, that celebrate you, who love and respect you, that you can trust — then you need to be that friend to others and yourself first; as you are you attract accordingly.
- A real friend will hold you accountable, they’ll be compassionate but honest, telling you what you need to hear because they want the best for you, someone you can confide in, who loves to see you win and will be there through the lessons — type to be and surround yourself with.
- Your intuition isn’t obnoxiously telling you what to do, that’s fear trying to force you — intuition is a gentle calming insight guiding you if you choose to follow it. More you trust it, the clearer it’s suggestions become.
- If you appreciate someone’s outfit, like their scent, enjoy the time you spent with them, are intrigued by their insight or mesmerized by their talent — tell them. Be abundant in your sharing of compliments, they can make the world of a difference.
- An important lesson to remember is that the right people are good for your wellbeing — they nourish your soul, fill your heart with love, infuse magic into your life and give you a sense of calm that can only be experienced from pure adoration and love.
- An essential element of maturing is realizing that unnecessary drama and rumination is beneath you and to engage with it would be to lower your own energetic standards — stay selective with where you invest your attention & keep your standards high. Of course, we’re human and we’re all prone to slipping up at times (lord knows I have) so it’s not about judging yourself and/or others but learning from mistakes and endeavoring to do better next time. Also, reflection is imperative and immensely useful — and regularly doing so can teach you so much about yourself and why certain things trigger or upset you and how to move past such things to evolve.
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