• Strong (Similar...or better) values.
  • Integrity.
  • Selflessness.
  • Sense of responsibility.
  • Compassion--but also strength.
  • Stands up for what's right--doesn't cower in the face of injustice.
  • Strives to improve him/herself; always tries to be better & do his/her best.
  • Values & respects family & you.
• Will stand up for and defend loved ones, even when they aren't around.
• Respectful.
• Kind, compassionate.
• Able to communicate, speaks his/her mind, doesn't feed the mean dog in his/her heart with secret grievances.
• Intelligent (for a spouse, although not necessarily a friend).
• Good sense of humor.
• Loyal.
• Truthful, sincere, unafraid of honesty.
• Quirky, unique, unexpected, one of a kind.
• Dazzlingly hygienic.
• Values family & having a family over career.
• Always growing, always striving for personal growth.
• Be loyal to their loved ones, open-minded & respectful
• Be intelligent (or if you aren't intelligent--at least be entertaining; then you won't be the real deal sorta friend, but still an awesome buddy to chillax with)
• Use that intelligence to think freely and not be a slave to conformity & mindless trends (or, if you aren't intelligent, just drive a motorcycle, wear black or rainbow colors and other antiestablishment goodies)
• Being really attractive doesn't hurt...not, like, commercially attractive, but glowing with some inspirational ghost of a muse. With eyes as bottomless as the ocean? The piercing predatory stare of a raptor alight on the dawn? The kind of eyes that you can fall into for hours? You can really glimpse a soul through its windows, so there's that--most of all.
• Strive to improve themselves & keep growing in life...
• Cool with not talking & cool with talking, and cool with distance and cool with ridiculously intimate closeness. (For the real friends--not for the lightweights, the pals, the buddies)
• Loves me back.......'cause if they don't, I'll wallow in despair.
• Boldly keeps infated egos in line.
• Brave.
• Not an open book.
• Helpful to loved ones. Is the cornerstone of the family. The 'good' son/daughter.
• Worldly, experienced. Been there, done that. Has seen it all, or at least a lot of i--and has learned from experience.
• Has traveled the world.
• Well-read.
• Self-disciplined, self-restrained, self-contained.
• Hard-working.
• Even tempered, rarely angered.
• Has gone through the grind and earned his/her place in life.
• Thinks more than speaking. Thinks before speaking.
• Down to earth, practical. Full of common sense.
• Curious, but not without proper of respect for danger, tradition and mystery.
• Patient, relaxed, not in a hurry.
• Loves to learn.
• Does not need to impress anyone. Does not care what the world thinks. Wears no makeup, follows no trends, follows only what is exactly right in his/her soul.
• Hard to catch off guard.
• Has a stabilizing, calming influence. Slow and steady, a solid rock.
• Enjoys good food, music & movies.
• Enjoys coffee, late night cafes.
• Enjoys long AM drives.
• Relates well to instinct.
• Amusing.
• Has a farm, wears plaid flannel, denim and light wool coats. Lives in a green world with blue dusky mornings where the fog rolls in and rose bushes grow.
• Cares for the earth.
• Loves animals
• Speaks softly, carries a big stick that s/he could beat your ass with.
• Perceptive. Seems to read your thoughts. Seems to know you before you've even met.
• Aware of his/her own shortcomings and weaknesses.
• Laughs and smiles sincerely, unexpectedly.
• Although SERIOUS about life, loves to laugh, GREATLY appreciates comedy & humor. Endowed with contained goofiness and humor. Loves a good excuse to be much less reserved, serious and let go a little bit.
• Quietly full of love in abundance, and hidden reserves of gentle sensuality.
• Possessed of many unexpected talents & skills.
• Knows some sort of medicine, can mix herbs, can make charms, like a curandera or apothecary.
• Seems almost otherworldly, almost magical but not in a bad way. Has a quiet, constant power that is warm and gentle.
• Raised (or will raise) children well, and probably animals, plants, and probably has/will adopt other people's children, taken them underwing.
• Strong backbone. Knows where he stands. May be stubborn--but also strong willed. Not a pansy or a pushover.
• Self-respecting.
• Not afraid of a healthy debate, level-headed
• Will stand up for what s/he believes in.
• Will dance/sing/play/tell stories/give/create until s/he's dead.
• Understands what's most important in life.
• Will die laughing.

In a Lifelong Lovaa: 5 Gold Stars

• When we're together the world seems like a better place.
• Our moods are elevated when we're together. It's not necessarily passion or excitement, although that's there too at times.
• When we look at each other, we see a part of ourselves that's been missing. Perhaps it's her assertiveness or his joy of adventure. But it's something that when added to our lives, makes us feel more complete.
• Being together makes us more hopeful about the future we are creating.
• We have withstood both distance and time.
• We can be more authentic and fully yourself around each other.
• Being together makes each of us work harder on overcoming bad habits and becoming more loving people.
• Intelligence & intelligent behavior.
  • A simple no-nonsense approach to life is good, but so can a little nonsense be enjoyable, just the same.
  • If lacking in these qualities, gestures of flamboyant romance are in high demand for compensation.
• A practical, reliable nature.
• Dependability and loyalty. Steady devotion.
• good long conversations (into the night) (every now and then)
• intelligent, academic, pursues & shares new knowledge & firsthand experiences. Curious, openminded. Always seeking to learn and explore.
  • truly open to hearing my opinions on things, and debating topics objectively, so that I am not forced to compromise admission of my views in polite conversation, nor to subvert to frivolous cooperation--beneath me, and a waste of my acumen. No need to mince words with him, only freely express what I think and feel and hear the honest truth back about it. No more acting. No more smokescreens, no more false personas of this or that to please and play a part for one man or another.
• primally ravaging ahaha
• physically affectionate
• affectionate in general, actually--but I don't need a lot of words.
• shared goals & ambitions.
  • work ethic & stamina to achieve those goals.
• enjoys long walks...wherever.
• enjoys & encourages travel.
• Friendship. Just platonic friendship for quite some time. If we can manage that for awhile, say a year or more, then romance might be considerable so that we can be sure that, even if the wilderness of our hearts is calmer down the road, we can still
• accepts me as I am, without trying to change me.
  • also accepts that I am bossy as hell, independent and headstrong, and knows how to effectively work with/compromise around that.
  • appreciates rather than feeling threatened by my independence.
  • appreciates rather than feeling threatened by & criticizing my desire to improve things and continuously grow in life.
• musical
• artistic
  • preferably enjoys working on art & listening to music with me simultaneously.
• okay with not talking--saves up words to say worthwhile things.
• strives to improve himself constantly in life.
• enjoys watching movies, but also likes to be productive
• clean(er than me, haha--okay, that is so not fair--but at least AS clean as me.)
• good taste in music.
• good taste in movies.
• Confident enough in his masculinity not to go sauntering about cursing, drinking, being rude to strangers and prowling around a big red vehicle with a loud engine trying to prove it.
• hygienic
• cares for his health.
• takes pride in his appearance.
• interested in self-improvement & improvement of other things
• handles conflict head on, and works calmly and rationally to resolve it.
• savvy with money & funds--able to save for things, long term, and also to create & build upon a rainy day fund.
  • Not the sort of person to live day to day, paycheck to paycheck, never accumulating anything at all.
• is a gentleman.
• is respectful of me, of women, of my family, and of people in general.
• has a good sense of humor, but also a (decent) sense of propriety & occasion in which to exhibit such humor (OK, that might be asking a bit much).
• skilled in math and/or science. Calculus a turn-on more than a mandate.
• Doesn't believe everything he hears in the news or sees on TV. An independent thinker.
• takes our relationship and commitment seriously.
• Word breakdown? Determined, Loving, Patient, Protective, Imaginative, Faithful, A little bit odd, Intelligent, Reliable, Trustworthy, Humorous, Ambitious, Considerate, Patient, Honest.
  • If he had all the rest, I think I could deal with it on a day to day basis and not demand much more.

We gotta be able to...

• Respect (and not ridicule) each other, even when we have opposing viewpoints
• Be similar in intelligence, flexibility of attitudes, social responsibility, and education levels.
• Work on art together--share a mutual passion, as well as individual hobbies/interests for personal space & contributing new things to the relationship
• Enjoy/create music together
• Enjoy wilderness, nature & beauty together
• Work together toward a common lifelong goal/shared passion
• Talk about anything with each other
• Laugh a lot, but also be serious when necessary
• Both be committed 100% & all about our marriage & recognize that failure is not an option.
• Share similar spiritual views & pray together (in whatever form that may take)
• Have lots of kids & give them awesome names
• Have lots of animals
  • A farm and/or
  • A wildlife rehabilitation clinic and/or
  • A wildlife sanctuary

In any kinda anything: Aw Hell No

• Passivity, lack of passion. Apathy...blind acceptance.
• Bad with money--if he's a little less frugal, that's okay, but he can't be a materialistic fool.
• Wandering eyes. I's jealous as hell.
• Superficiality--doesn't 'get' it.
• Lack of imagination.
• Regular insult, abuse, belittling, patronization. (And not being kind of a creep just every once in awhile when he's in a funk)