• Connection to Others
  • Family:
    • Spend time with my family.
    • Meet up with my family together and individually once I've moved out.
    • Help my family out when they need me.
    • Fall in love.
    • Lay the foundations to start my own family someday (have a successful relationship, buy my own home, be able to support myself and future girlfriend financially).
  • Social:
    • Invest time in developing my social life.
    • Take part in more social activities e.g. bouldering, yoga.
    • Socialise at least three times a week.
    • Develop deeper connections with people.
    • Foster friendships - find people who want to go out for coffee sometimes or go for a walk or something.
  • Global:
    • Experience different cultures and ways of life through travel.
    • Go to places with very different lifestyles and learn from them.
    • Meet local people in the places I go and listen to their stories.

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• Connection to the Natural World
  • Spend time in nature:
    • Be outside more.
    • Go on walks at least once a week.
    • Wander off the track.
    • Climb on things.
    • Learn more about the things I see around me.
    • Eat blackberries off the hedgerows.
    • Spend more time doing outdoor activities e.g. paddleboarding
    • Engage in meaningful escapism.
  • Be a conscious consumer:
    • Buy what I need.
    • Be aware of the environment in my daily life.
    • Reuse and re-purpose things instead of buying new.
    • Commit to vegetarianism.
    • Leave as little an impact on the physical world as I can.
  • See as much of the world as possible:
    • Dedicate some time and money to travel every year.
    • See different parts of the UK.
    • Travel to all 6 continents at some point (Asia, Australia + South America to go).
    • Experience different ecosystems and natural phenomena.
    • Climb more mountains.

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• Creative Productivity
  • Create my own business:
    • Work on building my own brand, CayLex.
    • Be confident in putting it out into the world.
    • Try out different possibilities (different proofreading options and potentially other directions I could take it in, my long-term dream is to move into floristry, so...).
    • Continue to develop it going forward, hopefully turning it into something bigger.
    • Use my business as a source of income.
  • Explore creative outlets of music and writing:
    • Learn to play music e.g. guitar.
    • Sing in a choir.
    • Go to live music events.
    • Explore different types of music.
    • Read more experimental fiction, for inspiration.
    • Read more regular fiction, just for fun.
    • Get into the habit of writing more often in my free time.
    • Work on my current fiction project, Good Influences.
  • Use DANI method to turn my creative outlets into something productive:
    • Use DANI (Dream > Adventure > Navigate > Invent).
    • Turn my ideas into something physical.
    • Gain confidence in sharing my ideas/creations with others.
    • Write at least one book from beginning to end.
    • Learn to play the songs I've written.

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• Freedom of Expression
  • Embrace neurodivergence & Existential Ever (aka live and let live):
    • Existential Ever philosophy is partially based on the principle that "Existence is all-encompassing, Truth is what you choose to believe, and Reality is a science unfathomable to humanity".
    • Be confident in what I believe and comfortable with what I cannot know.
    • Allow others to experience life however they want to, where their behaviour is not harmful to others.
    • Live my own truth, being myself and living by my own values, regardless of what others think.
    • Allow myself to be sensory seeking, hyperactive and lost in daydreams (when safe and appropriate to do so).
    • Meet myself where I am, rather than holding myself to others' standards.
  • Learn to be more comfortable in expressing myself:
    • Talk to more people.
    • Work on expressing my ideas in different settings e.g. at work, socially etc.
    • Develop confidence in sharing my opinion and engaging in different conversations.
    • Worry less about how people might perceive me and my ideas.

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• Freedom to Explore
  • Continue to love learning and discovering:
    • Engage with interesting materials (articles, books, podcasts).
    • Try to learn something new every day.
    • Spend more time learning about topics of interest.
    • Explore the world around me.
    • Learn through the activities I do at work.
    • Carry out additional research around work-related things e.g. project management, architecture, structural engineering, property development etc.
    • Use travel as a means of learning about the world.
    • Study more ancient history and learn more about how things work.
    • Learn to cook and bake.
    • Learn to climb more challenging walls.
  • Have new experiences:
    • Go to new places often, even if they're not that far away.
    • Take off at weekends.
    • Try new things.
    • Say 'yes' to interesting opportunities.
    • Attend classes and conferences.
    • Be open minded about different activities and ideas.

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• Joy-Seeking
  • Love as many things as possible:
    • Love/enjoy as many things as possible.
    • Experience those things as often as possible.
    • Engage in comfort activities in order to wind down.
    • Rewatch episodes of shit TV shows that make me happy.
    • Stand barefoot in the grass.
    • Listen to lots of good music.
    • Play with cats.
    • Have fun.
    • Inspired by the Jane Austen quote: "But now you love a hyacinth. So much the better. You have gained a new source of enjoyment, and it is well to have as many holds upon happiness as possible".

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• Pacifism
  • Live peacefully:
    • Find courage in peace.
    • Be respectful and kind to others.
    • Treat all living things as I would like to be treated.
    • Distance myself from negative topics and opinions.
    • Learn to respectfully disagree with unpleasant opinions instead of becoming angry or upset by them (i.e. don't allow them to push me towards self-destructive thoughts and behaviours).

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• Personal Growth
  • Increase self confidence:
    • Work on developing my self confidence.
    • Find strategies for becoming more confident socially and professionally.
    • Develop my confidence in my ability to be productive and responsible at work.
    • Use this to develop my career and in promoting my own business.
    • Get to know more people who I feel confident around.
    • Put myself out there into more social (and hopefully someday romantic) situations.
  • Work on my attachment style:
    • Work on my relations with people.
    • Don't allow daydreams to take the place of social interaction.
    • Actually contact people instead of thinking about them.
    • Don't worry too much about how people will perceive my actions and words.
    • Get into the habit of texting/emailing people back as soon as possible.
  • Increase self knowledge:
    • Continue working on knowing and understanding myself.
    • Use tools to understand how I'm feeling and what I'm capable of at different times e.g. my presentation zones, measuring my energy and emotional levels.
    • Use yoga to help clear my mind and allow me to be present in the moment.
    • Talk to people to gain different perspectives and help me work through different ideas.

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• Personal Security
  • Financial security:
    • Keep track of my incomings and outgoings, preventing the latter from exceeding the former.
    • Be able to afford my needs and wants.
    • Invest in my future (saving for a house, future business/family, pension).
    • Increase my earnings.
    • Budget for things I want to have (car, phone) and experience (travel, concerts).
  • Feel safe:
    • Cultivate an environment in which I feel safe to be myself.
    • Cut out things in life which do not make me feel safe.
    • Have a place of my own and enough money to maintain it.

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• Positive Health
  • Fitness:
    • Be active every day.
    • Spend more time doing adventurous activities e.g. climbing, paddleboarding, maybe cycling.
    • Try running/free-running.
    • Do yoga at least four times a week.
    • Keep myself nourished with healthy food, cooking for myself as much as possible.
    • Drink more water.
    • Keep up with daily tasks and positive self-care habits e.g. washing myself, brushing teeth, skincare, laundry.
  • Physical Health:
    • Keep track of my physical health.
    • Know what's going on with my body.
    • Look after myself, particularly when I'm not feeling so good e.g. around my period or when I'm tired.
    • Take the pressure off when I need to.
  • Mental Health:
    • Keep track of my mental health cycles.
    • Use the values throughout this list to help maintain good mental health.
    • Understand why I feel the way I do.
    • Don't be afraid to talk about how I'm feeling in different situations.
    • Be comfortable setting boundaries, identifying and managing triggers, and putting strategies in place to help me when things are difficult.