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If I get married, that is!

  • Shoes. I plan on being barefooted.
  • A veil. I plan on being bareheaded. I find them very old-fashioned. Especially, when women cover their faces coming down the aisle and have their fiance lift it as if she's an object being unwrapped.
  • Expensive jewelry. I plan on having a pretty natural look and bodily canvas. I am not into overt and guady displays.
  • A pastor. I plan on a non-denominational wedding. There will be no mention of God in my wedding.
  • A church. See above. And also, I plan on an outdoor wedding.
  • A cheesy DJ. I plan on live musicians.
  • Multiple bridesmaids. Less people, less dresses, less money. Also, I don't have many close friends!
  • Traditional vows. I plan on writing my own.
  • Fancy invitations. I'll get away with email invites if I can.
  • Chocolate cake. I will have an angel food wedding cake. No ifs, ands or buts.
    • Also, said cake will not be white and multi-tiered. I wish that old-fashioned notion would go away. Be creative!
  • Gift registry. I don't want my guests to have to buy me things. It's supposed to be a celebration of love not commercialism.
  • A giant diamond ring. I plan on a simple band. Maybe with some kind of engraving on the inside.
  • A limousine. I think they'yre kind of tacky. I'll find a more unique way to arrive and depart. Perhaps horseback or in a cool 50's car.
  • A videographer. I think photography is a classier, classic way to preserve memories.
  • For my boyfriend to have to ask my father for permission to marry me. So old-fashioned. And it's kind of up to me, not my dad.
  • A first dance. We were already the center of attention at the ceremony. I just want everyone to have fun and dance when they please at the party.
  • A white dress. Or at least not a traditional, completely white gown. I'd like a pop of color and a unique shape and style to my dress.
  • The whole "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" thing. I don't know where that tradition came from but I'll pass. It doesn't seem to add anything to the day.
  • The stress. Nothing is or will ever be perfect so there's no need to dwell on every tiny aspect of a wedding. I think I'll be happiest if I let go of expectations and have fun in the moment. I've seen the show "Bridezillas" a few times and those women are pretty insane to me!
  • "Here Comes the Bride" playing as I walk down the aisle. Again, too traditional, too played-out. It doesn't mean anything to me. I'm not sure what song I want but it will be something unique of my choosing. Maybe Bach's Cello Suite No. 1?
oct 14 2008 ∞
sep 27 2010 +
user picture Reen: I also believe that spending a lot of money is not necessary in marking a memorable day in one`s life. :] Great list! oct 19 2008
user picture Bliss: yes, the memories are the things that will last, not all the bells and whistles! oct 20 2008
user picture jenz: i have two plans for my wedding, one of which involves a party trolley, a bounce house and a photobooth, and the other eloping to city hall. non-traditional is always best i think! especially if your wedding will be the talk of the town. oct 24 2008
user picture Bliss: bounce house all the way! that sounds awesome.
user picture Cattie Bree Skye: *Gasp!* I also plan to be barefoot for my wedding! I've never met anyone that shared that dream, lol. Most people just look at me funny when I tell them. Although, that might be because the rest of my dream wedding is sorta on the traditional side...lol. oct 27 2008
user picture Bliss: well if it's sorta on the traditional side, you'd most likely wear a long dress, right? so you're feet would be covered anyway! I want grass or sand beneath my feet.
user picture Cattie Bree Skye: Yes, I do want a long dress. I guess you're right; I wouldn't have to worry about it. Except tripping over it for lack of heels...lol. And grass or sand sounds lovely! But for me I think a hardwood floor is what I want. In a tiny chapel with lots of sunshine coming in through the windows. :) oct 30 2008
user picture Bliss: aww sounds lovely!
user picture Nina Zephyr: I agree with most of this. Granted I find someone who agrees with me on my views, I'll be barefoot and it'll be a non-religious ceremony outdoors. We'll depart on bikes. I want my music to be... jam band-ish? Like a few guitars, a bass, drums, and maybe... a trumpet or violin.. just jamming. No real popular type songs. I do however want to do the invitations. I'm a little too keen on stationary and paper to give up on invitations! I also want to wear a toga inspired dress, and how I want to make it is to pick out the fabric (more than likely linen or cotton) and go to my seamstress and have her make it haha. A plain dress. I hope my wedding ring is a band, if my fiance knows anything about me it'll be a band because I tend to knock the jewels out of rings! I'm a big reckless with jewelry hehe. to an above poster, the bounce house sounds AMAZING. mar 3 2009
user picture Lee: Consider a horse-drawn carriage as to whisk you to and from the wedding. My husband and i rented one for our wedding last year. It may have been the best part of the whole evening! sep 11 2009
user picture crayolaskiies: I'm going to make my dress out of thrifted t-shirts, pick my own music (Regina Spektor! Adam Lambert!) and unless I drastically change my mind I think the lyrics to the Beatles' "I Will" would be AWESOME vows to make in a nature preserve. On a side note, your lovely list and all its comments have just about made my day. Love it :) jan 6 2010