- You've got to tell your spouse you love them EVERY DAY, you can never assume someone knows how you feel.
- Put simply, my mother is not very forthcoming with her affection and I watched my dad come home from work every day and throw his arms around her, say "I love you" and try to kiss her. She then proceeded to push him away, neither returning his words nor his affection.
- Marriage is WORK. It's a second job.
- People seem to put forth the effort in the dating stage but as soon as they get married, they stop trying, assuming they already got the prize and that it won't go anywhere. Wrong.
- Love is constantly evolving.
- Just because you may not feel that intense, fiery passion you felt when you first began dating DOES NOT mean that the love is gone.
- You have to let the little things go or else you will constantly be nagging and bickering over petty issues.
- Again, I watched my mother nag my father every day when he went to his jiu jitsu classes after work. Jiu jitsu was his passion and stress release but she didn't care and told him he was too old for it and became cross every time he went. It made him happy, WHO CARES?
- Patience is key.
- Communication is also key.
- No one can ever know how you feel unless you tell them. And if you don't tell them, then issues will never get resolved.
- Nothing is guaranteed.
- You can give someone your all but if the other person doesn't reciprocate, your efforts don't matter.
- Don't postpone your dreams because you "have kids to raise" or some other equally lame excuse.
- My parents kept putting off their own happiness time after time until it was too late. How can they expect to raise happy and healthy children if they don't take steps to ensure their own health and happiness?
- When there is conflict between two people, it is rarely the entire fault of one person.
- My mother refused to take ANY blame 99% of the time for her problems with my father. You must look within yourself and work on fixing your own flaws, not the other persons.
- Don't make life-changing decisions unless both parties are completely in agreeance with how to go about them.
- My mother decided to take on two, emotionally-disturbed, volatile foster children without uniting with my father about how to raise them. It ended up causing countless arguments, stress and irreversible damage on their marriage that could have been prevented had they just formed a concrete plan, TOGETHER.
- You have to have quality alone time together, even if you have to plan it!
- Even if it's just for half an hour a day, you've got to make time in your busy schedule to be one on one with your significant other. Or else you lose touch and grown apart.
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