- Uh, cheating on me! Discovered evidence of MULTIPLE women
- He's a lying CPOS
- Control issues supremo (words and deeds)
- His fault-finding of me (to justify the cheating & commitmentphobia)
- Attempts to explore his comments and perceptions frequently turned against me as being "defensive", blaming, lawyerese & finger-pointing
- His saying I'm not listening (when all he does is focus on his own feelings) while also cutting me off from talking
- His bullying tactics
- My sunny personality vs. his depressive personality
- His not being able to drink (no trips to Napa)
- His "mommy/daddy" issues - probably unsolvable at age 58
- His inability to change his behavior, not simply identify its causes
- His "anxious attachment" style (but he thinks he rates as secure....LMAO)
- His numerous "isms"
- His interruptions during conversations (control issue)
- His judgments while claiming to be non-judgmental
- His chain smoking & other addiction traits (like sex with multiple partners)
- His sexual problems & treatments while being judgmental about mine
- His not being relaxed about ANYthing....drama, drama, drama!
- His sabotaging of the relationship out of fear or just plain lack of commitment (how many side relationships were there?)
- His ability to get thrown off track by little things
- His inability to pull himself out of a funk with no consideration for those around him
- His New Age/self-help proclivities (the Flow used to justify his behavior)
- His disdain for television
- His procrastination on major issues (divorce, Endymion)
- His lack of interest in politics/current events
- His lack of interest in reading fiction, newspapers
- His melt-downs triggered by minutae
- His equivocating about secrets and lies of omission
- Our mismatch in music tastes
- His bad spelling and writing
- His personal habits (snoring, toilet seat, oral hygiene)
- His lack of kitchen/cooking skills
- Having to fake orgasms with him
- His deflection of his problems back onto me as really being MY problems
jan 26 2011 ∞
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