what is bdsm.

• bdsm stands for bondage and discipline (b&d), dominance and submission (d&s), and sadism and masochism (s&m). the term itself appeared in 1969, but the different practices date back centuries.

bondage and discipline.

• bondage simply refers to physical restraint – rope or chain, but it can also be silk scarves and fuzzy, handcuffs. discipline can be described as mental restraint. one or both partners may live under specific rules and if those rules aren’t followed, punishment follows.

dominance and submission.

• in a d/s relationship, one partner is given control over the other. this is sometimes known as a power exchange. a common saying in d/s is that there is no domination without a willing submissive. a person who chooses to submit to their partner can withdraw their permission at any time.

sadism and masochism.

• a sadist finds sexual pleasure in the implentation of pain, while a masochist finds sexual pleasure in receiving pain. simple.