- Did you ever wonder what it would be like if you weren't you anymore? If you were suddenly gone, how would your world react? Whatever you imagined is wrong. There's nothing romantic about death. Grief is like the ocean. It's deep and dark and bigger than all of us. And pain is like in thief the night.
- He died, honey. He can't play anymore. And mommy and daddy are incredibly sad about it. So it's okay if you're sad, too. I know that he loved you very much, and I know that you're gonna miss him. And we're really gonna miss him, too.
- They say we leave this world Just the way we came into it naked and alone. So if we do leave with nothing, what then is the measure of a life? Is it defined by the people we choose to love? Or is life simply measured by our accomplishments? And what if we fail? or are never truly loved? What then? Can we ever measure up? Or will the quiet desperation of a life gone wanting drive us mad?
- Look at that boy. He's just jumping around having fun. I mean after everything he been through lately. He just keep going. Won't let nothing beat him down. That's a strong kid right there.
- Your cape kiddo is not stupid okay? When I was younger I had a poncho, that everybody else said was really ugly but I really liked it so I kept wearing it. And that's what you should do. If you like your cape you should just wear it whenever you want and ignore what everybody else says.
- Hey, Nate. Haley's holding her breath over slamball so you can chase your dream. Just let her know it's gonna be okay, all right?
- We all make different choices, and different things. I think eventually we learn to define happiness for ourselves on our own terms, in spite of the pain other people have caused to us, you know ?
- Look, I worked hard. And my dream started to come true again, and I started to believe that people just go through things, challenges that make them stronger. And then, you are gone. All right ? I showed up at the River Court, and you never came. And that was it, just like that. And I realized that...That we're not invincible. Dreams die.
- So what ? What you gonna do, Nate ? Sit here on this couch and watch ball on TV, afraid to live ? That's what you're gonna do ? That really pisses me off, Nate. You know why ? 'Cause you got a second chance, man. You did. I wish I did.
- You owe it to them. To be the very best version of yourself, man. The version where you fight for what you want. The version where you're not afraid to be great. You're better for them when you're living your dreams, man. And there is nothing...Nothing selfish about that.
- It made me realize I've wasted to much time being upset about the family I didn't have. I need to spend more time being thankful for the family I do have.
- Feels kind of good to let it go, doesn't it ?
- Let's promise never to be too scared to live our dreams.
- I'm getting tired of failing.
- Sometimes bad things happen to good people.
- It's okay. It's okay. It's over now.
- You're still young. We both are. I think we just forget that sometimes.
- It's hard when you miss people. But, you know, if you miss them, it means you were lucky. It means you had someone special in your life, someone worth missing.
- I know how hard this must be for you. So, if you need to cry, it's okay. / I'm not crying for me. I'm crying for you.
- I was just saying that sometimes our relationship seems so simple and easy. But no matter what, it just turns into a big mess. And there are days that I want to dive into that mess, but then, other days, I can't help but wonder if maybe we're just two people who don't work as a couple.
- Just in case you haven't figured this out yet, men need to be hit over the head with things. Sometimes frying pans. But mostly love. Don't be afraid to do it.
- I'm bored. / You can't be bored. You're 7. Do you have any idea how fun being 7 is?
- Guess who's babysitting you tonight? / Oh please don’t say Junk and Fergie.
- It must have been fun having a brother growing up. It's like having a best friend over all the time.
- It's good that the boys had each other on the island. It must have been pretty lonely and scary all alone. / Do you ever get lonely? / Yeah, sometimes.
- There was nothing I could do. One day, she just decided let me in. You can only do what you do, man.
- I was thinking about the finality of it all. How somebody can leave your world in the blink of an eye and be gone forever. It's...it's too enormous to think about. It's too hard. And then we're just supposed to go on, right? Like, just...Deal with it. I mean, really you're supposed to be sad for about as long as the flowers last, and then, oh, time to go back to telling jokes and reminiscing about the old days. I don't have any jokes to tell. As a matter of fact, I hope I never hear another joke as long as I live. And the old days are just... that. They're old days that are... gone.
- I have to tell myself to just be happy, but... I don't feel happy. And when I try to change it, when I try to remember what being happy felt like, I... can't. I...Don't feel joy, I don't feel inspired. I feel numb.
- Your mother was proud of you. And it would break her heart to know that her beautiful, kind, inspiring daughter was suffering like this. I know that because I'm a mother. And so are you. Now, our lives are difficult, and our loss unbearable sometimes. So grieve...and struggle, and you find your way back on your own terms and in your own way. But remember this...your mother would want you to be vibrant and inspiring in the face of her losing her. She'd want you to fight your pain with all you've got. Because that's the daughter that she raised. That's the daughter that she loved.
- I know you're gone...and you're not coming back, but...I was just thinking, maybe...somehow I could see you again or be able to talk to you or hear your voice. I snapped at Jamie today again. And he didn't deserve it, and I don't know why I did it. I just did. He deserves better than who I am right now. And so does Nathan. Every day we ignore how truly broken this world is, and we tell ourselves it's all going to be okay. But it's not gonna be okay. I know that now. And when you know that, it’s no going back.
- I was just trying to feel something. Like... alive, I guess. / And did that make you feel alive? / No. But it made me want to.
- Are you feeling okay, baby? Are you feeling less of that weight, that darkness?
- Letting go is never easy. As athletes, we have an expiration date, and even if our professional careers are substantial, that expiration date comes pretty early. Sometimes our...our hearts are willing, but our bodies say no.
- Some people never get to touch their dreams, never get to know what that feels like. Never find that thing they love or get to do it for a living. So, is it a tragedy to have that taken away from you? No. The tragedy would be to lie awake at night, wondering, "what if?". So, for now, I say goodbye to this chapter of my life. And I look forward to what comes next.
- You know how there re a handful of moments in your life that you just know while it's happening you're gonna remember it for the rest of your life?
- My whole life, I knew one thing, that I was great at basketball. I always had that to fall back on. Now that basketball is over, I just... Just keep asking myself the same question over and over. Will I ever be great at anything again?
- But if you find someone you’re in love with who’s also your friend, wouldn’t that be the greatest benefit? / I don’t know, it’s a fairytale, I guess. /) Well, there’s nothing wrong with fairytales. Everyone ends up happily ever after.
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