- Do cry whenever you want
- Don’t over analyze what that means to the point of exhaustion
- Do wear as much or as little makeup as you’d like
- Don’t worry to much when your mascara smears down your face from tears, sweat, work
- Do put yourself in places where many people think you don’t fit
- Don’t feel obligated to have to let everyone in to your personal space
- Do give thanks and speak the names of those before you who have made your path that much more bearable
- Don’t feel obligated to out do anyone’s legacy
- Do acknowledge that “femme” was your mother’s, your mother’s mother, and your mother’s mother’s mother
- Don’t forget that your femme is yours, now
- Do create art
- Don’t feel obligated to “color inside the lines”
- Do enjoy every curve, roll, hair, mole, scar on your body
- Don’t hide any those things because of fear
- Do practice conscious breathing to the point of letting every part of your chest and belly and face and whole body puff up and hang
- Don’t suck it in Don’t suck it in DONT SUCK IT IN!
- Do embrace your ugly, your freak, your weird
- Don’t ever let others use your ugly, your freak, your weird as weapons against you
- Do fuck up the bullshit that is normal, beautiful, pretty
- Don’t ever believe not being those terms by “traditional” standards makes you less than
- Do connect with everything around you, your body, your family, your soul
- Don’t feel obligated to explain your femme to anyone or to yourself
- Do fuck/have sex “femme”
- Don’t fuck/ have sex “femme”
- Do ask yourself questions as often as possible
- Don’t feel obligated to know or have all the answers
- Do continue to add or take away from this list
- Don’t assume that this list applies to anyone else but you
aug 27 2011 ∞
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