Why Won't You Date Me Podcast by Nicole Byer; BONUS Ep The Struggles of Your Twenties with Rae Sanni

• 58:46 "Cuz the one time I had a white woman therapist, she was also a masc presenting lesbian. So I was like 'okay you're like twice a minority, because you're a woman, and you're queer. You might be relatable.' And she was. She told me the best thing, actually. So I had gotten sexually assaulted in school, lost my mind, stop like going to class, just terrible. We were seeing each other, and I was in an interracial relationship and there was a lot wrong with it, and it had really just put me in a bad place. And she told me that, and no one in my black life had ever told me this, cuz I don't think anybody in my black life and my black dating interracially life at the time, had ever thought long enough about me or black people enough to say this but she was just like,
  • "You're the black person, you're the person of color, in your relationship, you're the one in danger. They're trying to bring you into their world. They're not meeting you. They're trying to bring you into a world that you both know is hostile to you. It is his obligation to take care of you always. And take more care of you than you need to take care of him."

Rae Sanni

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/why-wont-you-date-me-with-nicole-byer/id1314759544?i=1000467307132