- that no person is ever truly validated by another person's opinion of them; "be true to yourself" is such a cliche, but also so important to know, understand, and live by.
- do not waste your time in a relationship with a man who doesn't understand or support your dreams.
- do not waste your time in any kind of relationship where the other person doesn't respect you.
- don't be careless, a whore, or - the worst - a careless whore. respect yourself and your body. lusting after cute boys is fun, and you can make out with as many boys as you want. however, sleeping with a boy you barely know - though it always seems harmless in the heat of the moment - is a BAD IDEA. if he has an std, he is certainly not going to admit it until you've contracted it from him. if you get pregnant, you are connected to dude for the rest of your life. every dude you sleep with should be battle tested and worth it.
- take care of your body, not so that you are attractive to men (though it's a nice added bonus), but because it's the only one you have and life is better when it functions properly! there are so many bad things that can happen with your health that are out of your control, that you should control whatever you can. try to always be at your best. you'll slip up from time to time, but some effort is better than none. plus you're more likely to be able to wear cute clothes when you're in shape.
- be put together. i can't think of anything that's better off sloppy or disorganized.
- use firming cream on your boobs as soon as they start to grow. (trust me, you'll thank me later for this.) also, enjoy and take advantage of your young boobs. they will not always be young and awesome.
- don't wear cheap/ill-fitting swimwear. i will disown you.
- pay off your credit cards or else they will ruin your life.
- enjoy being young, single, and not having kids. travel, go on adventures big and small, see the world, explore your interests, do what you love, pursue your dreams. being a mother will be your proudest, most beautiful accomplishment of all, but it will also require you to give 110% of yourself at all times. this is not to say that you can't accomplish things once you're a mom - not true at all, not even by a longshot - but you should always be ready to give 100(+)% to your commitments, and if you're going to half-ass something, it is NOT going to be your parenting. you only get one chance to raise your kid right. i will personally set you straight if you mess your kid up because you've made it top priority to "do you" - trust & believe it.
- Sweat no one!!! I just randomly (...) thought of this while in the supply closet at work, 081611. You can't be losing sleep over guys who don't show any interest in you. What the hell. Next thing you know, you'll be listening to Death Cab in the dark, crying. Not worth it. You don't wanna be that girl. It's pathetic.
feb 4 2011 ∞
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