- don't test others: no silent treatment, no threats, no manipulation through distance
- bring desires openly as invite, not as claim: 'i need reassurance' + 'i want you to look at me' + 'i feel hurt when you don't reply, even when it's not personal'
- choosing partners on availability, not mystery: leaving people who excite you but don't reaffirm you, no longer looking for the unsolvable as a proof of how deeply they can love bc love is not a puzzle
- loyal to yourself, before you are loyal to others: self-protection is not the enemy and you are not self-abandoning out of panic, don't stay to sacrifice
- make love something that can grow, not something that keeps repeating old patterns + fixations
may 16 2025 ∞
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