- no is a complete sentence. and don't say maybe when you want to say no.
- nobody owes me anything.
- I don't owe anybody anything. except myself. i owe myself everything i can give.
- doing things alone and spending time alone is necessary and transformative. don't be scared of it.
- it's perfectly acceptable, and encouraged, to say "that sounds like a you problem" and walk away
- "if you give in to their demands, you are a fool. a witch bows to no man!"
- I am responsible for myself and no one else
- nobody knows my whole story; it's okay not to care about their opinion on this chapter
- I can do hard things, uncomfortable things, scary things; they will still be hard, uncomfortable and scary, but I CAN do them
- no rain, no flowers; no grit, no pearl
- everyone grows at their own pace, including me, and that's okay
- healing is not linear
- sunshine is emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and chemically important; humans are a lot like houseplants
- it's okay to let the day go and try again tomorrow
- mental illness is not a personal failure and it does not make me a bad person or a victim
- my wounds were not my fault, but healing is my responsibility
- healing and growing take hard work; it's a process that's draining, exhausting, and demanding-- be patient and nonjudgmental with yourself while it's happening
- healthy boundaries are fences with gates; they allow me to share and protect my garden on my terms without it being trampled on or invaded and without shutting it away behind high walls
- boundaries are about respecting myself, but also about respecting others enough to not try to control them, maintain them, fix them, or grow for them
- my feelings take up space, i take up space, and it's okay
- small victories matter; self-compassion, continuing to try, giving myself grace, refusing unnecessary guilt are all small victories
- "it's not your job to like me, it's mine"
- i can be a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same time, i can being learning and growing and still making mistakes, i can be healing and and strong and still be sensitive and need help and support, i can be whole and still putting pieces of myself together and building new ones
- you must give yourself constant permission to be ugly, make mistakes, be weird, and have accidents "going through the fire and embracing the cracks... makes us better."
- PLAY is important-- doing things for pure enjoyment and fun is NECESSARY. not hobbies, not production, not self-improvement. FUN.
- we all need to tell our stories. in detail. even if just to ourselves. and we need to listen to them, too.
- i am worthy of love, belonging, and safety BECAUSE I EXIST. period.
oct 6 2019 ∞
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