• ability to communicate effectively
  • tactful honesty. not brutal honesty.
  • openness. with me. not the whole world.
  • intelligence. not to the point of pretentiousness, but having philosophical discussions with me is so sexy.
  • a sense of humor. sarcastic humor is even better. or ability to mix different forms of humor.
  • as a spinoff to the last one - trading witty comebacks.
  • subtle charm. no need to be a player as I can see through that (can't play a player right?), but charisma is great.
  • eyes that pierce the soul. (IE: Kurt Cobain, Ewan McGregor)
  • dresses well. Yes, straight men CAN dress well!
  • imagination. this trait is useful in a lot of areas from determining new things to do together to sex.
  • creativity. having at least 1 creative pursuit is always admired by me. to be creative in multiple medias and in general is even better.
  • eccentricity. normal is boring.
  • willingness for monogamy.
  • wants to get married someday.
  • wants to have children someday and shows characteristics that would make a good father.
  • childlike, but not immature. Run in sprinklers is good. Blowing your rent money on video games is not.
  • cuddly and enjoys cuddling.
  • good kisser and loves to kiss.
  • gives lots of hugs.
  • sexually experimental.
  • knows how to read and actually enjoys books.
  • loves music like oxygen. musicians are always a plus.
  • will watch Queer as Folk without making mean comments to 'prove' their heterosexuality.
  • a good combo of introverted and extroverted.
  • a thinker AND a feeler. almost equally balanced (like me).
  • politeness and good manners.
  • opens doors for me.
  • holds my hand.
  • understanding of mental disorders and doesn't freak out by it.
  • will just hold me and talk to me (not argue) when I'm not feeling too good in the head.
  • romanticism.
  • is truthworthy to the point of would trust with my life sort of trustworthiness.
  • unflinching loyalty to me and to others who have shown worth.
  • can carry a conversation for hours on end.
  • plans the big things. spontaneous little things.
  • gives seat up for elderly, women, and children on busses.
  • speaks and shows love.
  • cares about politics.
  • doesn't need to be pushed to accomplish something.
  • inspires me.
  • has goals and ambitions.
  • does not value work over me or friends or family.
  • has read the Harry Potter series and enjoys it.
  • is my equal. not below or above me.
  • has obscure knowledge.
  • me + him vs. the world
  • can dance.
  • can sing.
  • at least tries different things, even if not sure he can do them well.
  • has confidence in himself and doesn't need to be drunk to prove it.
  • can be able to compromise. no "my way or no way".
  • is not controlling.
  • does not play games ("don't play games with a girl who can play better")
  • likes to play games! the fun kind like video games and board games. :p
  • will collaborate on a creative project with me.
  • has perseverance. never gives up easily.
  • likes to travel.
  • has a natural curiosity.
  • is reassuring and doesn't get sick of reassuring me of stuff I have mentioned a billion times before.
  • has a few dorky interests.
  • computer literate.
  • is not self-righteous.
  • is open-minded.
  • not a racist, homophobic, sexist, or anti-anything, but instead judges based on the person themselves.
  • likes tattoos and piercings.
  • knows how to read people.
  • treats me like a queen.
  • gives me attention. lots of it and doesn't ignore me.
  • inspires me to take care of myself, but is able to take care of me both emotionally and financially if it were needed.
  • is there for me when I need him.
  • soothes me and makes me believe that everything will be alright.
  • loves me more than anything in the world.
  • not afraid of being silly sometimes.
  • not ashamed of ME being silly sometimes!
  • adventurous.
  • someone I can enjoy spending time with and enjoys spending time with me.
  • willing to talk things out if times are tough.
  • does little things to try to make me happy.
  • sacrifices his own comfort for mine.
  • protects me.
  • doesn't make promises he can't keep.
  • makes promises that he does keep.
  • is able to plan the future with me, instead of just going along with what I say.
  • isn't afraid to approach me.
  • isn't afraid to confront me tactfully if in disagreement with me.
  • doesn't dramatize during an argument, make accusations, and place all blame on me.
  • knows how to apologize.
  • has similar interests.
  • laughs with me about things that most would not find funny at all.
  • synchronicity - knows what I am thinking and will say things at the exact same time.
  • has a large 'to-do' list for life
  • has interests that he is so passionate about that it makes me take interest in it.
  • is kind, caring, loving, sweet towards me.
  • likes animals.
  • makes me so in love that I'd rather I die before him so I don't live without him.
  • surprises me.
  • is a man not a boy. there is a difference and it's not to do with age.
  • is my best friend.
  • shows a lot of affection and loves receiving it.
  • is not repulsive to look at.
  • wants a long-term relationship. not just sex.
aug 22 2009 ∞
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