16 personalities: INFJ-T

• "the advocate"/"the idealist"
• introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging
• is the rarest personality type
• idealistic and principled - want to stand up and make a difference
• success for them is fulfillment, helping others, and being a force for good in the world
• strengths: altruistic, creative, insightful, principled, determined, passionate, supportive
• weaknesses: sensitive to criticism, perfectionistic, avoiding the ordinary, prone to burnout, hard to satisfy
• likely to form close bonds with few people, challenging to get to know on a deep level

eneagram: 6w7

• "the loyal guardian"/"the buddy"
• core fear: fear itself, being without support or guidance, being alone, blamed, targeted, abandoned
• core desire: to have security, guidance, and support
• self-image: I am prepared, dedicated, dutiful, hard-working, loyal, compliant, submissive to authority I trust but witty and rebellious to authority I don't trust
• core weakness: anxiety, constantly scanning and preparing for worst case scenarios, constant state of worry and apprehension
• at their best: loyal, likeable, prepared, trustworthy, compassionate, stable, practical, supportive, responsible
• at their worst: hyper-vigilent, dependent, judgmental, paranoid, rigid, self-defeating, self-doubting, cautious, indecisive
• helpful from others: clear expectations, reassurance about relationships, supportive behaviour, stable and trustworthy people around, no unexpected change of plans
• wing: 7’s enthusiasm and social skills, love to be surrounded by friends and have a good time (e.g. plan fun get-togethers)

big five

• Openness - high
  • very creative, have a good imagination
  • open to trying new things/ideas
  • focused on tackling new challenges
  • happy to think about abstract concepts
  • downsides: being impractical, getting tangled up in new ideas, overlooking the obvious
• Conscientiousness - high
  • spends time preparing
  • finishes important tasks right away
  • pays attention to detail
  • enjoys having a set schedule
  • downsides: being inflexible, feeling unsatisfied (goal-oriented), being too strict/perfectionistic, use too much energy when making decisions
• Extraversion - low-medium
  • prefers solitude
  • feels exhausted when having to socialize a lot
  • finds it difficult to start conversations and make small talk
  • carefully thinks things through before speaking
  • dislikes being the center of attention
  • upsides: building intimate relationships, balancing interactions, giving others space to talk
• Agreeableness - high
  • has a great deal of interest in other people
  • cares about others
  • feels empathy and concern for other people
  • enjoys helping and contributing to the happiness of other people
  • assists others who are in need of help
  • downside: ignoring own needs, being taken advantage of, not making tough (but necessary) decisions that affect others, being too humble/not proud enough
• Neuroticism - medium-high
  • experiences a lot of stress
  • worries about many different things
  • gets upset easily
  • experiences dramatic shifts in mood
  • feels anxious/vulnerable
  • struggles to bounce back after stressful events
  • upsides: being aware of potential danger/stress, seeing how things need to change

top 10 character strengths:

• kindness, love, honesty, good judgement, love of learning, creativity, curiosity, fairness, social intelligence, perseverance

other:

• not saying/deciding what I want/need or my real opinions
• don't want to burden others, no clear communication, no saying no
• avoiding conflicts
• people-pleaser / want approval from others
• feeling responsible for other's emotions
• feel bad for others (too much) and trying to fix/help them
• passive-aggressiveness
• always try to meet/succeed expectations