“Maybe I made a mistake yesterday, but yesterday’s me is still me. I am who I am today, with all my faults. Tomorrow I might be a tiny bit wiser, and that’s me, too. These faults and mistakes are what I am, making up the brightest stars in the constellation of my life. I have come to love myself for who I was, who I am, and who I hope to become.” — Kim Namjoon

• ayla ⋅ s/h ⋅ intj
• ☉ sagittarius ☽ libra ↑ pisces

which do you want — the pain of staying where you are, or the pain of growth?

• don't adapt to the energy in the room. influence the energy in the room.
• don't get lost in your own negative narrative.
• there's no audience to perform for. there's just you.
• spend less time focusing on things you want less of, and more time focusing on things you want more of.
• bad news: you can't make people love, like, understand, validate, accept or be nice to you. you can't control them either. good news: it doesn't matter.
• school doesn't determine how intelligent you are.
• try not to be so hard on yourself.
• good things take time.
• don't say maybe if you want to say no.

AWARENESS - INTENTION - CHANGE

• Being present.
• Allowing yourself to feel your emotions.
• Having an outlet to express yourself.
• Setting boundaries. 5. Having a self care plan.
• Self reflection and check-ins.
• Spending quality time with people you love.
• Being gentle with yourself.
• Practicing gratitude.
• Follow your joy.

Ideas that simulate self-harm These are ideas that give some of the visual or physical sensation of self-harm without actually causing harm to the body.

• Ping an elastic band or hair band on your wrist (but not too hard)
• Draw red lines on your skin
• Clench an ice cube in your hand
• Write on your skin
• Finger paint using red paint
• On a photo or drawing of yourself, mark in red where you want to hurt yourself
• Plunge your face into a sink full of freezing cold water for a few seconds

Ideas for when you need to vent your feelings Sometimes our feelings become too much for us to bear and the only way we can think of managing them is to hurt ourselves. Here are some alternatives that will help you vent anger, frustration or other extreme feelings.