- Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
- Minimize your passivity.
- Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
- Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
- Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
- If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even £10 a week is £520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.
- Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
- Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
- Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
- Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
- Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
- Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
- Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.
- Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn't mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
- Stop hating yourself.
- Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
- Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
- Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” Do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, go to gigs, festivals, house parties, meet new people, see the sights and come home when you start to miss it.
- Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.”
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