ON GIRL HATE

Girl hate is not hating someone who happens to be a girl, it’s hating someone because we’re told that, as girls, we should hate other girls who are as awesome as or more awesome that ourselves. That there can ever only be one cool girl, one funny girl, one smart girl, etc, in a circle of people. This, along with the myth that other girls are obstacles in your Life Of Finding A Man, is why girls compete with one another. THIS SUCKS. The only good thing that has ever come out of this is inspiration for Mean Girls.

• ..confidence is not a crime...It just means that she likes herself. I don’t want to like in a world where any girl with healthy self-esteem is labelled a whore, or where you have to dislike yourself to be considered a nice person.

“Don’t let the haters stop you from doing yo thang. In return, don’t stop anyone else from doing theirs. And if you two happen to share a thang, don’t compete over it; celebrate it!

AMBITION

“...you have to have a vision of what you want, and you have to want if fiercely, and you have to be able to throw your whole weight behind getting it. But girls aren’t supposed to care that much about what they want for themselves...we’re supposed to put our own ambitions aside, and focus on other people...consider the difference between a guy who stays in every weekend to practice guitar and a girl who does the same thing. The guy is a brooding, intense, passionate musician. The girl is just unpopular. That’s all a load of crap. AMBITION IS GREAT. Wanting things is great. Being willing to work hard to get what you want, being willing to make sacrifices in order to fulfil your own dreams: that is all super great, and admirable, and you are going to need it...your ambitions and desires for accomplishment are what allow you to have a sense of self...But when you provide your own approval – when you know what you want, and know you have what it takes to get it – you have a basis for feeling good about yourself that doesn’t go away”. – TAVI