my therapist told me i need to decide who’s standards i define myself by and that they should be my own standards, not societies, not my friends, my own. i need to decide the standards i have to hold myself to, both physically, emotionally, and mentally

• be physically HEALTHY. being healthy is much more important than weight and once you’re being healthy, your body will work out the rest on its own.
• put myself first in most situations. there may of course be exceptions, but i am the most important person in my life so making sure that i am truly happy and feel that way is what is most important
• my body is mine and i’m stuck with it, so accepting myself as i am is important
• have manners. be polite and courteous. you are a princess and so you must treat yourself like one as well as act like one. Say please and thank you, chew with your mouth closed, don’t be gross, etc.
• don’t be afraid to talk about yourself! and stick up for yourself as well!! when you’re talking and someone cuts you off, ignores you, or talks over you, put them in their place and remind them that you were talking first and they will get their turn eventually. what you have to say is just as important as everyone else.
• not only is it important to make sure other people treat you respectfully, but make sure you treat yourself with respect as well. Your body is truly a temple and pure. brush your teeth, touch yourself kindly and gently, wash your hair often, get good sleep, etc.
• be kind and think positively of others and of things around you and going on in your life before anything else. make those around you astonished by your care and warmth and wish they could be like you. be a good example and role model. people are good and so are you, don’t let negative thoughts take over so quickly.
• enjoy wherever you may be in life or in the physical moment. whether that be at work, school, with friends, are alone in your room. life has so much to offer and there’s so much good to find in the little moments, enjoy every second you can!