- putting in that 1% by remembering people's names. looking at name tags, remembering names, asking for names even if we may never see each other again. give recognition, kindness, and compassion even with a simple "thank you, name". everyone loves to hear their name, after all, and showing appreciation or even just acknowledgement will mean a lot, even subconsciously.
- give people the benefit of the doubt. i already do this so this is more of a reminder to continue to do this. remember that there are so many factors in a person's life and even if we do know them, sometimes we don't know everything they are going through. as such, even if they have hurt me, i want to give the benefit of the doubt and give compassion and love. in life, you want to be able to say "i am not loving you because you are good or have been good to me, but because i am good and i want to be good to you".
- try to view everyone as extremely human and, well, normal. i'm not only introverted but i find myself anxious in social situations. i normally don't talk to people unless they talk to me first. this year, i want to start making conversation with the people i am surrounded by and not be afraid because they are human. just human.
- self love. instead of pressuring myself or burning out for myself and/or others, i want to be able to take a step back and say to myself, "i know you feel you need to do this, but you've already done so much. can it wait?" and i want to be able to say to others, "i don't mind helping, but i have a lot on my plate already/even though i don't have a lot going on, i would like time for myself. maybe i can help you with this tomorrow?" i want to focus on myself more and give my mental and emotional health some care instead of constantly focusing on others and neglecting myself in the process.
- allowing myself to feel my emotions and holding space for them. whether my emotions are bad or good, i want to begin letting myself feel them completely instead of ignoring them. i want to feel them, hear them, experience them without judging myself and then, if they are bad feelings, see what i can do to alleviate those feelings and shift perspective if needed.
- complimenting people. at least once a day, i want to tell someone that they look pretty, or their hair is nice, or their outfit is positively wonderful today. i want to tell people that i can see how hard they're working and that they're doing amazing. i want to tell people they did really well when they get a good grade or achieve something. even the smallest compliment could make someone's day and if someone is having a rotten day, i want to be able to provide even the smallest bit of sunshine despite that.
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