SMART GOALS

• S pecific
  • who is involved?
  • accomplishing?
  • where?
  • when (time frame)?
  • requirements/restraints?
  • why (reasons for goal)?
• M easurable
  • set phases & target dates
  • "how much, how many, how will I know I reached goal?"
• A ttainable
  • identify importance and find a way to make come true
  • attitude, ability, finances to acheive goals
• R ealistic
  • show you're willing and able to achieve
  • realistic when you believe you can accomplish
• T imely
  • must have time frame

WELLNESS -optimal health and vitality

• Physical
  • diet
  • exercise
  • avoid harms (drugs)
  • sexual behavior
  • knowledge about disease symptoms (goto doctor)
  • regular checkups
  • prevention of injuries
  • sleep
• Emotional
  • OPTIMISM
  • trust
  • self esteem
  • self acceptance
  • self confidence
  • satisfying relationships
  • share feelings
• Intellectual
  • openness to new ideas
  • capacity to question
  • strive toward independence
  • learn new skills
  • senese of humor
  • creativity
  • curiosity
• Spiritual
  • ability to love anything
  • compassion
  • forgiveness
  • joy
  • fulfillment
• Social
  • ability to have satisfying relationships (physical/emotional)
  • support group
  • strong communication skills
  • compacity for intimacy
  • contribute to community
• Environmental
  • health of planet effects our health
  • food/drink supply
• Vocational
  • passionate about work

STRESS COPING

• social support system
• strong communication skills
• exercise
• eating healthy
• sleep
• time management
  • prioritize
  • schedule (give yourself extra time)
  • visualize conclusion
  • do worst part first
  • consolidate tasts
  • delegate responsibility
  • learn to say no
  • learn to take breaks
• change way you think about things
  • be positive about things in control
  • be constructive
  • be a problem solver
• laugh
• don't worry about unimportant details
• be flexible
• learn to relax
• visualize success

PSYCHOLOGICAL HEALTH

• chemical (neuro system, hormones)
• contribute to society
• realistic
• accepting of themselves
• independence (SMART goals & taking care of oneself)
• have intimate relationships
• be creative
• deal with life changes
• high self esteem because of positive experiences
• optimists
• good communicators
• flexible (open minded)
• PHOBEAS
  • simple & psychological, panic disorders, OCD, PTSD
  • treatment: pharmacauticals & councelling

RELATIONSHIPS

• Friendship
• Intimate
  • Basis: love (draws people together), sex (passion), commitment (keeps people together)
• CHALLENGES
  • honesty & openness
  • unequal commitment
  • unrealistic expectations
  • competitions
  • time apart
  • jealousy
• UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
  • abusive
  • lack of respect
  • poor communication
• ENDING RELATIONSHIPS
  • be comfortable with giving relationship a chance
  • breaker upper can't blame other person
  • be compassionate
  • allow for recovery period
• COMMUNICATION -most important!
  • able to interpret non-verbal communication
  • willingness to self disclose
  • listening without judging/blaming/advising/controlling
  • feedback is constructive and reciprocal
  • conflict means caring
    • communicate after anger dissipates
    • both people need to clarify issues
    • find out what partner wants in solution
    • alternatives?
    • compromise
    • take a step back
• RELATIONSHIP PARTNER CHARACTERISTICS
• socio-economic status
• educational level
• similar lifestyles
• physical attractions