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Remember that all suffering is made up by your & others' heads ("pain is inevitable, suffering is optional"). Remember that state of serenity on Oct 22-23, 2019 as a truly healthy state. And gently steer yourself into doing 3/3/3+1 with curiosity, self-compassion, mindfulness, the learning-goals approach instead of the performance-goals approach where possible (Er. S.' stuff helps!)

bookmarks:
listography GIVE A GIFT OF MEMORIES
FAVORITE LISTOGRAPHY MENTIONS
IMPORTANT NOTICES
MESSAGES
PRIVACY
  • "Always Better". " "Life enhancing? Life diminishing?" Both questions I ask myself when confronted with a decision."
  • backward planning (a scientific proof of its benefits)
  • "If, by way of habit, you consistently begin every decision-making process by considering how much time and effort that decision is worth, who needs to have input, and when you’ll have an answer, you'll have developed the first important muscle for speed. There are decisions that deserve days of debate and analysis, but the vast majority aren’t worth more than 10 minutes. …It's important to internalize how irreversible, fatal or non-fatal a decision may be. Very few can't be undone." (and the rest of this)
  • Satisficing / a portmanteau of satisfy and suffice / searching through the available alternatives until an acceptability threshold is met
  • Eliminate the worst options first, to simplify the choice between multiple (similar) options
  • Decision Hierarchy: take as given, decide now, decide later
  • WRAP (widen your frame, reality-check your assumptions, attain distance, prepare to be wrong) / see this article for basic explanations & Heath brothers' Decisive Workbook and the book itself
jul 14 2019 ∞
nov 13 2019 +