Happify's S.T.A.G.E. framework (5 key happiness skills, research):

• Savor
• Thank
• Aspire
• Give
• Empathize

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From the handout from a Coursera course:

The PEA is:

• Being in PNS arousal; feeling positive and hopeful; thinking about the future, dreams, and possibilities.
• Being optimistic, focusing on one’s strengths.
• Excited about trying something new, experimenting.
• Being in resonant relationships.

The NEA is:

• Being in SNS arousal; feeling negative and fear; thinking about the past or present, expectations of others and problems.
• Being pessimistic, focusing on one’s weaknesses.
• Feeling obligated to things you “should” or are “expected by others” to do, like a performance improvement plan.
• Being in dissonant relationships.

Sustained desired change tends to start in the PEA.

To sustain learning or change efforts, it is likely that you have to spend 3-6 times in the PEA as the time spent in the NEA. This is to compensate for the observation that negative emotions are stronger than positive.

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The stuff below isn't really usable, but still seems like good reminders:

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Health detractors (via some Ayurvedic herb' package):

• Criticism
• Anger
• Resentment
• Guilt

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Happiness detractors (from that article in Forbes?):

• Blaming
  • Instead: take responsibility & focus on doing things better or smarter next time!
• Impressing
  • Instead: a relationship that is not based on substance is not a real relationship; be yourself
• Clinging
  • Instead: let it go!
• Interrupting
  • Instead: Want people to like you? Listen to what they say. Focus on what they say. Ask questions to make sure you understand what they say.
• Whining
  • Instead: Why waste time? Fix it now. &Friends don't let friends whine--friends help friends make their lives better
• Controlling
  • Instead: the only thing you really control is you
• Criticizing
  • Instead: appreciate the differences!
• Preaching (people may hear you but they don't listen!)
• Dwelling
  • Instead: let it go!
• Fearing
  • Instead: Put your fears aside and get started. Do something. Otherwise, today is gone.