JULY

“The harms are undeniable,” says Cohen. “Bottom line: it’s a way of learning to love your oppressor. It takes an acute loss of agency and control and transforms it into a state to be desired and enjoyed. Once you embrace this way of being, the demands and rewards of adult life are going to seem all the more remote and all the more forbidding and unpleasurable.”

Why is there such a gap between the people you know and the people you can rely on?

AUGUST

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NOVEMBER

Roland Barthes anticipated that impulse: “I want to be both pathetic and admirable, I want to be at the same time a child and an adult,” which is to say, I’m baby.

DEZEMBER

The person plagued by the sensation that they cannot possibly begin to really live until all is safe and sound inside.

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