- visualize yourself still being afraid, but handling yourself in an appropriate manner
- think of the things that you fear, a good way to begin is to write down a list of 8 or 10 things (or "steps") which lead up to the thing you most fear
- gradually expose yourself to anxiety related communal events
- stay focused, scan your environment and feel the freedom and control
- realise your responses, whether they're positive or negative
- breathe through nose, out longer through mouth
- exaggerate the bad consequences you fear
- only friends can take you aside and give you advice because of your trust due to the positive rapport, and psychologist
- laugh at yourself, don't take your mistakes too seriously
- trying to be perfect is setting yourself up for failure
- if you try too hard in any aspect of life, it's not natural, so don't go diva and don't go comedian and try at these things, because I don't get to laugh and have fun, and that should be a basic right i give myself
- trying to impress is devoid of intelligence, but don't try too hard to act witty, smart, interesting or any other characteristic. make sure it's the right occasion, others aren't stating something, and other's don't have a condition that you have to give way to
- remember you're not familiar/close with anyone and they aren't with you
- remember everyone has their issues, might involve politics, so try not to put it on yourself
- don't feel sympathy on yourself for not making people laugh, just let it go, you have humour, it's a trait of yours
- recognize that your facts may be false, have some truth or be true http://www.mindtools.com/stress/pp/Assertiveness.htm
- imagine distractions and everyday concerns being folded away and locked into a padlocked chest
- Breathe in deeply and then let your breath out. Count your breaths, and say the number of the breath as you let it out (this gives you something to do with your mind, helping you to avoid distraction).
- However you do it, it is important to keep your attention focused. If external thoughts or distractions wander into your mind, let them drift out.
- Self-hypnosis: http://www.mindtools.com/stress/RelaxationTechniques/SelfHypnosis.htm
- Anxiety is frequently associated with thoughts of the future. Bring yourself back to the present by thinking: “What is so scary about right now?” Concentrate your mind on staying in the present by focusing on something small in your immediate surroundings – a brick, a leaf, carpet, table leg – and describe it in as much detail as you can until you feel the anxiety subside
- Being aware of your thoughts will stop you from catastrophising
- Anxiety can be in the way we think such as “This will never end”; “I’m not going to get through”; “I’m losing control”; “I must be going mad”; “What if……?” “I can’t face it”.
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