generally...

• humor (i love to laugh, and i actually laugh pretty easily, but i like funny people)
• maturity (has to be able to meet my maturity level, if he's immature i don't like it and if he's more mature than me i can't handle it)
• able to handle my biting comments knowing i don't mean 95% of them (i'm critical and observant and like no bullshitting to the point where i'm mean T^T)
• someone who's able to take care of me (i've taken care of too many people in my life...)
• committed (although if he is a player, i can fix him out)
• no bullshit (oh i hate bullshitters)
• doesn't lie (or at least doesn't lie so i can tell, but that usually means no lying at all cuz i'm good at picking out liars...)
• knows how to handle being with friends and a gf (pretty much not be a jackass when wit friends then pretend to be someone else wit a gf, because i don't really care if he decides to go out wit guy friends as guys are prone to do...)
• doesn't care i'm overweight, not completely pretty, etc. etc.
• knows who i am (oh ho that's hard)
• loves me for who i am <3 (that's another hard one...)

but it'd be nice if he was...

• tall (or at least taller than me, which is easy cuz i'm 5'4")
• good looking (average not like pretty boy, i hate
  
  pretty boys in real life -- i mean i can handle my celeb pretty boys because they're celebs)
• can sing, dance, and/or play an instrument
• korean (not that i particularly care...but it'd be nice...)

and something that's nice but is "something that's nice" to the point where it's almost required...

• nice hands, hand-holding is my favorite skinship and i find guys with large, goodlooking, masculine hands very attractive lol

another main thing: he has to make me feel secure, wit my past serious flings/relationships i always had an uneasy feeling (like i didn't like being tied down...) and this is why i do not have a boyfriend, kiddos.........