• intelligent
  • generous
  • selfless
  • into dinner parties and social things
  • affectionate (physically and verbally)
  • ambitious
  • commitment-oriented
  • attractive
  • professional with a good income
  • good host
  • enjoys cooking
  • parents in a good relationship
feb 7 2018 ∞
feb 7 2018 +
  • develop a healthier relationship with my body
  • focus more on the positives
  • cook more
jan 3 2017 ∞
jan 3 2017 +
  • Planned Parenthood
  • American Civil Liberties Union
  • Human Rights Campaign
  • Natural Resources Defense Council
nov 14 2016 ∞
nov 14 2016 +
  • Octopus Project
  • OSHUN (SXSW 2017)
  • PWR BTTM (SXSW 2017)
  • Party Baby (SXSW 2017)
  • Hippo Campus (SXSW 2017)
  • Pinact (SXSW 2017)
  • Ecstatic Vision (SXSW 2017)
  • Madame Gandhi (SXSW 2017)
  • Thelma and the Sleaze (SXSW 2017)
  • LCD Soundsystem
  • Porter Robinson + Madeon
  • Miike Snow
  • Oh Wonder
  • Local Natives (2)
  • Kygo
  • Chainsmokers
  • Saint Motel
  • Catfish and the Bottlemen
  • Melanie Martinez
  • Radiohead
  • Flume
oct 12 2016 ∞
mar 20 2017 +
  • Breakfast at Tiffany's (Blake Edwards, 1961)
  • Dr. Strangelove, or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb (Stanley Kubrick, 1964)
  • Něco z Alenky (Alice) (Jan Svankmajer, 1988)
  • Mulholland Drive (David Lynch)
  • The Birds (Hitchcock)
  • Pickpocket (Robert Bresson)
  • La Jetee (Chris Marker)
  • Leon: The Professional (1994)
oct 27 2013 ∞
oct 27 2013 +
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  • be really great at something (one thing)
  • have a full set of stationery
  • help someone get married
  • shoot a rocket.
  • help someone have a wonderful year OR help someone make a significant step up in his or her career
  • collect art books
  • be known for some idiosyncrasy
  • make something beautiful
jul 7 2009 ∞
aug 15 2017 +
  • I ask a lot of questions, and I love answering questions.
  • I'm pretty intuitive, and I don't like having to explain everything I'm feeling.
  • I don't drink much.
  • I am content with my level of hygiene.
  • I make excellent fried eggs.
  • I'm a poet.
  • I have long fingers.
  • I like playing and being childish.
  • I'm affectionate.
  • I don't expect much from other people.
  • My parents love me already.
  • I have a sense of humor that is only funny to me (and my dad and my brother). This makes private jokes very easy.
  • I like writing and receiving love letters.
  • I like to let my significant others know how much I appreciate them on an extremely frequent and self-affirming basis.
nov 4 2008 ∞
mar 17 2011 +
  • mark rothko
  • joseph cornell
  • jean arp
  • frantisek kupka
  • george brecht
  • frank stella
  • rené magritte
  • ellsworth kelly
  • richard avedon
  • keith haring
may 22 2010 ∞
jun 21 2011 +

A LITTLE KNOWLEDGE CAN GO A LONG WAY

A LOT OF PROFESSIONALS ARE CRACKPOTS

A MAN CAN'T KNOW WHAT IT IS TO BE A MOTHER

A NAME MEANS A LOT JUST BY ITSELF

A POSITIVE ATTITUDE MEANS ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD

A RELAXED MAN IS NOT NECESSARILY A BETTER MAN

A SENSE OF TIMING IS THE MARK OF GENIUS

A SINCERE EFFORT IS ALL YOU CAN ASK

A SINGLE EVENT CAN HAVE INFINITELY MANY INTERPRETATIONS

A SOLID HOME BASE BUILDS A SENSE OF SELF

A STRONG SENSE OF DUTY IMPRISONS YOU

ABSOLUTE SUBMISSION CAN BE A FORM OF FREEDOM

ABSTRACTION IS A TYPE OF DECADENCE

ABUSE OF POWER COMES AS NO SURPRISE

ACTION CAUSES MORE TROUBLE THAN THOUGHT

ALIENATION PRODUCES ECCENTRICS OR REVOLUTIONARIES

jan 25 2011 ∞
jan 25 2011 +
  • many parties
  • some people
  • british accents (this is not really a secret anymore)
  • bad grammar
  • relationship/courtship games
  • nails
  • fake smiles
  • drinking on nights other than thursday and saturday and sometimes friday
  • stubbly legs
  • when I have more of a sex drive than my partner
nov 4 2008 ∞
jun 21 2011 +
  • the smiths
  • the cure
  • the beach boys
  • the beatles
  • fiona apple
  • of montreal
  • the velvet underground

sub-list (superficial loves)

  • the fiery furnaces
  • radiohead
  • sufjan stevens
  • the shins

NOTE FROM 10/26/16: what an abomination!!! so wrong then.

jun 18 2009 ∞
oct 26 2016 +
  • house
  • bones
  • lie to me
  • greek
  • dexter
  • weeds
  • 30 rock
  • the office
  • gossip girl
  • the good wife
  • nurse jackie
  • samantha who?
  • the simpsons
  • V
  • united states of tara
  • ugly betty
  • desperate housewives
  • mad men
jun 19 2010 ∞
jul 19 2011 +
  • color: robin's egg blue, sea foam green, peacock blue, purple
  • play seen live: talk radio
  • book: the people of paper, the sound and the fury, aura, brave new world
  • musical artist: the beatles, fiona apple, of montreal, sufjan stevens, the smiths, radiohead, the cure, the beach boys
  • artist: see other list!
  • flavor of ice cream: coffee, coffee heath bar crunch, mint, plain vanilla, birthday cake
  • fruit: mango
  • vegetable: carrot
  • animal: robins, snakes, lambs, cats, elephants, mice, jellyfish
  • term of endearment: baby, love, dear
  • touch: grains/rice, skin, soft hair, unpolished wood
  • textile pattern: stripes
  • place to be: my bed, blue hole, osborn hi...
nov 4 2008 ∞
jan 25 2011 +
  • Percentage of college men who say they might commit rape if there were no chance of being caught: 35
  • Percentage of acknowledged male homosexuals who are fathers: 25 - “Gay and Bisexual Fathers,” by Dr. Barbara Keating and Dr. Kelley M.L. Brigman (Mankato State University, Minn.)
  • Weight of the average female fashion model in 1970 (in pounds): 112 - Ford Models Inc. (New York City)
  • Weight of the average female fashion model today: 122 - Ford Models Inc. (New York City)
  • Average percentage change in a woman’s standard of living in the year after a divorce: -73 - The Divorce Revolution: The Unexpected Social and Economic Consequences for Women and Children in America, by Lenore J. Weitzman (The Free Press)
  • Average percentage change in a man’s st...
may 26 2009 ∞
apr 26 2011 +
  • creamsicle
  • wheat
  • kitchen
  • fawn
  • pavement
  • lisp
  • whine
  • doll
  • apothecary
  • robin
  • lilac
  • umlaut
  • wunderkind
  • lamb
  • husk
nov 1 2008 ∞
nov 1 2008 +

I want to...

  • fall in love again
  • stop taking medicine
  • publish again
  • not be in / be out of debt
  • have the guts to kiss my best friend if I want to
  • not be fat
  • live in Mexico (for a while)
  • read all of the modern library's top 100 novels of all time
  • stop telling lies
nov 4 2008 ∞
mar 15 2010 +
  • okay to come in late sometimes or working a 10-6 schedule...or even later
  • set time for nap
  • somewhere to nap
  • more breaks
  • okay to do walk therapy
jun 2 2017 ∞
jun 2 2017 +
  • The Like Switch
  • Influence
  • Wired for Love
  • Waking the Tiger
  • The Highly Sensitive Person in Love
  • The High Price of Materialism
  • The Practicing Mind
  • The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up
  • The Devil in the White City
  • What I Was Doing While You Were Breeding
  • Chasing the Scream
  • Days of Destruction, Days of Revolt
  • A People's History of American Empire
  • The New Jim Crow
  • Palestine
apr 13 2017 ∞
feb 7 2018 +

written originally in 2012

  • an office with windows
  • travel more to Europe
  • live in a house, villa, or spacious apartment/loft with an extra room for guests (no skyscraper)
  • keep learning
  • have relaxing weekends
  • be a good wife
  • see a lot of my friends; always have time for those who need me
  • be a mentor
  • lead others
  • provide for my parents in their old age
  • never worry about money; live below my means
  • have enough money to buy expensive groceries, quality care products, nice bags
  • drive a car less than 7 years old
  • be great at cooking healthy food
  • decorate with wood and leather; hard wood...
dec 17 2016 ∞
dec 17 2016 +
  • A clever person solves a problem. A wise person avoids it. - Albert Einstein
  • Speak only if it improves upon the silence. - Mohandas Gandhi
  • Try to become not a man of success, but try rather to become a man of value. - Albert Einstein
  • Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. - Steve Jobs
  • He who is not contented with what he has,...
oct 27 2013 ∞
jul 8 2014 +

I need these things in my home to make me happy:

  • wall-divided kitchen, or at least a lot of space to the bed (if it is a loft)
  • clean, well-lit dining area (for four+ people)
  • dining chairs (for two+)
  • bed
  • desk or separate table & work chair
  • comfortable seating (other than the bed)
  • warm light fixtures
  • mirror
  • cinder-block bookshelves
  • large painting or print maybe
  • closet

Everything beyond this is just icing.

jul 7 2009 ∞
jun 21 2011 +
  • I am an extreme maximizer, and I'm fearful of making decisions because I know they'll disappoint me.
  • I run from what makes me anxious.
  • I seek change because I turn away from my problems.
  • I am a secular humanist, sometimes existentialist/absurdist.
  • I see the threat of losing friendship as something very fearful.
  • I am afraid of losing potential friends' favor to the point that I will avoid any intimacy with them.
  • I think I'm boring to other people.
  • I am a hedonist.
  • I am a different person to everyone.
  • I am an ISTP.
sep 3 2010 ∞
dec 22 2011 +
  • Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 ("There is a time for everything...")
  • Proverbs 24:17 ("Rejoice not when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles.")
may 1 2010 ∞
nov 7 2012 +
  • staying in
  • lying in bed all day
  • being friends with a very small number of people
  • real christians
  • smart republicans
  • road trips (NOT driving around town)
  • being woken up in the middle of the night
  • stronger eagles
  • weaker lambs
nov 4 2008 ∞
jun 21 2011 +
  • neuroticism
  • I'm not really my type (physically).
  • I never want to go out.
  • I'm too depressed all the time.
  • I have too many doubts about people. It's disheartening.
  • I always order the same thing at restaurants.
  • I'm too conflicted (and I talk about it too much).
  • Our children would look too much like me.
  • I switch often from being sexually and dynamically dominant and submissive. It's confusing.
  • I'm too private. There's a problem here with my need to really dig under people's skin.
  • I get anxious too often.
  • I can make people who love me feel really shitty.
nov 4 2008 ∞
sep 8 2010 +
  • mad men
  • californication
  • the mentalist
  • nip/tuck
  • freaks and geeks
  • friends
  • true blood
  • angels in america
  • how I met your mother
  • misfits
  • alcatraz
  • downton abbey?
  • game of thrones
jun 19 2010 ∞
jan 31 2012 +
  • taxi driver
  • sans soleil
  • the shining
  • goodfellas
  • battleship potemkin
  • the man with the movie camera
  • blow-up
  • l'avventura
  • blue velvet
  • citizen kane
  • rear window
  • bonnie and clyde
  • pierrot le fou
  • the 400 blows
  • the apu trilogy
  • some like it hot
  • the piano teacher
  • cleo de 5 a 7
mar 7 2010 ∞
jan 25 2011 +
  • six feet under
  • my so-called life
  • the OC
  • the L word
  • queer as folk
  • beverly hills, 90210
  • alfred hitchcock presents
  • twin peaks
  • dollhouse
  • angels in america
  • dirty sexy money
  • arrested development
  • freaks and geeks
  • mad men
  • make it or break it
  • bored to death
  • oz
jun 19 2010 ∞
dec 22 2011 +
  • austria
  • belgium
  • canada
  • people's republic of china
  • republic of china
  • england
  • france
  • italy
  • japan
  • luxembourg
  • mexico
  • switzerland
  • united states
  • wales
nov 4 2008 ∞
nov 4 2008 +
  • brazil
  • costa rica
  • cuba
  • greece
  • holy see
  • iceland
  • the netherlands
  • russia
  • south africa
  • spain
  • sweden
nov 4 2008 ∞
nov 4 2008 +
  • tiger (cat)
  • sparky (dog)
  • butterball (cat)
  • tabitha (cat)
  • the 12 kittens (cats), including:
    • beijing
  • gemini (frog)
  • hella goldfish
  • the little green snapper turtle from wimberley
  • meal worms
  • cassiopeia (dog)
  • maxwell (dog)
nov 4 2008 ∞
nov 4 2008 +
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aug 15 2017 ∞
aug 15 2017 +
  • electronic music
  • * French house (mixture of Funk, Electro, Techno, and House)
  • * progressive house
  • * electro house
  • new wave
  • psychedelic pop
  • indie pop
may 4 2017 ∞
may 4 2017 +
  • Rossen: fountain pen, collar stays, business card holder, bluetooth speaker-
  • Dad: bonsai tree, piano book-
  • Mom: Hermes bag-
  • Adrian: Twin Peaks shirt, business card holder, Giorgio record-
  • Liza: cat mugs, HRC button, love trumps hate shirt
  • Zoe: bonsai, HRC button
  • Marty: wine decanter, HRC button
  • Elysia: sushi zip drive, epsilon dish-
  • Rafaella: letter R dish
  • Melissa: bonsai-
  • Brandon: whiskey decanter
  • Kerry: bath stuff
  • Daniel & Abbey: starry lamp
  • Rossen's family: bonsai, wine pump, bath things, wallet
  • Garrett: decanter
  • Sally: salt lamp-
  • Elizabeth: HRC poster
nov 3 2016 ∞
apr 24 2017 +
  • mark rothko
  • richard avedon
  • marlene dumas
  • rene magritte
  • salvador dali
  • joseph cornell
  • roy lichtenstein
  • nicola tyson
  • ellsworth kelly
  • frank stella (maybe)
  • milton avery
  • jason polan (every piece in the moma)
jul 9 2009 ∞
jul 19 2011 +
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  • The World is Flat (Thomas Friedman)
  • Guns, Germs, and Steel (Jared Diamond)
  • Freakonomics (Steven Levitt)
  • Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You (Sam Gosling)
  • The Art of Seduction (Robert Greene)
  • The Wisdom of Crowds (James Surowiecki)
  • Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think (Brian Wansink)
  • Damned Lies and Statistics: Untangling Numbers from the Media, Politicians, and Activists (Joel Best)
  • The Crowd (Gustave Le Bon)
  • How We Know What Isn't So (Thomas Gilovich)
  • Blink (Malcolm Gladwell)
  • When Prophecy Fails (Leon Festinger)
  • The Stuff of Thought: Language as a Window into Human Nature (Steven Pinker)
  • Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior (Ori Brafman)
nov 1 2010 ∞
dec 28 2011 +

So, my #1 theory for why I am only 5'8" is that my paralysis in youth (1-2 years) caused my legs to grow at a critical period of development. EVIDENCE.

  • feet and hands are way long; long feet == long legs
  • left leg is shorter
  • torso is way long! it's like my leg half is disproportionately small...hmmmmm
dec 11 2010 ∞
jun 21 2011 +
  • being teased
  • assumptions about where I am, who I'm with
  • long nails
  • being identified by my race
  • getting asked about my race
  • bitter taste
  • condiments
    • ketchup
    • mayonnaise
    • mustard
      • honey dijon
      • spicy
      • whatever; I don't pay any attention to these things
    • ranch dressing
    • most salad dressings other than vinaigrette
    • chocolate sauce
nov 4 2008 ∞
sep 8 2010 +
  • how many people they've had sex with
  • volume of speech
  • voice
  • amount of makeup
  • reading
  • favorite books
  • grammar
  • what they do at parties
  • how they treat the waitstaff
  • how they talk about their exes
nov 4 2008 ∞
dec 22 2011 +
  • I am a size 7 (right hand ring)
  • I am a size 6 (left hand ring)

I have had this 'sticky' on my computer for the longest time. No longer.

jul 7 2009 ∞
jul 7 2009 +
  • the wire (working on it)
  • lost
  • dead like me (through 205)
  • 24 (through season 3)
  • true blood
jun 19 2010 ∞
jul 19 2011 +
  • girly things
    • fish
      • goldfish
      • minnows
      • salmon, trout, and any other edible fish
      • guppies
      • anything sold in a pet store
    • eels
    • centipedes
    • maggots
    • worms
    • tics
    • cockroaches
    • lizards & geckos
  • real things
    • rape
    • being alone
    • social situations/parties
nov 4 2008 ∞
jul 19 2011 +
  • condiments
    • mustard
    • ketchup
    • mayonnaise
    • any opaque salad dressing (especially ranch!)
    • Greek yogurt
    • mole
    • sour cream
    • horse radish
    • relish
    • barbecue sauce
    • pepper
    • curry
    • wasabi
  • pickles
  • olives
  • purple lettuce
  • squash
mar 20 2009 ∞
jan 25 2011 +
  • salty food
  • being alone / time alone
  • driving
nov 4 2008 ∞
dec 22 2011 +