• intelligent
• generous
• selfless
• into dinner parties and social things
• affectionate (physically and verbally)
• ambitious
• commitment-oriented
• attractive
• professional with a good income
• good host
• enjoys cooking
• parents in a good relationship

• develop a healthier relationship with my body
• focus more on the positives
• cook more

• Planned Parenthood
• American Civil Liberties Union
• Human Rights Campaign
• Natural Resources Defense Council

• Tame Impala (#2, Circuit of the Americas, Lindsay)
• Wye Oak (The Parish, Lindsay)
• Wye Oak (ACL Live, Lindsay)
• Sylvan Esso (#2, Lindsay)
• Tame Impala (#1, Pitchfork, Chicago, Lindsay)
• Tove Lo (Lindsay)
• Syd tha Kid (Lindsay)
• Octopus Project
• OSHUN (SXSW 2017)
• PWR BTTM (SXSW 2017)
• Party Baby (SXSW 2017)
• Hippo Campus (SXSW 2017)
• Pinact (SXSW 2017)
• Ecstatic Vision (SXSW 2017)
• Madame Gandhi (SXSW 2017)
• Thelma and the Sleaze (SXSW 2017)
• LCD Soundsystem
• Porter Robinson + Madeon
• Miike Snow

• Breakfast at Tiffany's (Blake Edwards, 1961)
• Dr. Strangelove, or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb (Stanley Kubrick, 1964)
• Něco z Alenky (Alice) (Jan Svankmajer, 1988)
• Mulholland Drive (David Lynch)
• The Birds (Hitchcock)
• Pickpocket (Robert Bresson)
• La Jetee (Chris Marker)
• Leon: The Professional (1994)

• be really great at something (one thing)
• have a full set of stationery
• help someone get married
• shoot a rocket.
• help someone have a wonderful year OR help someone make a significant step up in his or her career
• collect art books
• be known for some idiosyncrasy
• make something beautiful

• I ask a lot of questions, and I love answering questions.
• I'm pretty intuitive, and I don't like having to explain everything I'm feeling.
• I don't drink much.
• I am content with my level of hygiene.
• I make excellent fried eggs.
• I'm a poet.
• I have long fingers.
• I like playing and being childish.
• I'm affectionate.
• I don't expect much from other people.
• My parents love me already.
• I have a sense of humor that is only funny to me (and my dad and my brother). This makes private jokes very easy.
• I like writing and receiving love letters.
• I like to let my significant others know how much I appreciate them on an extremely frequent and self-affirming basis.

• mark rothko
• joseph cornell
• jean arp
• frantisek kupka
• george brecht
• frank stella
• rené magritte
• ellsworth kelly
• richard avedon
• keith haring

A LITTLE KNOWLEDGE CAN GO A LONG WAY

A LOT OF PROFESSIONALS ARE CRACKPOTS

A MAN CAN'T KNOW WHAT IT IS TO BE A MOTHER

A NAME MEANS A LOT JUST BY ITSELF

A POSITIVE ATTITUDE MEANS ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD

A RELAXED MAN IS NOT NECESSARILY A BETTER MAN

A SENSE OF TIMING IS THE MARK OF GENIUS

A SINCERE EFFORT IS ALL YOU CAN ASK

A SINGLE EVENT CAN HAVE INFINITELY MANY INTERPRETATIONS

A SOLID HOME BASE BUILDS A SENSE OF SELF

A STRONG SENSE OF DUTY IMPRISONS YOU

ABSOLUTE SUBMISSION CAN BE A FORM OF FREEDOM

ABSTRACTION IS A TYPE OF DECADENCE

ABUSE OF POWER COMES AS NO SURPRISE

ACTION CAUSES MORE TROUBLE THAN THOUGHT

ALIENATION PRODUCES ECCENTRICS OR REVOLUTIONARIES

• many parties
• some people
• british accents (this is not really a secret anymore)
• bad grammar
• relationship/courtship games
• nails
• fake smiles
• drinking on nights other than thursday and saturday and sometimes friday
• stubbly legs
• when I have more of a sex drive than my partner

• the smiths
• the cure
• the beach boys
• the beatles
• fiona apple
• of montreal
• the velvet underground

sub-list (superficial loves)

• the fiery furnaces
• radiohead
• sufjan stevens
• the shins

NOTE FROM 10/26/16: what an abomination!!! so wrong then.

• house
• bones
• lie to me
• greek
• dexter
• weeds
• 30 rock
• the office
• gossip girl
• the good wife
• nurse jackie
• samantha who?
• the simpsons
• V
• united states of tara
• ugly betty
• desperate housewives
• mad men

• color: robin's egg blue, sea foam green, peacock blue, purple
• play seen live: talk radio
• book: the people of paper, the sound and the fury, aura, brave new world
• musical artist: the beatles, fiona apple, of montreal, sufjan stevens, the smiths, radiohead, the cure, the beach boys
• artist: see other list!
• flavor of ice cream: coffee, coffee heath bar crunch, mint, plain vanilla, birthday cake
• fruit: mango
• vegetable: carrot
• animal: robins, snakes, lambs, cats, elephants, mice, jellyfish
• term of endearment: baby, love, dear
• touch: grains/rice, skin, soft hair, unpolished wood
• textile pattern: stripes
• place to be: my bed, blue hole, osborn hi...

• Percentage of college men who say they might commit rape if there were no chance of being caught: 35
• Percentage of acknowledged male homosexuals who are fathers: 25 - “Gay and Bisexual Fathers,” by Dr. Barbara Keating and Dr. Kelley M.L. Brigman (Mankato State University, Minn.)
• Weight of the average female fashion model in 1970 (in pounds): 112 - Ford Models Inc. (New York City)
• Weight of the average female fashion model today: 122 - Ford Models Inc. (New York City)
• Average percentage change in a woman’s standard of living in the year after a divorce: -73 - The Divorce Revolution: The Unexpected Social and Economic Consequences for Women and Children in America, by Lenore J. Weitzman (The Free Press)
• Average percentage change in a man’s st...

• creamsicle
• wheat
• kitchen
• fawn
• pavement
• lisp
• whine
• doll
• apothecary
• robin
• lilac
• umlaut
• wunderkind
• lamb
• husk

I want to...

• fall in love again
• stop taking medicine
• publish again
• not be in / be out of debt
• have the guts to kiss my best friend if I want to
• not be fat
• live in Mexico (for a while)
• read all of the modern library's top 100 novels of all time
• stop telling lies

• okay to come in late sometimes or working a 10-6 schedule...or even later
• set time for nap
• somewhere to nap
• more breaks
• okay to do walk therapy

• The Like Switch
• Influence
• Wired for Love
• Waking the Tiger
• The Highly Sensitive Person in Love
• The High Price of Materialism
• The Practicing Mind
• The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up
• The Devil in the White City
• What I Was Doing While You Were Breeding
• Chasing the Scream
• Days of Destruction, Days of Revolt
• A People's History of American Empire
• The New Jim Crow
• Palestine

written originally in 2012

• an office with windows
• travel more to Europe
• live in a house, villa, or spacious apartment/loft with an extra room for guests (no skyscraper)
• keep learning
• have relaxing weekends
• be a good wife
• see a lot of my friends; always have time for those who need me
• be a mentor
• lead others
• provide for my parents in their old age
• never worry about money; live below my means
• have enough money to buy expensive groceries, quality care products, nice bags
• drive a car less than 7 years old
• be great at cooking healthy food
• decorate with wood and leather; hard wood...

• A clever person solves a problem. A wise person avoids it. - Albert Einstein
• Speak only if it improves upon the silence. - Mohandas Gandhi
• Try to become not a man of success, but try rather to become a man of value. - Albert Einstein
• Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. - Steve Jobs
• He who is not contented with what he has,...

I need these things in my home to make me happy:

• wall-divided kitchen, or at least a lot of space to the bed (if it is a loft)
• clean, well-lit dining area (for four+ people)
• dining chairs (for two+)
• bed
• desk or separate table & work chair
• comfortable seating (other than the bed)
• warm light fixtures
• mirror
• cinder-block bookshelves
• large painting or print maybe
• closet

Everything beyond this is just icing.

• I am an extreme maximizer, and I'm fearful of making decisions because I know they'll disappoint me.
• I run from what makes me anxious.
• I seek change because I turn away from my problems.
• I am a secular humanist, sometimes existentialist/absurdist.
• I see the threat of losing friendship as something very fearful.
• I am afraid of losing potential friends' favor to the point that I will avoid any intimacy with them.
• I think I'm boring to other people.
• I am a hedonist.
• I am a different person to everyone.
• I am an ISTP.

• Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 ("There is a time for everything...")
• Proverbs 24:17 ("Rejoice not when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles.")

• staying in
• lying in bed all day
• being friends with a very small number of people
• real christians
• smart republicans
• road trips (NOT driving around town)
• being woken up in the middle of the night
• stronger eagles
• weaker lambs

• neuroticism
• I'm not really my type (physically).
• I never want to go out.
• I'm too depressed all the time.
• I have too many doubts about people. It's disheartening.
• I always order the same thing at restaurants.
• I'm too conflicted (and I talk about it too much).
• Our children would look too much like me.
• I switch often from being sexually and dynamically dominant and submissive. It's confusing.
• I'm too private. There's a problem here with my need to really dig under people's skin.
• I get anxious too often.
• I can make people who love me feel really shitty.

• mad men
• californication
• the mentalist
• nip/tuck
• freaks and geeks
• friends
• true blood
• angels in america
• how I met your mother
• misfits
• alcatraz
• downton abbey?
• game of thrones

• taxi driver
• sans soleil
• the shining
• goodfellas
• battleship potemkin
• the man with the movie camera
• blow-up
• l'avventura
• blue velvet
• citizen kane
• rear window
• bonnie and clyde
• pierrot le fou
• the 400 blows
• the apu trilogy
• some like it hot
• the piano teacher
• cleo de 5 a 7

• six feet under
• my so-called life
• the OC
• the L word
• queer as folk
• beverly hills, 90210
• alfred hitchcock presents
• twin peaks
• dollhouse
• angels in america
• dirty sexy money
• arrested development
• freaks and geeks
• mad men
• make it or break it
• bored to death
• oz

• austria
• belgium
• canada
• people's republic of china
• republic of china
• england
• france
• italy
• japan
• luxembourg
• mexico
• switzerland
• united states
• wales

• brazil
• costa rica
• cuba
• greece
• holy see
• iceland
• the netherlands
• russia
• south africa
• spain
• sweden

• tiger (cat)
• sparky (dog)
• butterball (cat)
• tabitha (cat)
• the 12 kittens (cats), including:
  • beijing
• gemini (frog)
• hella goldfish
• the little green snapper turtle from wimberley
• meal worms
• cassiopeia (dog)
• maxwell (dog)
• 2 guinea pigs

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• begin each item with an asterisk

• electronic music
• * French house (mixture of Funk, Electro, Techno, and House)
• * progressive house
• * electro house
• new wave
• psychedelic pop
• indie pop

• Rossen: fountain pen, collar stays, business card holder, bluetooth speaker-
• Dad: bonsai tree, piano book-
• Mom: Hermes bag-
• Adrian: Twin Peaks shirt, business card holder, Giorgio record-
• Liza: cat mugs, HRC button, love trumps hate shirt
• Zoe: bonsai, HRC button
• Marty: wine decanter, HRC button
• Elysia: sushi zip drive, epsilon dish-
• Rafaella: letter R dish
• Melissa: bonsai-
• Brandon: whiskey decanter
• Kerry: bath stuff
• Daniel & Abbey: starry lamp
• Rossen's family: bonsai, wine pump, bath things, wallet
• Garrett: decanter
• Sally: salt lamp-
• Elizabeth: HRC poster

• mark rothko
• richard avedon
• marlene dumas
• rene magritte
• salvador dali
• joseph cornell
• roy lichtenstein
• nicola tyson
• ellsworth kelly
• frank stella (maybe)
• milton avery
• jason polan (every piece in the moma)

• The World is Flat (Thomas Friedman)
• Guns, Germs, and Steel (Jared Diamond)
• Freakonomics (Steven Levitt)
• Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You (Sam Gosling)
• The Art of Seduction (Robert Greene)
• The Wisdom of Crowds (James Surowiecki)
• Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think (Brian Wansink)
• Damned Lies and Statistics: Untangling Numbers from the Media, Politicians, and Activists (Joel Best)
• The Crowd (Gustave Le Bon)
• How We Know What Isn't So (Thomas Gilovich)
• Blink (Malcolm Gladwell)
• When Prophecy Fails (Leon Festinger)
• The Stuff of Thought: Language as a Window into Human Nature (Steven Pinker)
• Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior (Ori Brafman)

• being teased
• assumptions about where I am, who I'm with
• long nails
• being identified by my race
• getting asked about my race
• bitter taste
• condiments
  • ketchup
  • mayonnaise
  • mustard
    • honey dijon
    • spicy
    • whatever; I don't pay any attention to these things
  • ranch dressing
  • most salad dressings other than vinaigrette
  • chocolate sauce

• how many people they've had sex with
• volume of speech
• voice
• amount of makeup
• reading
• favorite books
• grammar
• what they do at parties
• how they treat the waitstaff
• how they talk about their exes

• I am a size 7 (right hand ring)
• I am a size 6 (left hand ring)

I have had this 'sticky' on my computer for the longest time. No longer.

• the wire (working on it)
• lost
• dead like me (through 205)
• 24 (through season 3)
• true blood

• girly things
  • fish
    • goldfish
    • minnows
    • salmon, trout, and any other edible fish
    • guppies
    • anything sold in a pet store
  • eels
  • centipedes
  • maggots
  • worms
  • tics
  • cockroaches
  • lizards & geckos
• real things
  • rape
  • being alone
  • social situations/parties

• condiments
  • mustard
  • ketchup
  • mayonnaise
  • any opaque salad dressing (especially ranch!)
  • Greek yogurt
  • mole
  • sour cream
  • horse radish
  • relish
  • barbecue sauce
  • pepper
  • curry
  • wasabi
• pickles
• olives
• purple lettuce
• squash

• salty food
• being alone / time alone
• driving