Values

• making choices and feeling empowered to make choices
• having optimism
• proactivity --looking for new experiences, having curiosity at any age
• a sense of humor about everything
• courage --acting in accordance with your values always
• purpose --creating your reason to get up
• love --compassion for people in your life outside of sexuality
• spirituality --creating your own meaning like an artist
• security --having a strong sense of self, not addicted to popularity or financial status
• perspective--being able to frame life experiences
• good health --taking care of yourself mind and body, exercising your body
• altruism --giving & loving without expectation

Professor Walsh’s Big Eight TLCs

• Time in nature
• Relaxation and stress management
• Service to others
• Relationships
• Recreation
• Nutrition and diet
• Exercise
• Spiritual or religious involvement

Signs

• Your relationships are less dramatic than they use to be.
• You may not have as much money as you want but you live a rich life.
• You’re not afraid to ask for help and support.
• Where you live feels like home.
• You’ve raised your standards.
• You let go of things that don’t make you feel good.
• You have moments where you appreciate who you see in the mirror.
• You’re working on limiting your inner critic and consciously choosing more positive thoughts.
• You’ve learned that setbacks and failure are part of self-growth.
• You have a support system that includes people who would do anything for you.
• You hear “I love you” often, from friends, family or a partner.
• You’ve accepted what you can’t change, but change what you can’t accept.
• You don’t complain much, but instead focus on solutions.
• You don’t blame your parents, and accept them for who they are.
• You stopped caring about what others think of you.
• You’re happy for your exes when they move on.
• You can celebrate others’ successes.
• You allow yourself to feel your feelings and are comfortable sharing them.
• You have passions that you pursue.
• You’re able to accept compliments without deflecting.
• You have things to look forward to.
• You have goals that have come true.
• You have empathy for others.
• You feel connected to your work.
• You love deeply and open yourself up to be loved by others.

Questions

• Were we resentful?
• Did we gossip?
• Were we selfish?
• Were we dishonest?
• Were we afraid?
• Do we owe an apology?
• It says we “ceased fighting everyone and everything”. Did we find ourselves fighting today?
• Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with another person at once?
• Were we kind and loving toward all?
• What could we have done better?
• Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time?
• Did we isolate?
• Were we kind to ourselves in thought and deed?
• Did we have balance?
• Were we thinking of what we could do for others?
• Were we thinking of what we could pack into the stream of life?

Results

• Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime;
 therefore, we must be saved by hope.


• Nothing which is true or beautiful or good makes complete sense in any immediate context of history; 
therefore, we must be saved by faith.
• Nothing we do, however virtuous, could be accomplished alone; 
therefore, we must be saved by love.


• No virtuous act is quite as virtuous from the standpoint of our friend or foe as it is from our own standpoint; 
therefore, we must be saved by the final form of love, which is forgiveness.
• The Irony of American History - Reinhold Niebuhr - 1952

Start

• Start spending time with the right people.
• Start being honest with yourself about everything.
• Start competing against an earlier version of yourself. 
• Start cheering for other people’s victories.
• Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations. 
• Start helping those around you. 
• Start listening to your own inner voice.
• Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.
• Start noticing the beauty of small moments. 
• Start accepting things when they are less than perfect.
• Start working toward your goals every single day. 
• Start taking full accountability for your own life. 
• Start actively nurturing your most important relationships. 
• Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes. 
• Start noticing how wealthy you are right now. – Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” 

I am ideas

• I am following my heart and intuition.
• I am proud of myself.
• I am making a difference.
• I am happy and grateful.
• I am growing in to the best version of me.
• I am making my time count.
• I am honest with myself.
• I am good to those I care about.
• I know what unconditional love feels like.
• I have forgiven those who once hurt me.
• I take full accountability for my life.
• I have no regrets.

Misc

• see yourself in others
• appreciate the climb
• know where you feel your power and if it has value (i.e., in being sexy, in being wealthy, in being smart)
• honor what you offer to do for others, keep your promises
• hold everything sacred
• there is an inexhaustible variety to life...your way is not the only way
• unusual ambitions are not worth more than common ones
• someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.
• you are not your thoughts. you are many versions of yourself speaking…who are those speakers?
• aligning yourself with the minority is what changes history