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What a beautiful face I have found in this place that is circling all round the sun. What a beautiful dream that could flash on the screen in a blink of an eye and be gone from me. Let me hold it close and keep it here with me. And one day we will die and our ashes will fly from the aeroplane over the sea. But for now we are young, let us lay in the sun and LIST every beautiful thing we see.

Ryan books (reading, read, bookclub)
movies (In theaters, TV series, or docs)
activities (Hikes + Trips + Outdoor Activism)
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I can only have authentic experiences and connections with family, and friends, if I don’t post about it. And, this is a REMINDER regarding "like-based scrolling-feed" social media. The introduction of “scrolling,” and “likes,” on social media (by big tech) changed human psychology (we don't use those features here). They will NEVER stop engineering to make social media as addictive as possible. I feel the disease in our collective consciousness. The degradation of truth, humility, and so on. I feel it growing within myself. Unbridled capitalism brought the world slavery––don't think modern society is going to be any different.

Destroy what destroys you...


  • Social media algorithms flatten culture and art.
  • Not selling family. I don't want to package my family as a sellable commodity for their profit. We try to avoid peddling family for public consumption for corporate pro...
oct 23 2016 ∞
mar 14 2024 +
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  • Abandoned Book Depository, Detroit
  • African Party - remote office building, Paris
  • Alcatraz Prison, San Francisco
  • Audium, San Francisco
  • Basilica Cistern --underground water palace 532bc: Istanbul, Turkey
  • Bat Flight Program, Carlsbad Caverns
  • Berber Camp, Sahara Desert
  • Berghain, exclusive club in Berlin, partied all night
  • Blue Grotto, Capri Island
  • Brooklyn Underground tour (old subway lines beneath the city)
  • Bus Station, out in the middle of Turkey --craziest I've ever seen
  • Cagaloglu Hamami Bath House, Istanbul
  • Carla's apartment on the Grand Canal, Venice
  • Carlsbad Caverns
  • Cat Fanciers Association Cat Show
oct 2 2006 ∞
nov 22 2023 +
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"A dreaded sunny day, so let's go where we're happy and I'll meet you at the cemetery gates..."

GRAVES I've visited:

  • Charles Darwin, Isaac Newton (London)
  • Duke Ellington (NY)
  • Embracing Lovers (Catacombs Italy)
  • Galileo, Machiavelli, Michelangelo (Italy)
  • Judy Garland (Hollywood)
  • Karl Marx, Malcolm McLaren (London)
  • Jean-Michel Basquiat (NY)
  • Kennedy (DC)
  • Louis Armstrong & Dizzy Gillespie (Flushing NY)
  • Marilyn Monroe (LA)
  • MY family
  • Oscar Wilde, Jim Morrison, Chopin, Proust, Gertrude Stein (Paris)
  • Robert Frost (Vermont)
  • Soren Kierkegaard (Copenhagen)
nov 22 2023 ∞
mar 14 2024 +
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  • “In a world that entices us to browse through the lives of others to help us better determine how we feel about ourselves, and to, in turn, feel the need to be constantly visible, for visibility these days seems to somehow equate to success. Do not be afraid to disappear, from it, from us, and see what comes to you in the silence.” — Michaela Coel
  • “It is a serious thing just to be alive on this fresh morning in this broken world.” —Mary Oliver
  • "I am a flawed experimenting person so I will need a husband with a more forgiving disposition." AND "In some ways it would be a relief to be rid of my questing self." --Poor Things
  • "People want to love you. You should let them." - American Fiction
  • "Let's adore one another before there is no more of you and me." -Rumi
  • "There are the values we call power and p...
sep 6 2008 ∞
apr 14 2024 +
mar 6 2024 ∞
mar 6 2024 +
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“Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people.” --Arthur Schopenhauer

  • You understand feelings are not facts.
  • You realize that most of the bad behaviour of other people really comes down to fear and anxiety . You stop thinking of the world as populated by either monsters or fools.
  • You learn that what is in your head can’t automatically be understood by other people. You realise that, unfortunately, you will have to articulate your intentions and feelings with the use of words – and can’t fairly blame others for not getting what you mean until you’ve spoken calmly and clearly.
  • You learn that – remarkably – you do sometimes get things wrong. With huge courage, you take your first faltering steps towards (once in a while) apologising.
  • You learn to be confident not by realising that you’re great, but by learning that everyone else is just as stupid, scared and lost as you are. We’re all making it up as we go along, and that’s fine.
jan 18 2024 ∞
apr 11 2024 +
may 21 2010 ∞
mar 6 2024 +