Taken from Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, Psy.D. A summary of the tips the book hands you on how to recognize emotionally healthy people.

• They’re realistic and reliable.
• They can feel and think at the same time.
• Their consistency makes them reliable.
• They don’t take everything personally.
• They’re respectful and reciprocal
• They respect your boundaries.
• They give back.
• They are flexible and compromise well.
• They’re even-tempered.
• They are willing to be influenced.
• They’re truthful.
• They apologize and make amends.
• They’re responsive.
• Their empathy makes you feel safe.
• They make you feel seen and understood.
• They like to comfort and be comforted. They are sympathetic and know how crucial friendly support can be.
• They reflect on their actions and try to change. They clearly understand how people affect each other emotionally.
• They can laugh and be playful. Laughter is a form of egalitarian play between people and reflects an ability to relinquish control and follow someone else’s lead.
• They’re enjoyable to be around. They aren’t always happy, but for the most part they seem able to generate their own good feelings and enjoy life.