• watching the spongebob musical live on stage tv thing
• the first semester i was in college, right before covid-19 happened, and i found this piece of art that was purposefully left on a bench by an art group around here and showed her. it was really nice
• when i was still in college and i'd come home and make soup and toast or black bean burgers and we'd watch silly youtube videos together
• watching musicals in general with her
• when i was going to abbys house for the first time and we talked a lot before i left and i gave her a good hug
• when i got locked outside our new house on september 30th, 2022, and had to crawl into the window and was messaging her and talking through the window. it was really really funny
• in the hospital when she told me i can have her kindle then was like fleshie you get my kindle dont forget. um. i dont think theres any porn on there. im pretty sure i didnt leave any porn on there

MUSIC

• when she showed me i love myself today by bif naked and burned it onto a cd for me so i could do a cool show with it (i love that song)
• when she was really into tori amos and was watching a lot of her music videos on the tv with me, i was really young
• listening to dar williams song as cool as i am when i was young with her, and asking what why she'd be afraid of women. i dont remember how she explained it, but i understand it now in a way i didn't as a child and i wish i could tell her