- after being virtual for 3 years, when you went on your first work trip, he downloaded bumble, tinder, and hinge and met up with another woman to try and sleep with her. when he couldn't get it up, he told you he thought he was impotent and asked for oral, when you hadn't slept. every time he went on work trips, you cleaned the house, got him gifts, prepared food, and cried for having missed him so badly. you even got a tattoo for him while he was away, you missed him so much.
- instead of telling you this, he told you he wasn't in love with you and to move home with your mom, despite his home being one he said was "ours." you found out he met with another woman based on texts from his apple watch. he called you his "ex" and said you came back to "his house" to the woman he tried to sleep with, he told her to be careful who she coupled up with
- when you came back a few weeks later to move out, you invited him to cocktails. he said he would come, but he never showed up, because he was having dinner and drinks with his coworker, rikki, who he ended up dating. he was also financially concerned and was afraid he'd miss his mortgage, and you gave him $1000. he took her out to eat with it. This is a mere weeks after the breakup
- he told you he loved you and missed you and wanted to try again. he told you one night he was at home, watching a disney movie and healing, talking with guy friends. You had a friend visit the bar he was at and saw him making out with a blonde he stayed out with until 2 a.m.
- he invited you to his company holiday party and you bought a non-refundable dress. after that, he uninvited you because it would make his ex, rikki, uncomfortable if you were there. he said he would not go then. he went anyways
- ruthie - they are still in touch daily
- he looked through your devices in your apartment while you were sleeping, violating privacy and your sacred space
- he took you out for dinner and cocktails and asked for a threesome after telling you he wanted to try again. he was very insistent
- he said it felt like you were the one who cheated on him when you finally started dating again
- he told you he wanted to be your husband and spend his life with you while he was inside of you, while you were watching his special needs cat for a month, while you were doing his laundry from his work trip to florida and folding it up, while you were cooking for him. he's been saying this for months. he told you he got back from small group and was learning how to be a good husband, while that same day he was on tinder. had been the whole time you two were talking. tried to justify it, saying he doesn't trust me after i told him i called my ex for clarity on something he did, though i told him this proactively. was so angry at me even though i spoke gently.
- asked why i wanted to try with him again when i wanted to only be friends. set a boundary of no sex that i felt pressured into having
- excessive drinking, staying out late
- motorcycles and the 2%-20% statistic
- rose - saying he wouldn't get to ride with her before ireland, but went before and didn't mention it. the call from her in his car. him saying she is interested in him, after denying it.
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