• lava lamps helping with internet encrypt...
• there are numbers without names because ...

• Hydrojug (the best purchase i made this year; water bottle of my dreams i love her]
• linen comforter/duvet (bought on fb marketplace but it feels so clean and fluffy and wonderful)
• physical planner (have owned one of these for every calendar year since 2013 and i use the HECK out of it. helps me prioritize and clear my mind)
• my $10 amazon wallet (so nice to have something compact and where coins don't fall out)
• crossbody bag (cute and wonderful for walks and hiking! so much joy this one brings me)
• trader joes lunch box ($4 and nice to zip my lunch into place!)
• keurig (my happiest coffee on the weekends. it's so cute. she keeps me sane)
• green dutch oven (heavens i LOVE this. wonderful gift from mom that i make pot roa...

• mom's memory loss
• pulmonary embolism
• dying alone/being alone for a long time
• having people in my life who don't care about me/having a partner who doesn't know me or my heart well
• not being liked
• making people upset
• yelling or angry, loud sounds (door slamming, sudden sounds)
• painful death
• not doing everything I want to before I die
• how dangerous things are environmentally
• getting a slower metabolism
• doing things and them not being perfect (this is why i cannot stick with a project)
• ominous sounds at night
• getting scary tiktoks at 3 in the morning

• never stop dating one another - continue to pursue each other whether it has been 5 years or 20
• be intentional with our time together. anytime we go out to eat, call it a date.
• take time to reconnect and build when things feel stagnant
• always hold hands when we're together
• find things to do together and to learn together often and regularly
• 30 minutes of intentional time, no phones, each week (minimum)
• reminders during fights that we love each other and we are more important than the point

• knickers in a knot
• over-the-moon
• hard to swallow
• head-over-heels
• raining cats and dogs/raining buckets
• (someone) asked for the moon on a stick
• stick up their ass

• drinking game or just ft aj on september 10 to watch debate
• they have a virtual tour of these cave paintings in france; i haven’t seen it in years but that could be fun to see and talk about
• make a silly PowerPoint teaching one another about something we enjoy or the other may not know about and present it
• get a few people together for jackbox games? (mau, colin, maggie, maggie +1)
• draw together/pictionary
• dinner and eat in front of each other?? (is this weird?)
• learn ASL basics together (alphabet, please, thank you, more, yes, no?)
• dream board (i am not sure he would like this but i think it could be cute)
• MAYBE bible study or devotionals?
• cook together or wine/cocktail night
• truth or dare???

television shows

• sex and the city (finished)
• desperate housewives
• new girl (finished)
• white lotus
• inventing anna
• the morning show
• silicon valley (finished)
• schitt’s creek (finished)
• ted lasso (started)
• the good place (finished)
• this is us (finished)
• bluey (<3)
• silicon valley (finished)
• the expanse (finished)
• westworld (ended in S4; will not finish)
• jury duty (finished)
• sherlock (finished)

movies/films

• pepsi - where’s my jet

in the country:

• Seattle, WA (fish, city, coffee)
• Colorado (skiing, flower, scenery)
• New York, NY (food scene, city, broadway, Ruder Finn)
• Grand Canyon (scenery & spiritual)
• Griffith Observatory (planetarium proposal)
• Yosemite (scenery & spiritual)
• Yellowstone (scenery & spiritual)
• Crater Lake & National Park (scenery & spiritual)

in the world:

• Iceland (northern lights & fjaðrárgljúfur canyon)
• Jamaica (psilocybin therapy & beaches)
• Ireland (heritage, food, & the rock)
• Amsterdam (cardamom buns & biking)
• Italy (pasta, wine, architecture, & cheese)

have been (top ranked for me)

• white duck taco (so good for visitors)
• coral (amazing oysters and best espresso martinis)
• paloma (BEST cocktails and apps, a little pricey but their ricotta!!)
• green lettuce usa (hands-down best mediterranean food i have ever had. rosewater saffron ice cream is to die for)
• foxcroft wine co (nice for groups of 2-4)

have been (very good but not top-tier loved)

• clock (for when i feel like a greasy burger or steak fries)
• pita house (domas are amazing but cash only)
• pomegranate on main (good but always nervous to eat there)
• stella's southern braisserie (cocktails a...

• ride a horse
• go rock climbing (seriously look into membership)
• hold a snake
• try caviar
• make cardamom buns from scratch
• get a library card
• leave more reviews (they help me so much)
• go to high tea (26??)
• spend as much time outside as possible
• cook new things from pinterest boards
• go dancing, at least once
• journal more consistently (whether writing or sticking with junk journal)
• host! more! girl dates!
• read so much more! make it a priority
• if tiktok is alive, post consistently (niche: being consistent with routines like exercise)
• try to care less about what people think ...

• water with lemon
• coffee (all coffee is good but the rose cardamom coffee from village grind, omfg)
• bubly (orange cream, cherry, and lime)
• hint (coconut, watermelon, pineapple, cherry, and blueberry lemon)
• horchata
• diet coke/coke zeros (new love: with coconut creamer)
• moscow mules
• passionfruit margaritas
• kombucha
• thai tea
• ranch water
• hot rose petal tea
• rose boba
• mogu mogu (mango and peach are best)

• falling asleep and waking up together, night-long snuggles
• hearing them sing around the space or talk to themselves (them talking to animals in the house, too)
• cooking for one another, trying foods together (especially trying something new or bizarre from the grocery store)
• getting rat girl together with snacks and blankets and watching a show or movie, touching feet
• calling for them and hearing them answer you across the space. the *pat pat pat* of their feet as they come when you ask for them
• filling one another's waters
• showing a grocery store haul and surprising them with their favorite snacks
• drinking together in the home in pajamas
• having hot drinks together late at night - cocoa and teas. it feels sacred

• cara's orzo salad
• beef stroganoff
• zuppa tusconna
• pot roast
• greek-inspired chicken bowls (chicken, rice, roasted veg, tatziki)
• chicken noodle soup
• shepherd's pie
• breakfast frittata (sausage, squash, onion, bell pepper, cheese)
• late night spicy noodles (only for close close guests)
• chicken salad (with greek yogurt - high protein and good for hosting!)
• cheesy chicken, broccoli, rice bake
• tiktok salmon bowls (but i've never actually made the salmon, just everything else)

• creamy chicken pesto pasta
• chicken and rice
• swedish meatballs and mashed potatoes
• cajun potato soup
• shepherds pie baked potatoes??
• enchilada rice skillet
• chicken noodle soup but follow my heart

• log starters are ALWAYS good gift
• pepper bra but idk what size
• hatch alarm clock
• new sonicare toothbrush or laifen electr...
• aybl brown set - leggings, crop top, and...
• cloud couch
• these gingham pillowcases (and perhaps the matching sheets one day)
• Dazzle nail polish set, with red polish ...
• couch similar to this one someday
• College of Charleston keychain I love mine but she crumblin'
• kindle, possibly? Easier to travel with?
• 2025 planner and lined notebook (i use TF out of my physical planners)

• summer 2024 with mau. we went to the beach on sullivan’s island and stopped to get pub subs and snacks before. we ate them and had such full bellies and laid in the sun for hours and definitely turned a little pink from all of the hear. we went to the ocean to cool off and LOTS of fishies were biting both of us directly in the ass; nowhere else. one of my happiest moments in life i think; we were laughing so hard we could not catch our breath. also trying nasty aperol spritzes at the five loaves cafe together which bleh! but it was fine and we took cute pictures together and could not stop laughing yet again. just happy times - i know we did more than this together on that visit but i only remember the laughter and feeling so, so happy with her
• fall 2018. i have a longer note on this in my phone because it is how i will start...

• pickles, drinking pickle juice. extra points for spicy pickles
• pickled anything, really (spicy quail eggs, garlic, okra, peaches)
• first bite of cheesecake - the pointy bite
• carrots and hummus
• oysters on the half shell!!!
• cucumbers and allouette
• onigiri (spicy salmon!!)
• pho!!! (extra cilantro, extra lime)
• sushi (extra points for spicy here, too)
• peanut butter and raspberry preserve sandwiches
• passion fruit, mango, pineapple - tropical flavors
• boursin/allouette and crackers
• baked brie (with chopped pistachios and honey - best with others; not a solo treat)
• tinned fish (smoked mackerel), corn crack...

• what is your enneagram?
• what is your mbti?
• do you have siblings?
• do you like your parents? are they still together?
• how would you describe your childhood?
• if you could do anything, and money wasn't a factor, what would it be?
• what are 5 things you would love to do before you die?
• what is the most meaningful quote or words to you?
• what are three things that never fail to make you happy, or at the very least, spark joy?
• what are your favorite items you own?
• what is your most embarrassing moment?
• what is your saddest moment?
• what is your happiest moment?
• what is something hurtful someone said that has stuck with you?

have eaten

• jellyfish (yes i know)
• bone marrow (delicious fr)
• chicken heart (not for me by virtue of texture)
• bison (no thank u)
• octopus
• raw fish (cara calls 'fish flaps')
• pine needles
• mushrooms (lions mane is most bizarre)
• chainey briar
• bleu cheese (nasty)
• raw oysters (yum now, but picky of my half shells)
• rare wagyu (delicious! like butter!)
• raw crab (at bexley - was salted or marinated or something and had texture of jerky. yum!!)
• lotus root (delicious and crunchy)
• hearts of palm (fleshy)

want to eat

• smoked trout - world market (5/5, but there are bones)
• mustard sardines - dollar tree (2/5, but it scratched the itch)
• smoked mussels - trader joes (4/5 SO yum, this is great on a corn cracker with kewpie and garlic chili oil)
• smoked oysters (3/5, pretty good and almost like mussels but they're more firm and oily imo)
• anchovies (*/5, hard to say because i used a bunch in a homeade ceasar salad dressing. ate one regular and the bones threw me, to crunch through them)

• i carry your heart with me (e.e. cummings)
• since feeling is first (e.e. cummings)
• i want to apologize to all the women (rupi kaur)
• song of myself (walt whitman)
• for the anniversary of my death (w.s. merwin)
• walden; or, life in the woods - 'i went to the woods because'(henry david thoreau)
• finish each day and be done with it (ralph waldo emerson)
• if you but knew (anonymous)
• black cherries (w.s. merwin)

2017

• leaving home and going to college
• horrific breakup and leaving mom

2018

• the Bad Thing that happened over the summer and trying to unalive
• surviving and getting a job at peninsula grill

2019

• a LOT (summer pain, dad's coma, nonnie passing)
• quality time with Gigi through all of that

2020

• coronavirus, gaining weight
• quality time with mau, quality time with miltons

2021

• family is THE most important thing in my life (this includes close friends, too)
• absolutely love transcendentalism and it leads my personal life in a very personal way i don’t talk about much, but it helps me take things less seriously and has helped me on my journey to be present
• i think of myself as a record keeper kind of through videos and pictures. i try to take as many candids as i can or videos of me doing things with people i love. looking back on them when i am feeling blue makes me perk up so much. and i love sending them to people i love when i am feeling that way so they know they have helped in cheering me up idk idk
• i love the sun and the fall so much. the sun always makes me feel better and perk up so much. fall just feels and looks wonderful and always fills me with a sense of hope for some reason

• Allan Alexander Douglas Baily III
• ENTP, type 8 enneagram, w 3/7
• September 23, 1994 (libra)
• only child (but good)
• first meet april 10, 2024 (this is good, it’s an even date)
• huge bubble bath fan, takes them almost daily
• University of Florida first year of college
• West Point, math sciences and operations research double major
• Harvard, computational science and engineering
• Male dog named Shadow, sixth owner, ~2.5 years old (as of April 2024)
• Abby was the “bestest girl” - one of AJ’s favorite memories is her running to him in the shelter
• Another favorite memory is when he was accepted into Harvard and bought an expensi...

physical things:

• braces to get dream smile
• a notebook with no lines for sketching
• big sseko bag / pocketbook
• matching towels in my future home
• matching white sheets & bedding for my future home
• cozy, green sofa in my future home
• a soft, fluffy blanket for my sofa
• throw pillows for my sofa
• a professional haircut
• a pair of nice-fitting jeans
• a collection of my favorite books on paper (divergent, john green, matched, cold awakening, uglies, cinder)
• woodwick candles for my home
• a food processor for making vegan foods
• a nice camera (both digital and polaroid)
• a violin again someday

non-tangible things:

• pisces girlie - big three
• coco is her true soulmate in life (coco's death still sits with her heavy i think)
• most colorful/color-loving human I know
• extremely empathetic - feels emotions deeply and feels other people’s emotions deeply too
• crochet queen
• box wine - pinot grigio
• super artistic - drawing, painting, crafty
• thrift store goddess - always has the best finds and such unique sense of style
• berry colored lips always
• adds faux freckles to real ones
• chops sleeves off of t-shirts (started in 2023)
• loves the strokes
• pen pals
• kombucha - loves drinking, loves making. ...