• Pls do not get it twisted. Yes, I am soft... and maybe I am so in love with you. But there is also another side of me where I am clued on, quick-witted, sharp, straight to the point of my words. I can call you out, question you, and make you slip up on your strategy that you have been doing all along. I see right through you.

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I Didn’t Realize It Was Emotional Abuse—Until I Did. 💔🕊️

I want to share something deeply personal—not because it’s easy, but because someone else might need these words the way I once did. Maybe that someone is you. For a while, I thought I was just in a relationship with someone who was hurting. Someone with deep insecurities, or maybe even trauma. Someone who loved me so much, it hurt. I thought I could fix it—with more love, more patience, more understanding.

But over time, I began to notice the signs:

❌ I was constantly being accused of things I never did.
❌ I had to explain every move I made.
❌ My truth was never enough.
❌ I started walking on eggshells.
❌ I stopped being myself—out of fear of triggering him.
❌ I felt emotionally alone, even when I wasn’t physically alone.

This wasn’t passion. This wasn’t love.
This was emotional abuse.

To understand who is being abused and who the abuser is, ask yourself:

🔹 Are you being constantly accused of things you didn’t do?
🔹 Do you feel emotionally manipulated, restricted, or punished for behaviors that are normal or innocent?
🔹 Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, trying to prevent jealousy or outbursts?
🔹 Do your words and truths get twisted or dismissed?
🔹 Do you feel isolated, afraid, or drained?

If you’re answering yes to those, even silently…
 👉 You may be experiencing emotional or psychological abuse.
And in that case, he may be the abuser—even if unintentionally, even if mentally unwell.

⚠️ Mental illness is never a justification for abuse.
It can be an explanation, yes. But not an excuse. He might be struggling.
He might feel tortured by imagined betrayals—"I saw the way you looked at him."
But the line is here:
 Once his suffering leads to harm—especially repeated emotional harm—you are the one being abused.

And I want you to know—especially my fellow women, and single moms like me:
You don’t owe anyone proof of your worth.
You are not required to stay in a relationship that drains your spirit just because someone is “broken.”
Yes, he might need help. But you are not the one who has to be hurt in the process. 💛

🚩 If you’re being constantly accused with no proof…
🚩 If you feel controlled, isolated, or emotionally manipulated…
🚩 If you’re doubting your own reality…

Please know: That is not love. That is harm.
 Even when it’s wrapped in apologies, or “I’m just scared to lose you,” or “I love you too much.” You’re not “too sensitive.”
You’re not “making things up.”
You’re not “crazy.”
You are being hurt—and you deserve better.

If this sounds familiar, I see you. I believe you. And you are not alone.

💌 Healing begins when we choose to believe our own story.
🕊️ Strength begins when we say, “This is not what I deserve.”
🌷 Freedom begins the moment you choose yourself.

And please—think of your child.
A child deserves a parent who is emotionally safe, present, and whole.
A child deserves a peaceful home.
Your child deserves you—healthy, protected, and free.

Save yourself. Run.
You’re not doing it just for you—you’re doing it for the future you both deserve. 🫂