• A great deal of what goes under the name of love is seeking for success, for approval. One needs someone to tell one not only at four o’clock in the afternoon but also at eight and at ten and at twelve: “You’re fine, you’re all right, you are doing well” […..] People do not see that the main question is not: “Am I loved?” Which is to a large extent the question: “Am I approved of? Am I protected? Am I admired?” The main question is: “Can I love?

Erich Fromm // The Selfish Capitalist: Origins of Affluenza // James Oliver // p.48-49