- was it intentional? - look at it from the other person's perspective, is it clear that they meant to hurt you, or could it be an accident?
- what am i feeling? - am i purely reacting to their behavior, or did it tap something internal, like doubts of self-worth, or fear, or embarrassment/shame?
- what's really going on? - once you identify your true emotion, examine why you are feeling it, did their behavior merely trigger something you've already been dwelling on?
- where's the relief? - what do you need to help this feeling? alone time, distraction through a movie or activity, time with friends who will cheer you up? don't be afraid to ask a friend for help or let them know you're having a hard time
- how can i prevent it from happening again? - trust your relationships enough to be open with the person about what hurts you, don't be afraid to be honest but be clear you're not placing blame, just expressing where you're insecure or what you're sensitive to, and make a plan for the future to avoid or deal with those spots
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