you respond to encouraging words

✿ kind words, compliments, positive feedback – this is what makes you feel loved. you are very sensitive to the power of words that do good. tender words about your looks, clothes, human qualities, professional skills… are all highly motivating for you. you feel like you are really living and that your partner appreciates you. it’s no surprise that nothing is more hurtful to you that harsh ultimata, sarcasm or cruel words. to you words have the power to elevate, motivate or destroy. you are equally receptive to words of encouragement: those that urge you to go forward with something you were hesitating about, perhaps because you were doubting yourself. such words proved that your partner believes in you and help you understand that your relationship is based on trust. some advice: if your partner were to change some of their behaviours, it could help further harmonise your couple. nothing better than for them to read the results of your test! some people aren’t used to putting their appreciation into words, while others can be stingy with their compliments. it’s all a question of education, some wrongly thing that you can read their thoughts, so no need of saying anything. encourage your partner to verbalise their thoughts. teach then to tone down a little: rather than exigent demands or warnings (you didn’t do this… you must do that…) ask them to use a more requesting type language (i’d really like it if you would… it would be a help to me if you could…) as you are sensitive to compliments you would particularly appreciate it if your partner praised you, and not just when you two are along… when they get some public praise, you would be touched and flattered if they publicly associated you with their success.

jul 27 2020 ∞
aug 21 2021 +