• can't really remember how I identified until my mid-teens but I think I always knew I was attracted to girls.
• identified as bisexual in high school.
• idenitified as pansexual in my later teens and early 20s.
• realized I was a lesbian around 22/23.
• used the asexual label throughout most of my 20s until I finally realized and accepted that I'm not, and that I was just using it as a way to say "I'm traumatized and don't think I'll ever be able to have sex."
• I currently use the terms lesbian and finsexual (Feminine-In-Nature) to describe my sexuality.

I do often question my sexuality due to fluctuating feelings and environmental factors. I'm confident that I am a lesbian, but recently I've accepted that my sexuality is at least a teeny bit fluid. Thanks to (tmi?) getting through my first pap smear so well, the idea of penetrative sex no longer deathly terrifies me, but I don't think I will ever be comfortable having sex with a man. But my phallophobia has greatly decreased! I am no longer opposed to the idea of having sex with a partner with a penis, strap-on, or any other (safe!) penetrative object.