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everytime someone grieves, the first thing i wish for them is a space wide enough to let that grief sit by their side. may you have a long conversation with it, long enough to remind you that the heart you use to love is the same heart that is trained to keep you alive.

i hope you heal so much that taking care of yourself is one of your favorite things to do and i hope you can forgive yourself for everything you did before you got there

can someone explain the psychology behind hating myself but loving characters that are like me

you seem pretty uncertain for a girl so capable

It’s so important to include things you can look forward to in your daily life, just the tiny joy’s and little things, a cup of tea, a little conversation, a walk, a sweet treat, anything that keeps you still excited, it’ll make the bad days have good, and the good days better

really wanna live in a peaceful seaside ghibli town with ambiguous european architecture and bakeries and maybe a field right outside of town where i can have picnics with the love of my life tbh

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one day, you will randomly snap out of dehumanizing yourself for so long. for any reason. it could be you and your friends laying on top of one another talking about being human. it could be someone telling you that they quite enjoy you as you are. it could be uncovering trauma.

i tried in january i tried in february i tried in march and i will try again in april

you can literally wake up one day and be like “actually, fuck everything about my past and the self-sabotaging identity i had” and decide to live an entirely new life and be someone who always fucking wins. it doesn’t take a feeling or breakthrough moment or epiphany. only a decision.

going to sleep early and letting the sunlight wake you up instead of an alarm actually does make your mornings significantly better wtf

mark leaving nct is like spongebob quitting the krusty krab 😭😭😭 like good for him he was overworked but like thats the employee of the month every month

i just read his message and i feel like he’s already fulfilled and contented. like he just want to do things on his own now bc he’s already happy he got to do things with the members. no bitterness, no regrets, just a person who’s genuinely happy of his decision. and im happy for him for real.

tbh for mark to leave sm on his own terms without scandal, with such a strong career behind him since debut, for him to choose himself and put forth the truth that his goal and his happiness comes first... its a good thing to see in the current industry. endlessly proud of you

heavy on that. because it’s one thing to love making music and performing it’s another to have a packed schedule all through the year. year by year at that

mourning something that gave you some much joy and strength over the last years cause it’s monumentally changing while still being supportive and hopeful about what’s to come for everyone is such a weird feeling

spent 10 years doing the job of an idol thrice over without ever half-assing a moment of it or complaining i think mark could announce his retirement and nobody could say the decision isn't deserved

Mark wrote the sweetest goodbye message, concluded his participation without loose ends, and maintained good relationship with his members and company. This is the most bittersweet departure I’ve experienced. He really made sure to give everyone the most peaceful closure.

not sure if anyone needs this. i was in a temporary slump for the past few days too. but today, mark showed me something really valuable that i sometimes forget.

you're strong and brave enough when you make big decisions, or when you choose to prioritise yourself, or when you want to chase your dreams — the reason why you started everything. at the end of the day, idols and fans are all human too. we all have something that we really want to pursue.

its okay to run non stop for that, and its okay to pause and take a breather at times. and as we run towards with different goals, we cherish the memories, experiences, and friendships we’ve made along the way. we can prioritise, give more love & respect to ourselves too.

a new or big change in our lives, or even goodbyes dont always have to be a bad thing. it could be a start to something better, something we learned along from the chapter before. and we never know, someday while opening new doors, we might encounter the same people that we've met before, but in a better version of ourselves, with a smile & no regrets.

its okay that everyday is not a flowery or happy day, or its feels heavy or even mundane, or there are days when you want to cry so hard. its okay that you cannot be here all the time & want to focus on your real life too. even when you're struggling to get back up, or just moving forward, you are already doing your best for yourself.

be kind to the people you met in life, and above all, be kind to yourself first 🤍

mark leaving nct is so so sad genuinely i feel like a big part of my teenagehood just ended

I really think what mark did took an immense amount of courage & bravery. It’s not easy to walk away from everything he has worked so hard for & helped build. it’s so inspiring to me that he picked his health & happiness while clearly communicating with his members but I’m SAD 😭

dream was actually the closest thing i have for a home after exo. i found them when my world was crumbling. and for a moment i honestly thought i’d have something constant.

oh, wow. this hurts even more now that i am actually voicing it out :(

i reread this several times that it changed from pure sadness to also this feeling of proud bcs for someone with so many achievements and talents yet to be delivered fully, he knows when to stop and pulls the break, with such a clean exit too. it takes bravery and strength.

if mark leaving NCT taught me anything, it’s that i gotta have the courage to leave any situation even if it’s all i’ve known, even if it was subjectively “good,” and no matter how scary it seems because i need to honour what feels most authentic to myself.

haechan about to stand in front of that kfc and watch mark walk away like gojo losing geto

• 5- awful. everything is wrong.
• 5- bad but i acknowledge the production quality.
• 5- boring. has some good qualities
• 5- solid w at least 1 great aspect. i liked it.
• 5- love it i’d rewatch and recommend.

5- PERFECTION. it has changed smth within me.

barista dreamies, dino ABC, 7illin in the DREAM, hot sauce era, crazy boring chilling photobooks, golla ma dish era, first 7dream full album & repack, hello future era (the best btw), double million sellers, pastel purple & green season’s greetings.. 2021 was such an era to me

just saw a kfan say “mark is the kind of person who has the courage to move forward even after letting go of the things he's loved so far Haechan is the kind of person who has the courage to keep protecting the things he's loved so far, all the way into the future”

you seem pretty unmotivated for a girl so competitive

Performativism and 'social media'-fication of film critique and consumption is a relatively small drawback to a platform that's lead countless people to engage with film that otherwise wouldn't.

This summer I am going to learn three new languages and bike 50k a day and spend every hour of sunlight on the beach and read every book ever written and become a chess grandmaster and play instruments and run and run and run

The only remedy to get back to yourself is to intentionally put in the effort to figure out exactly who you are, what you like and what you want out life. Most times, it requires you to tune out social media for a while and other possible distractions to get an authentic answer

As long as your intentions are pure, don't stress over anything or anyone. Trust that you will always end up exactly where you're meant to be, and that nothing is ever truly your loss.

There are too many emails. Too many texts. Too many accounts. Too many logins. Too many apps. Too many rewards programs. Too many fundraisers. Too many appointments. Too many virtual meetings. Too many newsletters. Too many forms. Too many social media platforms. My brain hurts.

you literally just have to get really good at continuing

Have confidence in your own taste. This is the key to personal cultural happiness in a sea of annoying discourse!

i am abundantly blessed 𓂃 ﾟ｡🦋 ⋆ ⟡ i am abundantly blessed 𓂃 ﾟ｡🌸 ⋆ ⟡ i am abundantly blessed 𓂃 ﾟ｡🧚🏽‍♀️ ⋆ ⟡ i am abundantly blessed 𓂃 ﾟ｡🐞 ⋆ ⟡ i am abundantly blessed 𓂃 ﾟ｡🫐 ⋆ ⟡ i am abundantly blessed 𓂃 ﾟ｡🪴 ⋆ ⟡ i am abundantly blessed 𓂃 ﾟ｡🍓 ⋆ ⟡

Today’s to do list:

• Bite off more than I can chew
• Build Rome in one day
• Poke a bear with a stick
• Beat a dead horse
• Skate on thin ice

If you want a rare life, you have to be delusional. Doubt can enter your mind, and it can sound reasonable, but if you entertain it too much it will slowly drag you down into stagnation. I'd rather reap the lesson from massive failure than do nothing because it's not "realistic."

At some point, you will have to disappoint others to live a life that is honest to you. People-pleasing will drain you, not save you. You have every right to set boundaries and choose your peace; you can disappoint people and still be a good person.

the best thing you can do for yourself is actively increase your surface area for luck to hit you. go outside, try new cafes, museums, events, take a new route home, speak to people, ask questions, side quest. the more you do, the more serendipity and synchronicity will find you.

can't believe i mourned like mark lee personally packed his bags and moved to a farm with no wifi

A lot of you are missing the critical thinking skills that academic rigor in a social science field would have provided for you

Committing to neuroplasticity made me unragebaitable

I think if we keep chasing nostalgia we'll never find the spark that led to eras/aesthetics like this in the first place. Creatives need to be experimenting again.

when anton said "dream doesn't automatically equal happiness", this hits me hard, really. he reminds us that happiness is a frequency, not a destination.. to feel happiness is to create it ourselves, not to chase it