from galadarling's list

• make a list of reasons why you love yourself
  • write down compliments other people give you
• reach out to others & regularly
  • talk to people about how you're feeling
• change the way you think about food
• stretch in the mornings
• really listen to people when they are speaking
• have media black-out days
  • once a week
• ask for help
• know that you are good enough--all the time
• find a mantra/affirmation & hold it close
• do your very, very best to stop judging people
• explore your sexuality
• express love in as many ways as you can
  • the more love you give out, the more it builds inside of you
• take a bath
• embrace the unknown, accept not knowing
• clean out your closet
• increase the amount of spinach you eat
• make that little extra effort every day
  • do that self care thing that will make you feel good
• listen to new types of music and dance
• be good to your body
  • find some sort of regular exercise
• know that you deserve love--from yourself & from everyone else
• do something you’ve been afraid to do
  • it's never too late to do something you really want to do
• self-criticism and self-hate is not "love"
• recognise that you are a miracle
• eat dark chocolate
• stop worrying about other people’s opinions
  • all that matters is that it sits well with you
• nourish yourself
  • listen to what your body is telling you it really needs
• find amazing new icons & role models
• get more sunshine
• stop trying to “fit in”
• get out everything that you’ve been holding onto
  • draw it, write it down, just get it out of you somehow--then destroy it, & let it go
• write a letter to yourself as a child
  • this can be an amazing exercise in forgiveness & pure, unadultered self love
• run away
  • spend some time by yourself or with a close friend. escape the usual. go somewhere you’ve never been, spend some time, soak it up
• be brave
  • take a deep breath & just go for it
• talk to strangers
• respect yourself 100%
  • & don’t accept anything less from anyone else
• appreciate the people in your life
  • if you don’t show them how much they mean to you, they might not stick around, & it’s a hard lesson to learn. be good to them. let them know how much you value them all the time. you cannot be too loving
• journal your thoughts, chart your moods, make dream sheets (also called vision boards, just on a smaller scale), write affirmations, take note of powerful sayings & compose love letters to yourself
  • see how things change. channel powerful women until you feel like you are one too. nothing is forbidden, everything is allowed. be you.
• dress up for yourself
  • wear things that make you happy, wear things that you like
• really take time for yourself
  • wake up half an hour earlier & do some yoga or sun salutations, even sit in a comfortable chair & do some deep breathing — anything to get you grounded & centered for the day
• set for yourself enormous goals
• be your own superhero
• make magic everyday
• do not live your life online
  • unplug, do something different
• volunteer
• be your own best friend
  • as opposed to your own worst enemy
• support other women
• don't patronize places that don't treat you properly
• don’t settle for things just because “it’s always been this way”
  • fuck the status quo, don’t compromise on things which are important to you
• be good to your temple
  • you only get one — might as well lavish it with love
• be impeccable with your word
  • from Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The Four Agreements: “Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.” be honest & kind with the things you say
• do “the right thing”, even when you’d get away with it, even when no one is watching
  • integrity, integrity
• treat other people with respect at all times
  • everybody, no matter their situation, deserves it
• be compassionate
• “You have to give to the world the thing that you want the most, in order to fix the broken parts inside you.” Eve Ensler
• operate on your own agenda
• innovate
  • try new things. shake up your routine. see what works.
• evaluate your life & ruthlessly cut out the things which aren’t working
• come up with your own definition of spirituality
  • a way of reconnecting yourself to the present moment. some people do this by dancing, others by meditating. whatever it is, make time for it in your life, & make it a priority
• share your dreams
• reinvent yourself as an expression of pure love--if you want to
• spend time with people who do good things
• take action
• incorporate meditative ritual into your life
• be inclusive
  • invite your friends to places. include everyone in the conversation. ask people you don’t know so well about themselves. make people feel like you want them there
• think about what you want the theme of your life to be
  • how can you bring that theme into your everyday life
• think about how you can encourage other people to love themselves too
• celebrate the ways in which you have grown & changed
• embrace your power
• start dressing in the way that you want, in a way that makes you feel confident and like you
• love everyone
  • even when they hurt you, even when they don’t get it, even when they don’t listen & even when they behave badly
• Leonard Cohen: “Ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering, there’s a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.”
• get more sleep
  • most of us don’t get anywhere near enough hours of rest, & it can seriously impair our bodies & emotional states. just go to bed a little bit earlier — you’ll feel so much better.
• apologise
  • so that everyone can move on
• take yourself on dates
  • you deserve your love much more than anyone else does
• don’t take yourself too seriously
• forgive yourself
• just love yourself
  • no matter the circumstances. you are always good enough, you always deserve it & you are always beautiful, despite what you might think or believe. just love yourself.