- take the time to know them really well before investing your heart.
- trust is earned. it takes time. if they lie to you and make you doubt their trustworthiness before you've even really started - don't waste your time.
- sometimes losing someone is a blessing in disguise.
- know your dealbreakers. stick to them. do not just tolerate anything.
- if you specifically lay out your boundaries to someone, and they continue to cross those boundaries - they do not care about your feelings.
- if they have photos or videos of an ex still, walk away. they are not over them. you do not deserve to be a rebound.
- if they talk about their ex a lot, they still think about them a lot.
- if they are very protective of their phone, proceed with caution. they are hiding something.
- do not doubt your intuition. we have it for a reason, to help guide as away from trouble.
- people do lie and cheat on people they claim they love. however, love involves caring about someone else's feelings. so basically: no, they don't.
- we tend to model adult relationships after ones we experienced in our childhood. this leads people into toxic relationships at times. try therapy. don't repeat the patterns. you don't have to.
- you do deserve to be happy, loved, feel handsome/beautiful, trusted, sexy, cared for, spoiled, and treated right by the person you are dating. if they don't make you feel that way, they might not be the one.
- if they are emotionally abusive - leave.
- if they are physically abusive - consider filing a police report, and leave.
- DON'T SETTLE FOR ANYONE WHO MISTREATS YOU!!!
- one of my biggest lessons i had to learn was with my ex, where i stayed in a very unhappy and unhealthy long distance relationship because i had no one else. i was abused on the regular, but he convinced me his mistreatment was my own fault. that if i only acted the way he wanted me to act, everything would be fine. it took me a year of crying myself to sleep to finally leave and it was the best decision i could have made for myself. why did i stay? low self-esteem, not having any other friends, and emotional manipulation.
- only have sex when both people involved are ready and wanting it. never any other time.
- relationships are hard. even if both people really do care about each other, sometimes incompatibility is too hard to ignore. sometimes that happens, and it's sad, but letting go is the best thing to do.
- overall, relationships should be like a friendship where you both enjoy being together and it's happy. when it's not happy, you feel like a team who can get through any problems together. i hope you find that. and sometimes working on your education or career comes first to secure a future and there's nothing wrong with that.
- love when you're ready not when you're lonely. and take your time.
jun 1 2020 ∞
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