- Accept/appreciate that I’m not a solid person or an idea. I can’t be pinned down to any one thing. I am a work in progress, and I think I always will be. I am painfully indecisive at times and if you can’t accept that, it won’t work. I don’t have a specific sexuality, I don’t have a solid gender, I don’t have concrete opinions, and my personality is complicated at best. Be patient with me on these things.
- Be ambitious or passionate about what you love or what you do. When it comes down to it, chronic laziness or procrastination is just not attractive to me, and it grates on my nerves. I am a go-getter, I want to explore and get things done. I don’t want to always be doing your half of the housework, ya dig?
- Be impeccably honest. You have your privacy, sure, but do not deliberately lie to me, ever. I am extremely accepting and I try my best not to judge you for what you do, even if it would hurt me a lot. You don’t have to lie to me about anything. I don’t appreciate lying even when it comes to whether or not you could hurt my feelings or even ruin our relationship. I’d rather you hurt my feelings than ruin my trust forever. Once you lie to me, I will never bring myself to fully trust you again, no matter what. Please respect me by telling me the truth, and I swear to do the same for you. Always. This is extremely important to me.
- Be open-minded. Don’t be a downer, don’t hate everything you don’t understand, and don’t spew off opinions like they are the law. This ties in to my respect one. Try to go with a positive foot forward and don’t damn anyone for their opinions. I adore positive, accepting, happy people. I am easily emotionally drained so being around other moody people just makes me constantly bitter. I can always use cheering up, so if you know how to do that, you are immediately a winner in my opinion.
- Be yourself, do your own thing, and let me do the same. You don’t have to put up a front and you don’t have to try to impress me. You can make mistakes and I don’t expect you to be happy 24/7. You don’t have to be any one thing or idea. Likewise, I should never have to be afraid of you, self conscious around you, or worry about what you think of me. If you can accept yourself and your flaws, I will adore you that much more. I don’t expect you to be perfect, I don’t want you to expect me to be perfect, either. Be comfortable around me. If you need space, I’ll give you space, and I expect you to give me space if I need it, too.
- If you want me to love you, let me love you. I'm not really down with people agreeing to be in a relationship with me and then trying to hide me or keep me a secret from others or trying to hold me back from being in the exact relationship they asked for, I don't see the point. If you want to date, let's date. Don't agree to be in a relationship with me and then cut me off and tear me down for being affectionate. I'm not here to fill a very specific void in anyone's life and I don't like being told what I'm allowed to do in my own relationship. I'm not a child and I don't want to be instructed. I want us to be consenting, equal adults. I don't want to feel like you're manipulating me into only giving you precisely what you need. I'm not a puppet.
- Include me in your life somehow. Make me feel important in some way. (I don’t have to be most important, just significant to you.) Keep in touch if we don’t get the chance to talk every day, tell me about your feelings, rant to me, take me places, show me your likes and dislikes, let me meet your friends and family, anything. It doesn’t have to be all the time or every day, I just want to feel like you want to share yourself with me just as much as I want to share myself with you. And I will if you want me to, trust me.
- Respect me and my opinions, especially in public. In other words, don’t be rude to me, belittle me, or purposefully embarrass me. Treat me as an equal. I will always do my best to do the same for you.
sep 6 2010 ∞
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