values━

• health and fitness
• adventure, the outdoors and travel
• mutual respect and admiration
• growth

goals━

• a long term relationship - ultimately a marriage - with a long term investment: striving towards longevity and building a life together
• cultivating a "we" mentality, secure in the knowledge that my partner is "in it" with me for the long haul
• sharing life and the day to day with someone who is excited about and wants the same things as me
• mutual effort - both partners put in work to build the relationship and take initiative to do things for each other, make each other a priority

wants in a partner━

• physical━
  • takes care of their body and puts effort into their physical appearance
    • attractive
    • in good shape, muscular
    • well dressed and looks put together
  • willing to try new sports and athletic activities with me
  • sex drives and desires match and both parties are satisfied in the relationship
    • both parties equally prioritize each other's pleasure
  • generous with physical affection
• emotional━
  • extroverted or at the very least not strongly introverted
  • good sense of humor
  • intelligent
  • willingness to take risks and step outside of comfort zone and encourages me to do the same - open to trying new things and challenges me to grow
  • supportive of me
  • patient
  • kind and respectful to others and to me
  • slow to anger
  • hard worker
  • has a "yes" mindset - always looking for opportunities to say yes to opportunities that come their way instead of looking to say no
  • doesn't internalize the stress/emotional states of others - can be supportive without being negatively affected
  • level headed even under stress
  • actively and openly articulates emotions and desires - emotionally intelligent
  • healthy communicator
  • openly loving and affectionate, generous with physical and emotional and verbal affection
  • punctual and follows through on commitments (big and small)
  • considerate and keeps the way their actions affect me in mind
  • acknowledges and appreciates the sacrifices i make for the relationship and the things i do for the relationship (and does them in return - a mutual and equal partnership)
  • not impulsive
  • financially levelheaded and thoughtful about purchases

goals and values━

• having a companionship that encourages both partners to step outside their comfort zone and grow
• both partners share the same cultural background and mindset
• the relationship is underscored by a work to live mentality - prioritize saving a lot (FIRE) in order to retire early, but spend on things that are important and use money to explore the world and enjoy time outside of work
• both partners want to pursue experiences together instead of pursuing parenting or raising a family
• shared hobbies that both partners can partake in
• both partners are willing to sacrifice and compromise to be together - for better or worse, for sickness and in health
• having a quality home life from where the rest of our lives can grow
  • having a clean, organized, beautiful space that brings joy to both parties
• both partners are on the same page politically and religiously
• in tech, software somehow (nice to have)
• travel and exploring the world is a shared high priority
• an open line of communication about feelings, thoughts, important issues, and conflicts - when an issue comes up, neither party feels threatened, and no issue is too tough to bring up
  • communicating vulnerabilities and insecurities and being open and willing to work through them

challenges━

• time spent apart - what is my limit on how long long distance is acceptable for?
• sexual openness - being okay with having sex with other people either separately or shared experiences with each other
  • how to create boundaries that make the relationship feel safe and secure and sacred?
  • cultivate open communication and sharing
• children - once i am unable to have children, this is noncompromisable