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tips

• put boring jobs on your to-do list in quotes. That way they will seem much more interesting and mysterious.
• "monsters, show me your buts!"

destuckfication

• Destuckification 101
• Advanced Destuckification
• destuckifying a bad hurt
• reason for a stuck
• Having awkward conversations
• asking the right questions
• Stucks that won't go away
• dealing with Roadblocks
• Don't face your fear
• Talking truth to fear
• Talking to Walls
  • and how to change patterns
  • and reality check
• an example of Metaphor Mousing
• mindfulness detective
  • and exercise for changing patterns
• Example of working on a pattern

emergency calming

• step 1 to calming down and emergency calming technique
• don't try breathing
• quick calm down
• example of working on all 5 levels

sovereignty

• Sovereignty 101
• More about Sovereignty
• The Dammit List
• "not my area"

asking & wanting

• Asking
• when it's hard to write a personal ad

procrastination

• procrastination
• accepting procrastination
• no such thing as laziness
• better than motivation

good things

• on meditation
• example of working on all 5 levels
  • and 5-level way to work on pain
• 4 steps to reestablish a good habit

lifey situations

• weight resistance
• trouble Sleeping
• addicted to TV

peopley situations

• Guilt-free communication policy
• Dealing with criticism
• how to deal with friends doing something you don't approve of
  • and an exercise on that
• situations: family get-togethers
• Holiday Loneliness techniques

cool/funny/resonant words

• shelf-awareness
• shelf-confidence
• trespasser

Blogging Therapy

• scared that ppl will read it
• not being an expert
• negative comments
• not being the best
• your voice
• finding your safe space
• being popular
• Guilt and 'Should's
• Worry worry
• Various questions

wishcraft &c exercises

• five lives
• colour
• ideal family

unsorted http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuff/something-to-believe-in/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuff/not-this-and-not-that/

• science behind habits & patterns
• giving yourself time and non-sucky time management
• giving yourself a break & breaking habits
• talking to a monster with a negotiator: an example
• Looking at pain with safety and going around the pain
• choosing not to respond
• when being grateful is too hard
• choosing better words ... and Using Metaphors ...and Proxies too ....More on Metaphors
• dealing with shoe-throwing and your Invisible Mentor
• criticism & compliments
• Getting to Know Your Fear and Meeting up with your Fear
• finding out what your monsters want
• dealing with hurt past-you
• stay in your Comfort Zone
• Creating a Safe Room and Flying in a V-Formation
• Your own personal Video Game and learning from Foxes
• It's OK to Feel
• My Body: the Home Where I live
• An example of letting go
• An example of proxies
• Mindful Biggification

Havi - http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/talking-to-a-wall/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuff/conversations-with-blocks-part-2/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/ask-havi-19-sobbing-like-mad/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/conversations-with-blocks-part-3/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuff/the-myth-of-compromise/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/newsletter/forget-self-mastery/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/the-first-five-years-are-the-hardest/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/mindful-time-management/ask-havi-20-am-i-just-giving-in/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/a-gigantic-block-and-some-destuckifying/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/working-with-pain/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/calm-techniques/everything-im-afraid-of/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/mindful-time-management/doing-just-one-thing/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/no-idea-why-i-do-this/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuff/not-all-monsters-like-cookies/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/biggification/the-thing-that-stops-you-from-doing-the-thing/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/tiny-little-answers/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/destuckification-101/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/newsletter/forget-self-mastery/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/the-negotiator-the-monster-and-the-scribe/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/visibility-invisibility-power-pirates/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/not-hating-on-yourself/what-you-do-when-you-feel-like-dirt/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuff/triggers/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/someone-threw-a-shoe-at-you/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/roses-everywhere/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/speaking-to-the-fog/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/scissors-part-two/ http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/destuckifying-a-hurt/ anxiety, you're not alone http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/coping-with-anxiety First steps in working on patterns http://www.fluentself.com/blog/newsletter/disentangling-those-patterns

• Tiny bits of wisdom

http://www.fluentself.com/blog/update/friday-check-in-melting-icicles/

• Having awkward conversations
• on meditation
• Guilt-free communication policy
• Holiday Loneliness techniques

http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/questions-part-1/

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• the phrase “I trust my good intentions”, which is generally my mantra in situations where I fear misunderstandings.
• shelf-awareness & shelf-confidence
• "I want to live a quiet, body-aware, true-yes life. Aware of my yes. Honest with my yes. Committed to my yes. And I want to do that now .... because ... all the corners of my kingdom are important. ... No more waiting for X in order to be-or-feel Y. That is just unbelievably silly."
• "The amazing Barbara Sher has this technique called CWUs that I use all the time. It stands for Complete Willingness Unit, and what it means is that you only do tiny things that don’t trigger resistance. So if I’m working on a writing op, and I don’t want to start, my CWU might be just putting my notebook on the table. ... This week I took absurdly tiny steps, and it worked for me."
• "Because ultimately that is my job and my only job, to keep myself safe. "
• quote from Barbara Sher: "“When you lose interest in something, you must always consider the possibility that you’ve gotten what you came for; you have completed your mission. … That’s why you lose interest: not because you’re flawed or lazy or unable to focus, but because you’re finished…”"
• "The monsters are best at three things: worrying, shaming, being wrong. "
• "Practicing rejoicing over the arrival of anxiety so I could deliver it to THE SECRET MINE where fear turns into jewels. This wasn’t always easy but it was definitely fun to say, “Ooooh! DELIVERY!” each time another batch showed up."
• "Where is there unexpected power? " from C.S.

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• http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/pain-au-chocolat/