Hmmm, so let me see. Your boyfriend is

• Wonderful.
• Extremely smart.
• Good-natured.
• Funny.
• Terrific in bed.
• As into you as you are into him.
• Trusting.
• Trustworthy.
• Respectful.
• Interested in talking intimately with you about his life.

Am I going to have to remove my silk gloves and bop you with them?

You aren’t haunted by your boyfriend’s sexual past. You’re haunted by your own irrational, insecure, jealous feelings, and if you continue to behave in this manner you will eventually push your lover away.

I don’t mean to be harsh, darling. I’m direct because I sincerely want to help you and because it’s clear to me that you’re an incredibly good egg. I know it’s a kick in the pants to hear that the problem is you, but it’s also fucking fantastic. You are, after all, the only person you can change.

We don’t dig or not dig people based on a comparison chart of body measurements and intellectual achievements and personality quirks. We dig them because we do. This guy—your lover, my anxious little peach? He digs you.

- cheryl strayed