- after a string of failed, nonstarter relationships, it's hard to trust someone even at the beginning stage. every great conversation seems like a potential emotional one-night stand, which are even more awkward than physical ones.
- it changes your relationships with others, no matter how tangential the relationship is or if you try to avoid it.
- it's a frightening, new experience.
- lack of a control. you can't predict everything that'll happen.
- learning to trust someone else's judgement on intimate parts of your life after being alone for so long can feel weird, and immediately defensive.
- my singular focus on love has shifted. single life felt like a bubble around me, and dating someone felt like a bubble has popped.
- the developmental infatuation stages involves a lot of time and you may not have a lot of it.
- the setup, and falling in love process takes a lot of energy.
- when you're older you have more to lose, and more to gain.
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