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Thirteen Random Things You Like

Learning... Thinking... Writing... Watching the sun rise... Cold weather... Stargazing... Cooking... Getting lost in good books... Rain... Long walks... Deep conversations... Painting... Spending time with loved ones

Twelve Great Movies

The Dark Knight... The Matrix... Mad Max: Fury Road... Pride & Prejudice... The Prestige... Ever After... Triangle... Hocus Pocus... The Princess Bride... Rush Hour... It's a Wonderful Life... Memento

Eleven Great Books

The Qur'an... Sahifa-e Sajjadiya... Tao te Ching... The Count of Monte Cristo... Letters to a Young Poet... The Little Prince... What Dreams May Come... The Gift: Poems by Hafiz... Memoirs of a Geisha... Watchmen... The Autobiography of Malcolm X

Ten Physical Traits

jun 29 2010 ∞
aug 18 2018 +
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  • unassuming, unjudging company
  • calm, uninterrupted silence
  • a long and tender embrace
  • a friendly hand to hold
  • permission to cry freely
  • a change of perspective
  • time away
  • attentive listening with no intent to rationalize or reply
  • a heartfelt reminder of precisely what they mean and how wonderful they truly are
  • reassurance that things will eventually get better, and examples of ways this may happen
  • subtle encouragement to remember all the beautiful things in life... a surprise hike in the woods, a picnic at the park, etc; preferably something they enjoy
  • a reminder that God is the greatest of healers, acquainted with every pain, aware of every heartache... and that He knows.
jul 15 2010 ∞
sep 17 2016 +
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  • I absolutely love nature & feel happiest in the woods, by the ocean, in a field of flowers, or under a wide expanse of stars
  • My relationship with God is my key driving force in life & I don't feel content or fulfilled unless I'm deeply connected to Him
  • The teachings, words, & lives of the Ahlulbayt (as) are my greatest source of inspiration... without their love, my life would lose all meaning
  • I'm wired to look for the good in things because life's struggles have compelled me to be an optimist
  • I'm most easily captivated by authenticity, passion, and kindness
  • I absolutely love laughter; the greatest compliment in the world is when someone laughs at my dumb jokes or entertains me with theirs
oct 15 2014 ∞
nov 26 2018 +
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  • The beauty of nature
  • Elderly people in love
  • Kind strangers
  • Enthusiastic greetings
  • Waking from a pleasant dream
  • Breath-taking views
  • Words that inspire and provoke
  • The company of friends
  • Spiritual contentment
  • When the stars are especially bright
  • Quiet places to ‘get away’ to
  • Feeling like right now is good enough
  • Thought-provoking coincidences
  • Prayers that feel like they count
  • Endearing animals
  • The way my cat sleeps
  • Being trusted
  • The unguarded laughter of a child
  • The way kids talk & phrase things
  • Pleasant memories
  • Meditating on a quiet rooftop
may 13 2010 ∞
sep 22 2018 +
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Fiction

  • The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas
  • What Dreams May Come by Richard Matheson
  • Pride & Prejudice by Jane Austen
  • Watchmen by Alan Moore
  • Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut
  • the Harry Potter series by JK Rowling
  • The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery
  • Memoirs of a Geisha by Arthur Golden
  • Hamlet by William Shakespeare
  • The Kite Runner by Khalid Hosseini
  • The Stranger by Albert Camus
  • The Five People You Meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom
  • My Sister’s Keeper by Jodi Picoult
  • Emma by Jane Austen
  • Weirdos From Another Planet by Bill Watterson
  • Jellicoe Road by Melina Marchetta
jun 22 2010 ∞
jul 12 2018 +
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  • See the Northern Lights in person
  • See the bioluminescent plankton in the Maldives
  • Love selflessly and entirely, without any inhibitions
  • Attain all-encompassing nearness to God
  • Perform pilgrimage to all the major holy sites
  • Marry a man who'd be an amazing partner in crime, devoted father to our kids, and the ideal companion for my soul's journey through this life and the next
  • Fall asleep under the stars after a life-changing conversation
  • If parenthood is in the cards, be an unfailingly supportive, nurturing mother
  • Go to culinary school & become an amazing cook
  • Become skilled at archery and martial arts
  • Learn muay thai like Sagat from Street Fi...
jun 29 2010 ∞
aug 23 2018 +
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  • Live simply, in consideration of all other people & things.
  • You don't have to want the things everybody else wants merely because you feel like you should want them. The heart's true desires are intuitive; they don't need to be coaxed or rationalized.
  • Where possible, trust your intuition. It's a storehouse of valuable information your subconscious indirectly wants to give to you, often with good reason.
  • Do, say, and be only what you know to be true.
  • Consider every expenditure & luxury in the context of suffering & deprivation elsewhere.
  • Cherish companionship and relish aloneness.
  • Don't be afraid to demand respect; all beings are owed at least a minimal amount.
  • Always set your own bar, as low or high a...
jun 17 2011 ∞
feb 20 2017 +
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July 2018

  • 22. | Had an awesome pre-birthday lunch at Maggiano's with my friends, hung out & laughed til nighttime, went for a nice long drive after, slept with a beautiful bouquet of red roses near my bed
  • 23. | My brother surprised me by coming home today! We got the best queso in the world from Torchy's, drove to Denton, had ice cream, stargazed at the cemetery (Mars was especially bright), visited Goatman's Bridge, wandered through the woods & found the most exquisitely symmetrical spiderweb I've ever seen
  • 24. | Went for a long drive at night to clear my head, felt really peaceful & relaxed after
  • 25. | Discovered some cool new science & spirituality podcasts; went to IILM & had amazing biryani
  • 26. | My mom & I made some bomb fajitas for ...
jul 27 2018 ∞
sep 21 2018 +
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  • Black man at bus stop- told me about his previous work as a counselor at school, his job at the multicultural center, & his outlook on life & maturity
  • White guy at bus stop- told me about his dreams of travel & theater, how he hopes to travel to NZ to work in theater productions, what his extensive travel experiences have taught him about life & the future of humanity
  • Redneck on train- told me many parts of his life story; how he met his wife & how much she means to him, what he was doing on 9/11, how he came to be a chef-in-training
  • Black girl at train station- told me about her experiences becoming a chiropractic medical assistant, how to correct one's posture, the difficulty of her extensive commute
  • Venezuelan guy on bench- told me about hi...
oct 22 2011 ∞
jul 12 2018 +
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  • i was born in south dakota. i have very few memories of living there (we moved when i was super young), but my strongest one is saying goodbye to my first best friend. her parting gift was a curly-haired doll i still have.
  • south dakota shaped the things i've been drawn to all my life: mountains, cold weather, wilderness, indigenous history & culture.
  • i loved being read to; my mom was my first (and greatest) teacher.
  • i was extremely tomboyish. i grew up with two older brothers and tried to do everything they did. i even beat up their best friend once... he laughed the entire time.
  • there were many tv shows i watched religiously with my brothers... we especially loved the power rangers & ninja turtles and often pretended to be them.
jun 29 2010 ∞
jul 30 2018 +
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Pick up on moments of hesitation or discomfort and use those times to exercise kindness. Try to avoid having people do things if they half-heartedly insist they don't mind or are okay; take care of burdensome tasks for people you love whenever possible.

Remember that as long as you mean it, you can never say "I love you" or "thank you" too many times, and there are a million ways to express either sentiment... Try especially hard to express yourself in that particular person's 'love language'- if you know compliments mean a lot to them, praise them without reserve. If nonverbal gestures make them happy, show your affection through meaningful actions.

If you've gotten into a meaningless fight with someone who you still love deep down and the relationship isn't toxic, apologize as soon as possible and try to clear the air while you still have the chance....

jul 15 2010 ∞
jul 24 2018 +
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  • wanderlust
  • stargaze
  • ensoulment
  • dream
  • wildflower
  • captivate
  • sunrise
  • sanctuary
  • precise
  • trembling
  • impermanence
  • lighthouse
  • ethereal
  • capricious
  • soulful
  • bleak
  • oasis
  • brevity
  • awestruck
  • footfall
  • echo
jun 27 2010 ∞
jul 13 2018 +
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  • Letting people in
  • Success
  • Being powerless
  • Being vulnerable
  • Failure/ineptitude/imperfection
  • Not being in control
  • Losing my loved ones
  • Not being able to help everyone
  • Being loved
  • Being hurt
  • Being seen
  • Accidentally hurting people
  • Regret
  • Social situations
  • Darkness
  • Driving
  • Human nature
  • Trusting my intuition
  • Disappointing my loved ones
  • Being unfulfilled when I die
  • Things not going the way I need them to
jun 5 2011 ∞
sep 14 2016 +
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My dream animal family:

  • 2 horses named Raja & Kashmir
  • 2 lovebirds named Rumi & Hafez
  • 2 white-tailed fawns named Autumn & River
  • 2 cats named Spooky & Kishmish
  • 2 turtledoves named Shams & Tabriz
  • A babydoll sheep & mini alpaca named Lilac & Perseus

Name possibilities:

  • Ophelia
  • Arabella
  • Phoebe
  • Willow
  • Lily
  • Kavi
  • Andromeda
  • Aubrey
  • Stardust
  • Moonlight
sep 15 2010 ∞
feb 22 2017 +
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  • Graduated college
  • Roadtrips to San Diego and LA
  • Visited The Last Bookstore & Whimsic Alley
  • Felt one with the Pacific Ocean
  • Watched the sun set at La Jolla Beach
  • Visited Laguna Beach
  • Griffith Observatory
  • The night my brother drove 4+ hours on a work night to give me a chance to see the northern lights
  • Aced the job interview
  • Beautiful dreams & intuitions
  • Unexpectedly good outcomes
  • Esmerelda fully recovered from cancer
  • The calm after a lengthy storm
  • Visited relatives in Pakistan & met my beautiful new cousin-in-law
  • Saw my late grandmother at peace in a dream
  • Visited Bari Imam (the mausoleum nestled ...
may 18 2015 ∞
sep 24 2018 +
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  • Nature
  • Art
  • Imperfection
  • Ugliness
  • Beauty
  • Love
  • Simplicity
  • Adventure
  • Questions
  • Nostalgia
  • God
  • Innocence
  • Anger
  • Doubt
  • Passion
  • Restlessness
  • Empathy
  • Chaos
  • Pain
  • Attraction
  • Change
may 16 2011 ∞
jul 13 2018 +
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  • a brimming cupful of stars
  • a pair of ocean-colored wings
  • a hammock on the moon
  • a magic carpet
  • an invisibility cloak
  • an enchanted tent on a quiet mountain top
  • an eternal sunrise
  • a unicorn with excellent conversational skills
  • a secret cave behind a waterfall
  • a ship composed of moonbeams
  • a universal postal office where an infinity of love letters are exchanged
  • an impenetrable crystal lighthouse
  • a castle on a cloud
  • a room of requirement
  • a window looking out on an eternity of peaceful autumns
  • a playground in the stars lit by pure, youthful laughter
oct 19 2010 ∞
aug 3 2015 +
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Touch

  • Curling up with a soft blanket
  • A mother's loving touch
  • Hugs from children
  • Lying on a comfortable bed
  • A hot, steamy shower
  • Soft fabric
  • The smoothness of silk & satin against my skin
  • Cuddling with my cat
  • Soft bedsheets against freshly shaved legs
  • Running my fingers through my hair
  • Holding a comforting hand
  • Kneeling in sajdah, feeling humbled & safe
  • Leaning on someone when feeling tired/weak
  • My late grandfather's butterfly kisses
  • The feeling of release after crying
  • The feeling of wet earth between my finge...
oct 13 2012 ∞
sep 21 2018 +
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Be like the flower that gives its fragrance to even the hand that crushes it.

{Imam Ali ع}

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eyes.

{Antoine de Saint-Exupery}

There is enough light for one who wants to see.

{Imam Ali ع}

Humility is not thinking less of yourself; humility is thinking of yourself less.

{Rick Warren}

The female doesn’t want a rich man or a handsome man or even a poet, she wants a man who understands her eyes if she gets sad, and points to his chest and says: "Here is your home country."

{Nizar Qabbani}

Fatima was a flower from the flowers of heaven, whose fragrance perfumed my mind long after she had withered away.

sep 21 2016 ∞
nov 22 2018 +
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  • The lion roars, the forest falls silent. The lioness roars, the lion falls silent.

—Gumnaam

  • I must be a mermaid... I have no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living.

—Anais Nin

  • It is difficult for a woman to define her feelings in a language chiefly made by men to express theirs.

—Far From the Madding Crowd

  • There are no demure women; only women that nobody has yet been able to unveil.

—Unknown

  • I want a trouble-maker for a lover, Blood spiller, blood drinker, a heart of flame...
nov 1 2016 ∞
aug 18 2018 +
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  • metalsmithing
  • qigong
  • self-defense
  • reiki
  • physics, in-depth
  • advanced yoga poses
  • archery
  • horseback riding
  • spanish
  • french
  • how to fly a plane
  • how to swim
  • beekeeping
  • muay thai
  • brazillian ju jitsu
  • capoeira
  • fencing
  • wilderness survivalism
  • how to think about higher math intuitively
  • how to play a guitar, piano, & kalimba
jun 29 2010 ∞
feb 21 2017 +
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What is your defining characteristic as a person?

  • My softness

What is your favorite virtue?

  • Humility; it's the highest form of human goodness

What is your idea of earthly happiness?

  • Loved ones, foggy mornings, passion, light rain in summer, mountains, seashores, sunrises, good books, lighthouses, vivid stars, cuddly animals, happy children, thunderstorms, deep conversations, good films, good tea, a warm hearth, long drives, autumn leaves, flowers, meditative walks, beaches, oceans, moonlight, scented candles, beautiful poetry, art, travel, wilderness, healing, softness, understanding, wanderlust, gratitude, tranquility, adventure, fulfillment, nights of worship, fri...
jun 22 2012 ∞
aug 19 2018 +
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  • Respect yourself always, no exceptions
  • Be the living embodiment of the truths that guide you
  • Unconditionally trust God, no matter what
  • Always walk a path the Ahlulbayt (as) would be pleased with
  • Embrace the unembraceable
  • Make other people feel deeply loved, important, valued, and listened to
  • Accept & let things go often; be wary of the baggage you accumulate
  • Be totally real and unfiltered around people who understand and love you; be reserved but good to the rest
  • Seek your beauty in something other than a lens or mirror
  • Don't be ashamed of the things that make you different; learn to view them as gifts
  • Drink in the cultures, beliefs, and persp...
oct 26 2013 ∞
nov 26 2018 +
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1. | Describe your personality. : passionate, inquisitive, loyal, warm, free-spirited, shy

2. | Define what beauty means to you. : anything that awakens, moves, or intrigues the soul

3. | Describe your current appearance. : glassy eyes, flowing hair, dewy skin, rosy lips

4. | Describe your appearance overall. : olive-skinned, dark-haired, slender

5. | Live with __ in your heart. : gratitude

6. | Inner peace comes one step at a time. Name a step. : forgive yourself for your past mistakes, but make an honest commitment to learn and grow from them

7. | Think about or dream up your significant other. Describe their aura. : trustworthy, caring, authentic, masculine, confident, reassuring, good-humored

8. | Name a pet peeve. : arrogance/people who look down on others

9. | Find your perfect place. Describe it. : a small, beautiful cottage in the middle of a forest where it's always autumn

10. | What is the relationship like with your friends? : extremely loving, loyal, fun, and suppo...

jul 27 2018 ∞
nov 19 2018 +
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  • Aaraam: rest
  • Aahista: gently
  • Aakhirat: afterlife
  • Aarzoo: desire
  • Aasaan: easy
  • Aasaar: signs, indications
  • Aasmaan: sky
  • Aasoo: tear
  • Aazaadi: freedom
  • Adhoora/adhoori: incomplete (m/f)
  • Aeena: mirror
  • Ajab/ajeeb: strange
  • Akaila/akailee: alone (m/f)
  • Akhlaaq: manners, etiquette
  • Aks: reflection
  • Alfaaz: words
  • Anaa: ego
  • Andaaza: experience
  • Andhera: darkness
  • Arwah: souls
  • Asleeyat: reality
sep 18 2011 ∞
sep 24 2018 +
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Defining Your Authentic Self (according to Leo Gura):

Your authentic self is not who you were in the past or who you are presently; it is who you'll inevitably grow into if you encourage, motivate, and push yourself everyday.

Don't put yourself in a box and tell yourself that you are this noun/this thing; who you are is actually a process that is always evolving. Have faith that changes are happening within you all the time.

Your self-image is a bunch of beliefs you have about yourself; these beliefs have largely been installed through your upbringing-- a lot of people get very attached to these beliefs & feel that this inherited self-image is who they really are.

Your self-image has largely been shaped by influences outside your control; a lot of these factors are random flukes like noise in the system. A lot of people take this noise and say "this is me. This is...

jun 5 2015 ∞
aug 1 2018 +
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  • The Matrix
  • The Dark Knight
  • Pride & Prejudice
  • Mad Max: Fury Road
  • The Prestige
  • Ever After
  • Triangle
  • Memento
  • Coming to America
  • Rush Hour
  • Beauty and the Beast
  • Hocus Pocus
  • It’s a Wonderful Life
  • He's Just Not That into You
  • Memoirs of a Geisha
  • V for Vendetta
  • The Princess Bride
  • Before Sunrise
  • Penelope
  • Batman Begins
  • The Bourne Identity
jun 22 2010 ∞
aug 1 2018 +
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Favorite

  • fearless
  • ecstatic
  • loved
  • intrigued
  • captivated
  • fulfilled
  • intellectually stimulated
  • safe
  • calm
  • at ease
  • undaunted
  • badass
  • carefree
  • unhurried
  • zen
  • respected
  • understood
  • spiritually awake
  • purpose-driven
  • inspired
apr 21 2012 ∞
feb 20 2017 +
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link: http://www.bzoink.com/S102213/I_am.html

  • I am...: complex
  • I am not...: easily understood
  • I will...: try not to lose sight of what matters
  • I love...: that there is so much to love
  • I like...: the simple things :)
  • I hate...: that there's so much suffering amid so much affluence
  • I envy...: uncomplicated minds
  • I fear...: the limitations of my own self-constructed glass ceilings
  • I need...: reassurance
  • I crave...: peace of mind
  • I miss...: the simplicity of childhood
  • I adore...: smiling faces
  • I listen...: to anyone who needs to be heard
  • I do...: care deeply, though i'm terrible at showing it
  • I do not...: know very much, in any regard
  • I admire...: integrity
  • I feel...: like an infinite universe containing man...
jun 29 2010 ∞
sep 24 2018 +
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  • his vivid, thoughtful green eyes
  • the way his ears move like antennae when he's trying to listen intently
  • the way he sometimes loses his balance when grooming himself and nearly tips over
  • how he sits like a puffy little duck when he's cold
  • how he vigorously rubs his face against mine to 'kiss' me
  • how he often curls one paw (or both) when sitting
  • how he sits quietly in front of a closed door for hours, just waiting for it to open
  • how he sits huddled in the flower pot outside when waiting for us to let him in
  • how simple things like a laser pointer, rug, or peanut can bring him hours of amusement
  • the whininess of his meows when he gets drenched in the rain
feb 5 2012 ∞
aug 3 2015 +
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  • The vastness of the universe
  • The true relative importance of every detail we perceive
  • The infinite structural & biological intricacies that comprise each living organism
  • Who we 'are'
  • Who anyone else 'is'
  • How others perceive us
  • How others experience their lives
  • Our memories & pasts
  • Desires versus needs
  • Our impact on the world
  • Nature's impact on us
  • Our impact on fellow creatures
  • Relative well-being
  • The subjectivity of moral values
  • The limits of our cognition
  • Why we dream
  • Time
  • Privilege
may 16 2011 ∞
feb 20 2017 +
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  • birds singing
  • meditation chimes
  • falling rain
  • ocean waves
  • soft piano keys
  • gentle lullabies
  • a cat's contented purring
  • melodious arabic/urdu/farsi/punjabi
  • galloping hooves
  • baby animal noises
  • the crunch of autumn leaves
  • the stark crackle of thunder in a stormy sky
  • soulful qawwalis
  • whistling wind
  • capoeira
  • a child's laugh
  • the strumming of a harp
  • spiritual flute music

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jun 29 2010 ∞
feb 20 2017 +
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  • Are there any external parties who could potentially benefit from sparking, exploiting, or prolonging the conflict?
  • Which external participants can be linked to this conflict? Which side are they on, and why?
  • Who's funding/arming each side of the conflict? Why & to what extent? What exactly are they investing in?
  • How does the conflict relate to U.S. interests? Does the location have any geopolitical significance, natural resources, or hold other such significance in terms of American foreign policy interests?
  • Do any major world and/or regional powers have a stake in the conflict's outcome monetarily, politically, or ideologically? If so: which ones, and what do they stand to gain or lose?
  • Is there a likelihood that the conflict might be serving as a proxy war between tw...
sep 7 2012 ∞
oct 17 2016 +
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  • At least one thing a day that scares me
  • Strike up/engage in conversations that take me outside my comfort zone
  • Smile at at least 3-5 strangers
  • Write down at least 3 things I'm grateful for
  • Workout til I get sore
  • Learn at least one fascinating, eye-opening thing that I can keep with me and build on
  • Spend an appreciable amount of time alone to reflect
  • Meditate for at least 10 minutes
  • Walk outside for at least half an hour, reflect on the beauty of nature
  • Watch the sun rise or set
  • Random acts of decency; hold doors open, help people with mundane tasks, say hello to a stranger or two, make someone's day better
  • If I like something about someone, compli...
oct 9 2011 ∞
aug 18 2018 +
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  • jasmine flowers
  • china rain
  • hazelnut
  • cherry blossoms
  • ralph lauren romance
  • dior addict 2
  • sweet pea
  • pine wood
  • books
  • the sea
  • fireplaces
  • lavender
  • lilacs
  • lilies
  • freshly mown grass
  • rain
  • warm vanilla
  • laundry detergent
  • faint perfume
  • freshly shampooed hair

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jun 29 2010 ∞
aug 2 2015 +
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  • Everything is a social construct, including gender and the ways in which we observe, perceive, and exhibit it. Every perpetuation of these societal conventions is a willful decision on our part, from the way we speak (women are apologetic and hesitant, men are matter-of-fact and declarative) to the way we publicly present ourselves. Every time we decide to abide by these socially-constructed norms, what are we saying to ourselves, to the world? Who would we be if centuries of the intrinsic, almost universal patriarchal biases of the human race were stripped away?
  • I will never play up to a man's desires unless he is a loved one who gives me the equivalent regard, nor will I ever strive to be attractive or impressive to male sensibilities. If I do anything to improve myself in any sense, it will always be for me and God alone. I am beautiful onl...
oct 16 2010 ∞
feb 20 2017 +
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To become a true lover of God; to spend my life in pursuit of His pleasure & nearness

To love the Ahlulbayt ع with enough sincerity to embody their messages and ideals

To keep the story of Imam Hussain ع alive within my soul

To keep alive the innate wonder, wanderlust, and softness at the core of my being

To spend every day of my professional life engaged in meaningful work that benefits people in need

To be endlessly good to my parents, especially my mom; to spend the rest of my life making her as happy as possible

To marry someone because they feel like my soul's true match, not out of social or cultural pressure

To be the kind of wife who makes her husband want to wake up with a huge smile everyday; to be his greatest source of pleas...

nov 19 2018 ∞
nov 26 2018 +
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  • Watching the sun rise or set
  • When my soul feels perfectly at ease
  • When my mom smiles or laughs
  • Private, heartfelt conversations with God
  • Looking down from a mountaintop, breathing in the sweet fresh air
  • Long, fast drives at night to clear my head
  • Petrichor (the smell of rain on dry earth)
  • Being awed by nature
  • Making someone laugh so hard they cry
  • Feeling humbled by the universe
  • Experiencing a pure wave of gratitude
  • Earning the affection of a child or cat
  • Spending time with my best friend, laughing until it hurts
  • Having abundant alone time to recharge and find myself
  • Walking in the woods
jun 29 2011 ∞
sep 21 2018 +
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  • The simple act of listening to someone, without intent to judge or guide or respond, is the most underrated form of giving
  • Human beings are meant to be experienced, not explained
  • Heartfelt encouragement can help even the saddest flowers bloom
  • A huge component of loving someone is helping them become their best self while loving them no less at their worst
  • All-encompassing respect is a crucial prerequisite to any healthy relationship; without it, relationships are meaningless
  • Our capacity to accept others is shaped largely by our capacity to accept ourselves
  • Many people are walking around with a lifetime's worth of unresolved emotional burdens that directly influence how they behave & treat others. For a great many, these issues trace back to how their parent...
dec 4 2011 ∞
nov 19 2018 +
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  • Saudade (Portuguese) = an intense, bittersweet nostalgia; "a deep emotional state of nostalgic longing for an absent something or someone that one loves."
    • Hiraeth (Welsh)
    • Keurium (Korean)
    • Wajd (Arabic)
    • Sehnsucht (German)
    • Nostalgia (English)
  • Kintsukuroi (Japanese) = "to repair with gold"; when one takes a broken object and uses gold to fill the cracks, with the understanding that the brokenness has made it more beautiful
  • Mamihlapinatapai (Yaghan) = a look shared between two people, both wishing for something to happen, but neither wanting to initiate
  • Cafune (Portugese) = running your fingers through a lover's hair
nov 29 2010 ∞
sep 24 2018 +
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  • Be yourself
  • Engage me in soul-baring, thought-provoking conversation or silly, lighthearted banter
  • Spend time with me
  • Really, truly listen when I speak; make me the center of your world for a while
  • Encourage me to come out of my shell; ask me direct/personal questions
  • Accept me as I am
  • Give me a hug or squeeze my hand when I'm tense
  • Hold my gaze & smile at me
  • Trust me not to hurt you, and immediately tell me if I do
  • Tell me about your dreams and hopes
  • Show me who you really are, stripped of all pretensions and fears
  • Talk to me about things that interest you
  • Pay me a sincere compliment
oct 22 2011 ∞
nov 19 2018 +
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  • Tell her all about yourself; trust her
  • Encourage her to open up to you
  • Read to her
  • Fascinate her
  • Make her laugh
  • Tease her
  • Look at her like she's magic
  • Be very clear about your intentions
  • Tell her about the things that keep you up at night
  • Be entirely yourself & trust her to love you unconditionally
  • Don't pretend to be someone you're not
  • Tell her what you need & let her take care of you
  • Tell her what's on your mind & encourage her to do the same
  • Listen to her & remember little things she tells you
  • Be clear about your feelings for her
  • Give her time (lots of time) to figure ou...
jul 10 2011 ∞
aug 19 2018 +
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  • Sensitive
  • Softhearted
  • Passionate
  • Loyal
  • Inquisitive
  • Playful
  • Affectionate
  • Wild
  • Creative
  • Giving
  • Devout
  • Resilient
  • Intuitive
  • Complex
  • Friendly
  • Driven
  • Warm
  • Enthusiastic
  • Private
  • Easygoing
  • Shy
nov 5 2010 ∞
nov 19 2018 +
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Physical

  • When his smile reaches his eyes and makes them warmer/softer
  • A well-groomed beard
  • Shirt sleeves rolled up to his elbows
  • Slightly muscular arms

Behavior

  • When he has a deep love of God and the Ahlulbayt (as)
  • When he treats the people around him with kindness and respect
  • When he talks about something he's passionate about and his eyes light up, his facial expressions become more animated, and I can almost taste his enthusiasm
  • When he has the kind of masculinity that feels safe and reassuring, rather than threatening or aggressive
  • When his personality, hobbies, and interests are different from me so there's oppo...
jul 27 2018 ∞
sep 24 2018 +
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  • watch the sun rise every morning from my window/balcony
  • drive out to remote places on clear nights to stargaze
  • buy a good long-range camera & get into astrophotography
  • photograph the scenery around me & start a photoblog
  • experiment with fancy dishes & new styles of cooking
  • have a beautiful flower & herb garden that i nurture every day
  • take early morning walks in the park
  • paint constantly, especially outdoors
  • start every day with yoga & a good brisk workout
  • take a long, immersive bubble bath once a week to unwind
  • fall madly, passionately, fearlessly in love with the man i marry
  • make my husband the happiest man on earth...
nov 23 2011 ∞
sep 22 2018 +
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Happiness is a perpetuation of positive thought patterns. It's being habitually attuned to lightness, simplicity, uncomplicatedness. It's the courage to be clear-headed, to bear darkness with patience and composure, to become barren of expectation and blame.

Don't be at war with your own being, even if the object is self-improvement. Growth best occurs as a byproduct of nurture, not aggression.

Don't become an enemy to yourself. In a manner of speaking, you're all you've got- you are your greatest responsibility in this brief life, an unbidden gift. Befriend yourself, protect yourself, and become the most solid, faithful companion of your own finite being.

Once you have embraced the self, loving others will come naturally. If you turn away from your own being, however, you will only be able to love other people in fr...

jan 14 2014 ∞
jul 9 2018 +
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Love

  • Vibrant, vivid culture; color & passion everywhere
  • Mind-blowing geography/scenery in the north; so many insanely gorgeous places north of Islamabad
  • Karachi never sleeps! You can get/do anything here, at literally any time, and there's always an air of liveliness and joy.
  • The pallor of gloom/despondence that seems to hang over modern first world societies is deliciously absent... despite the ubiquitous odor of burning trash, there's something spiritually & emotionally freeing about the atmosphere
  • Gorgeous buses & rickshaws; art as far as the eye can see
  • Hearing my native language everywhere at all times; Pakistani Urdu is poetic, majestic, and full of wit
jun 17 2012 ∞
jul 13 2018 +