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Rubab: shi'a warrior princess, infj, lover of beauty, poet, seeker

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Thirteen Random Things You Like

Learning... Thinking... Writing... Watching the sun rise... Cold weather... Stargazing... Cooking... Getting lost in good books... Rain... Long walks... Deep conversations... Painting... Spending time with loved ones

Twelve Great Movies

The Dark Knight... The Matrix... Mad Max: Fury Road... Pride & Prejudice... The Prestige... Ever After... Triangle... Hocus Pocus... The Princess Bride... Rush Hour... It's a Wonderful Life... Memento

Eleven Great Books

The Qur'an... Sahifa-e Sajjadiya... Tao te Ching... The Count of Monte Cristo... Letters to a Young Poet... The Little Prince... What Dreams May Come... The Gift: Poems by Hafiz... Cosmos... Watchmen... The Autobiography of Malcolm X

Ten Physical Traits

5'4... slender hourglass... heart-shaped ...

jun 29 2010 ∞
sep 4 2020 +
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  • See the Northern Lights in person
  • See the bioluminescent plankton in the Maldives
  • Love selflessly and entirely, without any inhibitions
  • Attain all-encompassing nearness to God
  • Perform pilgrimage to all the major holy sites
  • Marry a man who'd be an amazing partner in crime, devoted father to our kids, and the ideal companion for my soul's journey through this life and the next
  • Fall asleep under the stars after a life-changing conversation
  • If parenthood is in the cards, be an unfailingly supportive, nurturing mother
  • Go to culinary school & become an amazing cook
  • Become skilled at archery and martial arts
  • Learn muay thai like Sagat from Street Fi...
jun 29 2010 ∞
aug 23 2018 +
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  • unassuming, unjudging company
  • calm, uninterrupted silence
  • a long and tender embrace
  • a friendly hand to hold
  • permission to cry freely
  • a change of perspective
  • time away
  • attentive listening with no intent to rationalize or reply
  • a heartfelt reminder of precisely what they mean and how wonderful they truly are
  • reassurance that things will eventually get better, and examples of ways this may happen
  • subtle encouragement to remember all the beautiful things in life... a surprise hike in the woods, a picnic at the park, etc; preferably something they enjoy
  • a reminder that God is the greatest of healers, acquainted with every pain, aware of every heartache... and that He knows.
jul 15 2010 ∞
sep 17 2016 +
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  • ethereal
  • captivating
  • alluring
  • enigmatic
  • seductive
  • intoxicating
  • exhilarating
  • bewitching
  • ecstasy
  • breathtaking
  • magnificent
  • surreal
  • luminous
  • delicate
  • vulnerable
  • mesmerizing
  • ensoulment
  • irresistible
  • magnetic
  • electrifying
  • heavenly
jun 27 2010 ∞
sep 5 2020 +
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  • The Autobiography of Malcolm X by Alex Haley
  • Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
  • Dream Brother by Daniel Browne
  • On Writing by Stephen King
  • Walden by Henry David Thoreau
  • Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom
  • Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza


  • The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas
  • What Dreams May Come by Richard Matheson
  • Pride & Prejudice by Jane Austen
  • Watchmen by Alan Moore
  • Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut
  • the Harry Potter series by JK Rowling
  • The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exu...
jun 22 2010 ∞
aug 6 2020 +
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  • Adhoora/adhoori: incomplete (m/f)
  • Adna: common, ordinary, insignificant
  • Ajab/ajeeb: strange
  • Ameeq: deep, profound
  • Anokha/anokhi: rare, marvelous
  • Baatin: hidden, not apparent
  • Bayhiss: insensitive
  • Dilkash: captivating
  • Hamdard: empathetic, kind-hearted
  • Haseen: beautiful
  • Hasmukh: cheerful, prone to smiling
  • Hassaas: sensitive
  • Khaalis: pure, refined
  • Khaamosh: quiet, silent
  • Khayali: imaginary
  • Khubsoorat: beautiful
  • Khush: happy
  • Khwaabeeda: dreamy, dreamlike, sleepy
  • Labraiz: full
  • Lateef: kindly, good-hearted
sep 18 2011 ∞
oct 14 2020 +
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  • birds singing
  • meditation chimes
  • falling rain
  • ocean waves
  • soft piano keys
  • gentle lullabies
  • a cat's contented purring
  • melodious arabic/urdu/farsi/punjabi
  • galloping hooves
  • baby animal noises
  • the crunch of autumn leaves
  • the stark crackle of thunder in a stormy sky
  • soulful qawwalis
  • whistling wind
  • capoeira
  • a child's laugh
  • the strumming of a harp
  • spiritual flute music

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jun 29 2010 ∞
feb 20 2017 +
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  • a brimming cupful of stars
  • a pair of ocean-colored wings
  • a hammock on the moon
  • a magic carpet
  • an invisibility cloak
  • an enchanted tent on a quiet mountain top
  • an eternal sunrise
  • a unicorn with excellent conversational skills
  • a secret cave behind a waterfall
  • a ship composed of moonbeams
  • a universal postal office where an infinity of love letters are exchanged
  • an impenetrable crystal lighthouse
  • a castle on a cloud
  • a room of requirement
  • a window looking out on an eternity of peaceful autumns
  • a playground in the stars lit by pure, youthful laughter
oct 19 2010 ∞
aug 3 2015 +
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  • Tell her all about yourself; trust her
  • Encourage her to open up to you
  • Read to her
  • Fascinate her
  • Make her laugh
  • Tease her
  • Look at her like she's magic
  • Be very clear about your intentions
  • Tell her about the things that keep you up at night
  • Be entirely yourself & trust her to love you unconditionally
  • Don't pretend to be someone you're not
  • Tell her what you need & let her take care of you
  • Tell her what's on your mind & encourage her to do the same
  • Listen to her & remember little things she tells you
  • Be clear about your feelings for her
  • Give her time (lots of time) to figure ou...
jul 10 2011 ∞
dec 7 2019 +
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  • The beauty of nature
  • Elderly people in love
  • Kind strangers
  • Enthusiastic greetings
  • Waking from a pleasant dream
  • Breath-taking views
  • Words that inspire and provoke
  • The company of friends
  • Spiritual contentment
  • When the stars are especially bright
  • Quiet places to ‘get away’ to
  • Feeling like right now is good enough
  • Thought-provoking coincidences
  • Prayers that feel like they count
  • Endearing animals
  • The way my cat sleeps
  • Being trusted
  • The unguarded laughter of a child
  • The way kids talk & phrase things
  • Pleasant memories
  • Meditating on a quiet rooftop
may 13 2010 ∞
sep 22 2018 +
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  • i was born in south dakota. i have very few memories of living there (we moved when i was super young), but my strongest one is saying goodbye to my first best friend. her parting gift was a curly-haired doll i still have.
  • south dakota shaped the things i've been drawn to all my life: mountains, cold weather, wilderness, indigenous history & culture.
  • i loved being read to; my mom was my first (and greatest) teacher.
  • i was extremely tomboyish. i grew up with two older brothers and tried to do everything they did. i even beat up their best friend once... he laughed the entire time.
  • there were many tv shows i watched religiously with my brothers... we especially loved the power rangers & ninja turtles and often pretended to be them.
jun 29 2010 ∞
jul 30 2018 +
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  • Letting people in
  • Success
  • Being powerless
  • Being vulnerable
  • Failure/ineptitude/imperfection
  • Not being in control
  • Losing my loved ones
  • Not being able to help everyone
  • Being loved
  • Being hurt
  • Being seen
  • Accidentally hurting people
  • Regret
  • Social situations
  • Darkness
  • Driving
  • Human nature
  • Trusting my intuition
  • Disappointing my loved ones
  • Being unfulfilled when I die
  • Things not going the way I need them to
jun 5 2011 ∞
sep 14 2016 +
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My dream animal family:

  • 2 horses named Raja & Kashmir
  • 2 lovebirds named Rumi & Hafiz
  • 2 white-tailed fawns named Autumn & River
  • 2 cats named Spooky & Kishmish
  • 2 turtledoves named Shams & Tabriz
  • A babydoll sheep & mini alpaca named Lilac & Perseus

Name possibilities:

  • Ophelia
  • Arabella
  • Phoebe
  • Willow
  • Lily
  • Kaveri
  • Andromeda
  • Audrey
  • Stardust
  • Moonlight
sep 15 2010 ∞
apr 12 2020 +
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  • Are there any external parties who could potentially benefit from sparking, exploiting, or prolonging the conflict?
  • Which external participants can be linked to this conflict? Which side are they on, and why?
  • Who's funding/arming each side of the conflict? Why & to what extent? What exactly are they investing in?
  • How does the conflict relate to U.S. interests? Does the location have any geopolitical significance, natural resources, or hold other such significance in terms of American foreign policy interests?
  • Do any major world and/or regional powers have a stake in the conflict's outcome monetarily, politically, or ideologically? If so: which ones, and what do they stand to gain or lose?
  • Is there a likelihood that the conflict might be serving as a proxy war between tw...
sep 7 2012 ∞
oct 17 2016 +
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  • The ecstasy of spiritually & intellectually fulfilling conversations
  • Listening to the rain fall on tranquil summer mornings
  • Reveling in the beautiful, chaotic intricacies of the people i love
  • Making someone laugh when they feel like crying
  • When conversation flows like an uninterrupted river
  • Small moments of delight that make me feel like a child again
  • Quiet nights of worship that make my soul feel cleansed
  • Ethereal mornings drenched in fog
  • The feeling of sublime smallness that engulfs me when i sit beneath a sky full of intensely vivid stars
  • The way sunrises & sunsets never lose their ability to enrapture the senses
  • Definitions of wisdom that run deeper tha...
aug 2 2020 ∞
oct 24 2020 +
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  • Curling up with a soft blanket
  • Lying on a comfortable bed
  • A hot, steamy shower
  • The smoothness of silk & satin against my skin
  • Soft bedsheets against freshly shaved legs
  • Running my fingers through my hair
  • Holding a comforting hand
  • Kneeling in sajdah, feeling humbled & safe
  • Leaning on someone when feeling tired/weak
  • My late grandfather's butterfly kisses
  • A mother's loving touch
  • Cuddling with a cat
  • Hugs from children
  • The feeling of release after crying
  • The feeling of wet earth between my fingers while gardening
oct 13 2012 ∞
jul 9 2020 +
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  • Hot, steamy bubble baths w/ lavender bath foam
  • Being tender, warm, & lively in the way i interact with others
  • Being vulnerable, kind, & soft, yet fearless
  • Being clear & decisive about what i want
  • Being vibrant & free in my expression of joy and pleasure
  • Being giving yet selective with my energy & time
  • Being on the receiving end of affection and tenderness
  • Speaking from the heart and conveying what i genuinely feel without hesitation
  • Unleashing my sassy, playful side
  • Making someone feel loved & uplifted
  • Being around someone who makes me feel safe
  • Being passionate & driven in the pursuit of my goals
jun 1 2020 ∞
oct 14 2020 +
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  • Watching the sun rise
  • When my soul feels perfectly at ease
  • When someone I love smiles or laughs
  • Private, heartfelt conversations with God
  • Drinking in the beauty of nature
  • Ethereal mornings when the clouds seem to glow
  • Thunderstorms with vivid lightning
  • Watching a shooting star
  • Reveling in life's small pleasures and feeling like a child again
  • Embracing my inner wildness
  • Experiencing a wave of pure gratitude
  • Petrichor (the smell of rain on dry earth)
  • Feeling in my element
  • Feeling humbled by the sublime intricacies of the universe
  • Feeling the light at the end of the tunnel after dark times
jun 29 2011 ∞
aug 23 2020 +
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  • Watching the sun rise after Fajr
  • Pulling back the curtains on a rainy day & watching the rain fall
  • Taking a hot bubble bath with the lights off & scented candles lit
  • Sinking into a soft, silky robe
  • Goofing around & rekindling my inner child
  • Laughing with my best friends & having long, unfiltered conversations about things that resonate with us
  • Drinking mocha iced coffee or lavender milk tea
  • Immersing myself in the study of something interesting, thought-provoking, or moving
  • Reading about subjects that put me into a spiritual/lofty headspace (physics, astronomy, mythology, neuroscience, psychology, philosophy, etc)
  • Writing down quotes & passages that reson...
dec 30 2019 ∞
oct 14 2020 +
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  • The vastness of the universe
  • The true relative importance of every detail we perceive
  • The infinite structural & biological intricacies that comprise each living organism
  • Who we 'are'
  • Who anyone else 'is'
  • How others perceive us
  • How others experience their lives
  • Our memories & pasts
  • Desires versus needs
  • Our impact on the world
  • Nature's impact on us
  • Our impact on fellow creatures
  • Relative well-being
  • The subjectivity of personal decisions & values
  • The limits of our cognition
  • Why we dream
  • Time
may 16 2011 ∞
jan 13 2020 +
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"We fear men so much, because we fear God so little."

{William Gurnall}

"That which is threatening to the ego is liberating to the heart.

{Ajahn Amaro}

Allah revealed to Prophet Moses (as): "He lies who claims that he loves Me, yet when the night covers him up he sleeps away from Me [forgetting Me]. Is it not that every lover loves to be alone with his beloved?"

{Imam Sadiq (as) | Amali al-Saduq, p. 292, no. 1}

"In the relationship to God and forgiveness, the human being should not be obsessed by the conscience of his guilt, for his transgressions are natural and even wanted by the One: God is waiting for human being to access the need of Him with the profound will to come back to Him with gratitude, trust and love. He invites man not to drown in his own fault but to grow u...

apr 30 2020 ∞
jul 12 2020 +
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  • Be yourself
  • Engage me in soul-baring, thought-provoking conversation or silly, lighthearted banter
  • Spend time with me
  • Really, truly listen when I speak; make me the center of your world for a while
  • Encourage me to come out of my shell; ask me direct/personal questions
  • Accept me as I am
  • Give me a hug or squeeze my hand when I'm tense
  • Hold my gaze & smile at me
  • Trust me not to hurt you, and immediately tell me if I do
  • Tell me about your dreams and hopes
  • Show me who you really are, stripped of all pretensions and fears
  • Talk to me about things that interest you
  • Pay me a sincere compliment
oct 22 2011 ∞
nov 19 2018 +
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The lion roars, the forest falls silent. The lioness roars, the lion falls silent.


There is water in my eyes and fire in my heart. Do you want a drink? Or a spark?

{Sharif ar Radi}

I am homesick for a place I am not sure even exists. One where my heart is full. My body loved. And my soul understood.

{Melissa Cox}

All my life my heart has yearned for a thing I cannot name.

{André Breton}

I only feel close to people who arouse my energy, who make enormous demands of me, who are capable of enriching me with experience, pain, people who do not doubt my courage, or my toughness. People who do not believe me naive or innocent, but who challenge my keenest wisdom, who have the courage to treat me like a woman in spi...

nov 1 2016 ∞
aug 21 2020 +
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  • The Matrix
  • The Dark Knight
  • Pride & Prejudice
  • Mad Max: Fury Road
  • The Prestige
  • Ever After
  • Triangle
  • Memento
  • Hocus Pocus
  • Coming to America
  • Rush Hour
  • It’s a Wonderful Life
  • Paddington
  • V for Vendetta
  • The Princess Bride
  • Before Sunrise
  • He's Just Not That into You
  • Memoirs of a Geisha
  • Penelope
  • Batman Begins
  • The Bourne Identity
jun 22 2010 ∞
jun 4 2020 +
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  • metalsmithing
  • qigong
  • self-defense
  • reiki
  • physics, in-depth
  • advanced yoga poses
  • archery
  • horseback riding
  • spanish
  • french
  • how to fly a plane
  • how to swim
  • beekeeping
  • muay thai
  • brazillian ju jitsu
  • capoeira
  • fencing
  • wilderness survivalism
  • how to think about higher math intuitively
  • how to play a guitar, piano, & kalimba
jun 29 2010 ∞
feb 21 2017 +
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  • Vibrant, vivid culture; color & passion everywhere
  • Mind-blowing geography/scenery; so many insanely gorgeous places north of Islamabad
  • The pallor of gloom/despondence that seems to hang over modern first world societies is deliciously absent... there's something spiritually & emotionally freeing about the atmosphere, like a residual humanness that hasn't yet been destroyed by capitalism and consumerism
  • Karachi never sleeps! You can get/do anything here, at literally any time, and there's always an air of liveliness, celebration, and joy
  • Warm, friendly people
  • Generally awesome family values
  • Deep spirituality ingrained in culture
  • A lively poetic & literary culture
jun 17 2012 ∞
jul 2 2020 +
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  • At least one thing a day that scares me
  • Strike up/engage in conversations that take me outside my comfort zone
  • Smile at at least 3-5 strangers
  • Write down at least 3 things I'm grateful for
  • Workout til I get sore
  • Learn at least one fascinating, eye-opening thing that I can keep with me and build on
  • Spend an appreciable amount of time alone to reflect
  • Meditate for at least 10 minutes
  • Walk outside for at least half an hour, reflect on the beauty of nature
  • Watch the sun rise or set
  • Random acts of decency; hold doors open, help people with mundane tasks, say hello to a stranger or two, make someone's day better
  • If I like something about someone, compli...
oct 9 2011 ∞
apr 6 2020 +
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  • jasmine flowers
  • china rain
  • hazelnut
  • cherry blossoms
  • ralph lauren romance
  • dior addict 2
  • sweet pea
  • pine wood
  • books
  • the sea
  • fireplaces
  • lavender
  • lilacs
  • lilies
  • freshly mown grass
  • rain
  • warm vanilla
  • laundry detergent
  • faint perfume
  • freshly shampooed hair

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jun 29 2010 ∞
aug 2 2015 +
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  • watch the sun rise every morning from my window/balcony
  • drive out to remote places on clear nights to stargaze
  • buy a good long-range camera & get into astrophotography
  • photograph the scenery around me & start a photoblog
  • experiment with fancy dishes & new styles of cooking
  • have a beautiful flower & herb garden that i nurture every day
  • take early morning walks in the park
  • paint constantly, especially outdoors
  • start every day with yoga & a good brisk workout
  • take a long, immersive bubble bath once a week to unwind
  • fall madly, passionately, fearlessly in love with the man i marry
  • make my husband the happiest man on earth...
nov 23 2011 ∞
sep 22 2018 +
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  • his vivid, thoughtful green eyes
  • the way his ears move like antennae when he's trying to listen intently
  • the way he sometimes loses his balance when grooming himself and nearly tips over
  • how he sits like a puffy little duck when he's cold
  • how he vigorously rubs his face against mine to 'kiss' me
  • how he often curls one paw (or both) when sitting
  • how he sits quietly in front of a closed door for hours, just waiting for it to open
  • how he sits huddled in the flower pot outside when waiting for us to let him in
  • how simple things like a laser pointer, rug, or peanut can bring him hours of amusement
  • the whininess of his meows when he gets drenched in the rain
feb 5 2012 ∞
aug 3 2015 +
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  • Mamihlapinatapai (Yaghan) = A look shared between two people, both wishing for something to happen, but neither wanting to initiate
  • Tanzih (Arabic) = Transcendence; "to declare something pure and free of something else"; used to denote the incomparability of God to humans
  • Kaze hikaru (風光る) (Japanese) = "A warm breeze of spring that follows after a dark cold winter, comes and breathes gently upon the skin, as if like a shining radiance.”
  • Nefelibata (Portuguese) = "A cloud walker. An individual who lives in the clouds of her own imagination or dreams. A person who doesn’t abide by the rules of society, literature, or art."
  • Joie de Vivre (French) = "A French phrase often used in English to express a cheerful enjoyment of life; an exultation of spirit"
  • Saudade (Portuguese) = An intense, bittersweet nostalgia; "a deep emotional state of nostalgic longing...
nov 29 2010 ∞
jul 3 2020 +
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  • Carries herself with elegance, grace, and passion
  • Exudes radiance, empathy, and humility
  • Talks passionately and without restraint about the things she believes in and values 
  • Speaks with a blend of humor, softness, intellect, and warmth 
  • Confidently asserts her boundaries and standards
  • Fuels her curiosity like a well-tended flame
  • Is unfailingly loyal and trustworthy to the ones she loves
  • Derives her self-worth from the depth of her relationship with God
  • Is able to be silly and lighthearted around those she's truly comfortable with
  • Is able to express what she wants without shame or hesitation
  • Is true to her morals and values without ...
apr 30 2020 ∞
sep 6 2020 +
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  • Passionate
  • Soft-hearted
  • Warm
  • Playful
  • Tender
  • Free-spirited
  • Intellectually curious
  • Compassionate
  • Idealistic
  • Complex
  • Lively
  • Shy
  • Softspoken
  • Intuitive
  • Affectionate
  • Open-minded
  • Loyal
  • Adventurous
  • Optimistic
  • Independent
  • Spontaneous
nov 5 2010 ∞
oct 10 2020 +
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  • Excessively soft voice that shakes when I'm nervous
  • Notoriously scatter-brained and forgetful
  • Highly prone to having my head in the clouds and forgetting how to communicate & exist in the real world
  • Publicly straight-laced but privately a wild goofball
  • Either extremely calm & quiet or extremely passionate & excitable, with few in-betweens
  • Constantly torn between a desire to connect and a desire to hide
  • Embarrassingly easy to scare because I'm always oblivious to my physical surroundings
  • Embarrassingly prone to laughing at the dumbest things ever when I'm tired
  • Highly prone to lip-biting when lost in thought
aug 1 2018 ∞
sep 5 2020 +
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  • The simple act of listening to someone, without intent to judge or guide or respond, is the most underrated form of giving.
  • Human beings are meant to be experienced, not explained.
  • A huge component of loving someone is helping them actualize their best self while loving them no less at their worst.
  • All-encompassing respect is a crucial prerequisite to any healthy relationship; without it, relationships are meaningless.
  • Many of us spend our lives either afraid of the realities of who we are, or intimidated by the very real possibilities of what we could be.
  • The world isn't a dark place because tons of people are evil. It's dark because tons of people are only as decent as they have to be & don't give a damn about evolving, learning, or contributing beyond th...
dec 4 2011 ∞
aug 7 2020 +
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I love exploring the hidden inner dimensions of who a person is; the emotions and stories they don't readily share, the secret pains & desires that drive them to make the decisions they make. I love getting lost in the complex tangle of another person's soul and experiencing the splendor that can't be seen from the surface. One of the most tender expressions of love for another person is to shed light on that hidden beauty & bring it into focus.

I'm a free-spirit who innately resists rules and boundaries, but I can't help but believe there's something intuitively sacred about modesty; about revealing the entirety of your charm and allure to one person while the rest of the world remains in the dark about those secret parts of you.  It's a form of surrender I find strangely appealing because it suggests a depth of trust and intimacy that binds you...

jul 8 2020 ∞
oct 9 2020 +
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Happiness is a perpetuation of positive thought patterns. It's being habitually attuned to lightness, simplicity, uncomplicatedness. It's the courage to be clear-headed, to bear darkness with patience and composure, to become barren of expectation and blame.

Don't be at war with your own being, even if the object is self-improvement. Growth best occurs as a byproduct of nurture, not aggression.

Don't become an enemy to yourself. In a manner of speaking, you're all you've got- you are your greatest responsibility in this brief life, an unbidden gift. Befriend yourself, protect yourself, and become the most solid, faithful companion of your own finite being.

Once you have embraced your true self, loving others will come naturally. If you turn away from your own being, however, you will only be able to love other people...

jan 14 2014 ∞
oct 9 2020 +
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1. | Describe your personality. :

passionate, warm, playful, soft-hearted, free-spirited, intellectually curious, complex

2. | Define what beauty means to you. :

anything that awakens or moves the soul

3. | Describe your current appearance. :

glassy eyes, silky hair, dewy skin, rosy lips

4. | Describe your appearance overall. :

olive-skinned, dark-haired, slender, petite

5. | Live with __ in your heart. :

gratitude & faith

6. | Inner peace comes one step at a time. Name a step. :

identify your deepest priorities and goals- the ones that truly resonate with your soul and light you up inside- then evaluate how much of your life is geared toward actually fulfilling them

7. | Think about or dream up your signif... :

jul 27 2018 ∞
aug 7 2020 +
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What is your defining characteristic as a person?

  • My softness

What is your favorite virtue?

  • Humility; it's the highest form of human goodness & the heart of all other virtues

What is your idea of earthly happiness?

  • Loved ones, foggy mornings, light rain in spring, mountains, seashores, sunrises, good books, vivid stars, cuddly animals, happy children, thunderstorms, deep intellectual discussions, good films, a warm hearth, long drives, autumn leaves, flowers, meditative walks, beaches, oceans, moonlight, scented candles, beautiful poetry, art, travel, wilderness, healing, softness, wanderlust, gratitude, tranquility, adventure, fulfillment, nights of worship...
jun 22 2012 ∞
jul 3 2020 +
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  • Respect yourself always, without exception
  • Unconditionally trust God, no matter what
  • Be the living embodiment of the truths that guide you
  • Accept & let things go often; be conscious of the baggage you accumulate
  • Seek your beauty in something other than a lens or mirror
  • Be completely real and unfiltered around people who understand and love you; be reserved but good to the rest
  • When your passion wanes, re-immerse yourself in the influences that awaken and move your soul
  • Embody a mixture of femininity, grace, and courage
  • Embrace ideas and beliefs that liberate your soul; abandon all manmade attitudes that weigh it down
oct 26 2013 ∞
may 15 2020 +
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To spend my life in pursuit of God's nearness & become a living reflection of the beauty of His attributes

To deeply love the Ahlulbayt ع & embody their teachings

To keep alive the innate wonder, softness, grace, & strength at the core of my being

To cultivate the ability to find meaning, gratitude, beauty, and possibility in each day

To be dignified, principled, and loyal to my values no matter my surroundings

To live with a healthy balance of integrity, intellect, & playfulness

To approach life with passion, resilience, vivacity, and courage

To create beautiful works of writing & art that bring hope, healing, & insight to the world

To connect deeply with people and make them feel understood and valued

nov 19 2018 ∞
aug 7 2020 +
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  • When his smile reaches his eyes and makes them warmer/softer
  • A well-groomed beard
  • Dark hair & dark eyes
  • Taller than me
  • Slightly muscular arms
  • Soothing/deep voice
  • Glasses optional
  • Shirt sleeves rolled up to his elbows = kryptonite
  • Smells faintly of soap/cologne/aftershave/'itr
  • Classy, understated style


  • When he has a deep love of God and the Ahlulbayt (as)
  • When he has the kind of masculinity that feels safe and protective, rather than threatening or aggressive
jul 27 2018 ∞
sep 12 2020 +